Formal Japanese?

[qqqqqq]

Hello! typing from phone so lmk if formatting is ok.

I'm 25, virgin (lol), white dude, in Tokyo rn. I was going to try incall because I don't believe I have the Japanese proficiency to schedule a girl, LH, and train to be on time. I'm around N4 level (kanji yomenai).

I wanted to ask, what level of formality do you use with soapland girls? I've only ever used Japanese with friends so I've completely forgotten teineigo. I only recently learned it was rude to "aru" store workers instead of "arimasu". I've been doing it this whole time hahaha.

Please do let me know! And is soapland the right move? Or should I try something else.

 

[TAG Manager]

The more important question is how you got in with that username.

 

[Cinnabums]

Soapland is the right move and use the Japanese you know or go to one of the shops that are fine with non Japanese speakers.

Plenty of reviews available.

 

[qqqqqq]

Soapland is the right move and use the Japanese you know or go to one of the shops that are fine with non Japanese speakers.

Plenty of reviews available.

Thank you!! My Japanese isn't terrible, just curious if I should -masu or not?

 

[MikeH]

Thank you!! My Japanese isn't terrible, just curious if I should -masu or not?

Even if you use gozasōrō it probably won't make any difference.

 

[Cinnabums]

Thank you!! My Japanese isn't terrible, just curious if I should -masu or not?

No need to be formal with the girls.

 

[YokoMonger]

Just assume you're on friendly and casual terms with anyone that's bouncing up and down on your dick. Just be nice and take care of your hygiene.

 

[qqqqqq]

Thank you for the info everyone!

 

[leducul]

The more important question is how you got in with that username.

Might be French for: ass ass ass ass...

 

[Sudsy]

Might be French for: ass ass ass ass...

Hey. We already have a French ass.

 

[CharlieSimms]

タメロ is not generally well received for first-time interactions with any kind of person. It’s rather low class. Of course you may get a pass as a smelly hairy knuckle dragging overreacting heathen.

 

[Alice]

I think soapland girls usually either aim to be GFE or act like the customer is king. So you are ok speaking casually in either scenario.

 

[CharlieSimms]

I think soