For Escorts: What Makes A Good Or Bad Client?

[lurklurk]

Don't know if this should be another thread but with so many escorts on this site, I've always been curious about what makes the ideal or worst clients. Is it better to be quick and get things over with? Less/more chatter? I know there are lots of variables but just curious in general.

 

[Wwanderer]

Don't know if this should be another thread but with so many escorts on this site, I've always been curious about what makes the ideal or worst clients. Is it better to be quick and get things over with? Less/more chatter? I know there are lots of variables but just curious in general.

A very good question (especially if they'd tell us honestly...which is asking a great deal indeed), but it definitely should be in a separate thread imo.

-Ww

 

[User#8628]

Don't know if this should be another thread but with so many escorts on this site, I've always been curious about what makes the ideal or worst clients. Is it better to be quick and get things over with? Less/more chatter? I know there are lots of variables but just curious in general.

I make it a point that my clients have to be respectful to me. I am a high class escort so fortunately all of the guys i met have been gentlemen to me.
I know a lot of women sometimes have customers that think they can be rude to them because they are paying but that's not ok.
Also appearantly a lot of guys expect to have very rough sex that they can't have with their girlfriend/wife. I offer mostly girlfriend experience and no things like anal so i usually don't get that kind of guys. I think it's not a good expectation of guys. By going too hard on a working girl you can damage her body which is her source of income.
It's better to find a girlfriend who is a bit of a freak in the bedroom so you can have rough, experimental sex with her. A lot of girls are into that actually.
I used to have long, wild , sweaty, aggresive sex with my ex boyfriend. Also including a few slaps and choking. But i wouldn't do such a thing (like choking) with a client i have just met.
It's a little scary.
So anyway, i like respectful behavior and quite casual type of sex. I know a lot of guys are hypocritical and old fashioned in their thinking so it's hard to be respectful to escorts but it helps if they think of the girl as being a student who's doing this for a little extra and not doing this the whole day. I think guys are generally more nice to this type of escort than to girls who work the whole day in a shop. For some reason people have a hard time imagining that sexworkers are also normal people.

As for finishing; yeah, fast without trouble is good. I also don't mind them going on for a while. They are getting service that they paid for so why not?
Things that worry my is if they can't erect or go on for a long time and don't cum at all. But this is more a worry about them not being satisfied than about myself. Although it starts feeling bad when playing for a really long time.

As for talking: if we have a good click i love talking. Most girls will enjoy a good converation with you! One of the things we like about work is meeting new people so we wanna know about your life.
Of course keep as many things private as you want.
But anyway, yes, i really enjoy talking to the guys if we get along well.

 

[meiji]

Yup, good question and needs to be a separate thread.

 

[aleclowe]

A good client in my opinion as a client myself to escorts, is to treat the girl like any other girls you would wanna date, share intimate moments and cuddle up to. With that mentality you would not mistreat or treat the escort like a rag you use to wipe your mouth and then throw away.

Some (in fact many) men treat sex just as a means of semen release and thus treat escorts or working girls in fishbowls (think Thailand) like objects they can abuse or act out their perverted desires they watch in porn, like dick slap the girl' face and shooting a load on the face and have the girl rub it like she really enjoys it etc etc..and then go boast to their friends.

Thankfully many here seem to be respectful to escorts and thus the escorts here engage in good banter with them.

 

[just4fun]

dick slap the girl' face and shooting a load on the face and have the girl rub it like she really enjoys it.

They don't like that? Really?

 

[Manami TMK]

I like guys that respectfully listen to what I tell them. I usually let my clients do what they like to do on me first. But it sometimes too much for me so I tell them to tone down.
I don't say " hey, you! what are you doing, it hurts!" but generally say "It feels good but if you could do in this way, it would make me feel even better"
But some guys just don't listen or tone down for a minute and go back to rough play quickly. In that case, I say "it is a little sored now.." but same result.

I am also not very good to deal with guys who take very long to cum or never cum but don't give up and make me work on them for hours.
They usually get frustrated by themselves not cumming so their play gets harder like push my head really hard onto their thing to make me do deep throat for good 30 minutes or try really hard to make me cum instead by very hard fingering or pinch my nipple so hard.

 

[Solong]

Wouldn't a good client be?

. Have a small penis and/or finishes sex very quickly.

As very easy to go through many such guys.

. Never asks to do anything interesting or requires no skills beyond very vanilla sex.

No anal, no deep throat, no exertion of a lot of energy by her, no fantasy play... Just very basic maneuvers. Again, very simple and easy.

. More submissive personality. The type of guy who is easy to control or do whatever told. More of a pushover, arguably.


. Has lots of money, pays higher than the standard rate, gives tips, easy to ask for extra money or gifts...

 

[Wwanderer]

Wouldn't a good client be?

. Have a small penis and/or finishes sex very quickly.

As very easy to go through many such guys.

. Never asks to doing interesting or requires no skills beyond very vanilla sex.

No anal, no deep throat, no exertion of a lot of energy by her, no fantasy play... Just very basic maneuvers. Again, very simple and easy.

. More submissive personality. The type of guy who is easy to control or do whatever told.

. Has lots of money, pays higher than the standard rate, gives tips, easy to ask for extra money or gifts.

This is the sort of attitude that people who hate their jobs have toward work, of whatever type it might be. They want to make as much money (their only motivation) as possible as quickly as possible with as little effort, challenge, skill requirements, thought etc as possible. They get no sayisfaction from the value of their work to others (specific people or society in general), no pleasure from doing something difficult well, no feeling of accomplishment from excelling in a major life activity etc.

There are indeed many such people in a lot of professions and a variety of "industries". Government bureaucracies typically have way more than their fair share of such workers. Maybe it is how you feel about your own professional life and thus tend to expect it in others...but that is just a speculation on my part.

In any case, many others have a very different attitude towards their working life, including all the better and best escorts I have ever known...including those on TAG whom, I suspect, you may have just insulted.

-Ww

 

[Solong]

This is the sort of attitude that people who hate their jobs have toward work, of whatever type it might be. They want to make as much money (their only motivation) as possible as quickly as possible with as little effort, challenge, skill requirements, thought etc as possible. They get no sayisfaction from the value of their work to others (specific people or society in general), no pleasure from doing something difficult well, no feeling of accomplishment from excelling in a major life activity etc.

There are indeed many such people in a lot of professions and a variety of "industries". Government bureaucracies typically have way more than their fair share of such workers. Maybe it is how you feel about your own professional life and thus tend to expect it in others...but that is just a speculation on my part.

In any case, many others have a very different attitude towards their working life, including all the better and best escorts I have ever known...including those on TAG whom, I suspect, you may have just insulted.

-Ww

Not an insult, but acknowledging the reality of what might be ideal for a provider, can be very different and at odds to what a customer wants or is.

 

[User#6517]

This is just my opinion. Other escorts may not agree with me.

Best clients? Clients who are generous, and treat you with respect. Clients who smile a lot, and have a great sense of humor. Clients who are up-to-date with news/music/etc. (because it gives me a better chance to create more topics to talk about). Clients who are experienced in bed, or who have at least done P4P before. Clients who care about how I feel during sex, and who are willing to stop if I ask them to. In short words, the best clients are the clients who you can easily connect with

Worst clients? Clients who ask for unprotected sex. Clients with bad hygiene, and who refuse the proposal to take a shower prior to service. Clients who have been drinking right before the booking. Clients who have trouble cumming, and want you to keep going, even when the booking has already finished, and don't want to pay for another extra hour. Clients who are aggressive, rude, arrogant, and/or creepy.

Hopefully this helps add to the list.

 

[Manami TMK]

Wouldn't a good client be?

. Have a small penis and/or finishes sex very quickly.

As very easy to go through many such guys.

. Never asks to do anything interesting or requires no skills beyond very vanilla sex.

No anal, no deep throat, no exertion of a lot of energy by her, no fantasy play... Just very basic maneuvers. Again, very simple and easy.

. More submissive personality. The type of guy who is easy to control or do whatever told. More of a pushover, arguably.


. Has lots of money, pays higher than the standard rate, gives tips, easy to ask for extra money or gifts...

I would like to be respected so I always respect them first. Otherwies you don't deserve it.

I have seen the Japanese gentleman for years that fits all of them above besides "easy to ask for extra money or gifts" as I never ask anybody for extra money or gifts.
We see each other three time a month and each date is usually three hours or longer. The best reason why I feel comfortable to spend time with him is because he really enjoy talking with me.
For actual play in bed, he can do twice but each play doesn't last longer than 10 minutes. If he was not a good conversationalist, I would not take long hour appointment three time a month.

 

[Anna Summer]

I think there is nothing more to add because @User#8628 and @Ayaka already said everything and I feel the same about this topic.

 

[User#8628]

Wouldn't a good client be?

. Have a small penis and/or finishes sex very quickly.

As very easy to go through many such guys.

. Never asks to do anything interesting or requires no skills beyond very vanilla sex.

No anal, no deep throat, no exertion of a lot of energy by her, no fantasy play... Just very basic maneuvers. Again, very simple and easy.

. More submissive personality. The type of guy who is easy to control or do whatever told. More of a pushover, arguably.


. Has lots of money, pays higher than the standard rate, gives tips, easy to ask for extra money or gifts...

A lot of Japanese are like that.

I don't think what SoLong said is an insult to escorts or something, of course it's less heavy for our body and more easy if a guy is like this.

Doesn't mean i dislike clients who are not like this either.
As long as they are respectful and don't hurt me they are good clients to me.

 

[User#8628]

A good client in my opinion as a client myself to escorts, is to treat the girl like any other girls you would wanna date, share intimate moments and cuddle up to. With that mentality you would not mistreat or treat the escort like a rag you use to wipe your mouth and then throw away.

Some (in fact many) men treat sex just as a means of semen release and thus treat escorts or working girls in fishbowls (think Thailand) like objects they can abuse or act out their perverted desires they watch in porn, like dick slap the girl' face and shooting a load on the face and have the girl rub it like she really enjoys it etc etc..and then go boast to their friends.

Thankfully many here seem to be respectful to escorts and thus the escorts here engage in good banter with them.

I mostly agree with this but i dont think experimenting with a little more "perverted" sex is very bad.
A lot of people experiment with things they see in porn with their (open minded) girlfriends. It's a kind of curiosity.
If a guy is generally kind and respectful during the session i wouldn't mind he wants to try COF. I also wouldn't mind if i have a boyfriend that we try something like COF a few times, although i would be a little weirded out if he always wants to cum on my face after play, lol.
Experimenting with sex is not bad, unless it is something that hurts the other person or that they don't agree to.

 

[User#8628]

I like guys that respectfully listen to what I tell them. I usually let my clients do what they like to do on me first. But it sometimes too much for me so I tell them to tone down.
I don't say " hey, you! what are you doing, it hurts!" but generally say "It feels good but if you could do in this way, it would make me feel even better"
But some guys just don't listen or tone down for a minute and go back to rough play quickly. In that case, I say "it is a little sored now.." but same result.

I am also not very good to deal with guys who take very long to cum or never cum but don't give up and make me work on them for hours.
They usually get frustrated by themselves not cumming so their play gets harder like push my head really hard onto their thing to make me do deep throat for good 30 minutes or try really hard to make me cum instead by very hard fingering or pinch my nipple so hard.

Aww that sounds horrible!

 

[vck_js]

Worst clients? [...] Clients with bad hygiene, and who refuse the proposal to take a shower prior to service

This x100. The service at my shop is very soft (well, at least for the providers) and yet i am very disturbed when a customer lacks in the hygiene department, so i can't even imagine how hard it must be for escorts.
Even though i always tell them that i'll start the timer once they return from shower, a lot of customers seems to imagine that "taking a shower" equals "fastly rinsing your dick with water". Which doesn't do much for body odor or smelly armpits >_<

 

[User#8628]

The thing is that an escort usually decides her price by (except looking at the going rates) thinking of how many clients she wants to have/can have, and looking at the demand, deciding what she wants to earn and then balancing her price in a way that she gets enough clients to make her targeted earning and that she doesn't have much more requests than she can handle.

So then she has a price that she is comfortable with and for that price she gives a physical service that takes energy. There are guys that are small and finish very quick and spend the rest of the time talking like Ayaka described. Unless talking to them is not so fun and emotionally draining they can be viewed as "easy" customers. Easier than the expectation we have.
Then there are the normal ones who don't come quick but just take a normal time. If a woman enjoys the job she will also view them as good clients and have a good time with them.
Then there are difficult guys that Ayaka described. They make the escort sore and it's not so fun. The escort will generally try hard to please them buy may choose not to repeat with them if they are too difficult.
If a guy is disrespectful we will certianly not enjoy it, no matter his size or if he finishes quick or not.

 

[Soapysoap66]

I'm always flabbergasted that a buyer of sex thinks that they get to do whatever the fuck they want because they paid and now they suddenly own the other person?
No, you don't get to do shit. It's their body and their terms. Respect and communication is critical.

I know this might be a bit of a difficult question to answer, but do you providers feel the same towards customers as I sometimes do towards providers?
That you are a bit sad that they choose (or sometimes didn't even get to choose) to do p4p, but you are grateful that they do?

Are you disappointed (or worse) in us?

The reason I ask is that there is a social general stigma against people selling sex, so it's interesting to me what the people on that side feel towards the buyers.
Of course the answer will be different for everyone depending on their situation, but it's interesting to me.

Btw, you guys like my avatar? It's inspired by Alice's avatar.

 

[User#8628]

I'm always flabbergasted that a buyer of sex thinks that they get to do whatever the fuck they want because they paid and now they suddenly own the other person?
No, you don't get to do shit. It's their body and their terms. Respect and communication is critical.

I know this might be a bit of a difficult question to answer, but do you providers feel the same towards customers as I sometimes do towards providers?
That you are a bit sad that they choose (or sometimes didn't even get to choose) to do p4p, but you are grateful that they do?

Are you disappointed (or worse) in us?

The reason I ask is that there is a social general stigma against people selling sex, so it's interesting to me what the people on that side feel towards the buyers.
Of course the answer will be different for everyone depending on their situation, but it's interesting to me.

Btw, you guys like my avatar? It's inspired by Alice's avatar.

Those are some lovely boobs.

Personally i have heard some reasons why guys do p4p but i can't always understand it and each case is probably different.
I think feeling sorry for a consumer/profider highly depends how comfortable they are in their position. There is no reason to feel sorry for a girl who's enjoying herself but someone who obviously needs the money badly and isn't really comfortable in the job is kinda sad. Same with guys, a man who has a lot of money and is looking for an uncomplicated, enjoyable luxury service doesn't cause me pity but a lonely guy who keeps spending all the money he earns on a girl he's obsessed with and doesn't do other enjoyable things in his life is pretty worrysome.

Maybe in a perfect world p4p (or even money at all) wouldn't exist, and there are definitely downsides. But viewing humans' nature and needs there is nothing wrong with p4p, there are a lot of people willingly participating and enjoying it. Social judgement is a pain in the ass. If everyone was open minded about it but would actively look out to stop the bad sides like human trafficing from happening we would all have it better.

 

[Wwanderer]

Social judgement is a pain in the ass.

This.

Though actually I think you put it far too mildly; imo social judgement of consensual private personal adult behavior is a major cause of needless unhappiness and serious emotional pain. And it has tons of negative consequences. You know all this better than I do, of course...just commenting to everyone more generally.

-Ww

 

[Soapysoap66]

The cool thing with you girls doing the escort thing is that you could theoretically turn down clients and be in total control, though I'm not sure if that is acceptable or not in the trade.

 

[Anna Summer]

I also think that media is extremely looking down on sex workers even tho there is a high percentage who really likes it. It's not always that we are getting forced to do it but nobody seems to believe.
When I was new with escorting I searched thorough the Internet for some advice and I'd say 90% of what I read, people were so against sex work and saying things like: as a sex worker you can never have a relationship again or nobody will ever marry you because of it.
Bullshit! Maybe there are providers who completely lost theirselfs but there are also so many who enjoy what they do.

I pretty much agree with what @User#8628 said about clients.

 

[Wwanderer]

The cool thing with you girls doing the escort thing is that you could theoretically turn down clients and be in total control, though I'm not sure if that is acceptable or not in the trade.

Conventional escorts can definitely turn down clients and many do so routinely, sometimes at the last minute. It is particularly common for independents to do so. Obviously there are no fixed rules; the individual escorts just decide for themselves by whatever criteria they wish. However, my impression is that the norm is that escorts decline clients for fairly specific reasons directly related to sexual activity such as poor hygiene, excessive drunkenness, too rough, disrespectful attitude or behavior etc...rather than simply because they find them unattractive or boring or due to political disagreements etc.

Sugar babies can and very often do reject potential sugar daddies for reasons much more similar to those that come up in conventional dating. Indeed, if you read the part of the profiles of SA sugar babies where they describe what they are looking for in a sugar daddy, many of them read exactly like the way women on conventional dating sites describe their ideal matches and so forth.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Maybe there are providers who completely lost theirselfs but there are also so many who enjoy what they do.

A long time ago I realized that there are sex workers who accept and internalize "straight" society's view of commercial sex and feel terrible about their jobs and have extremely low opinions of themselves or see themselves as desperate and "bad" people. There is also a group that rejects or simple cares nothing about the social stigmatization and evaluates sex work by their own standards and values. Many of this group have chosen sex work voluntarily from among a number of other life-options they have; they may dislike some aspects of the work, but typically they like many things about it, and it does indeed have numerous big advantages.

For a client/monger, one of these groups is ENORMOUSLY more fun and satisfying than the other. Can anyone guess which group that is??

-Ww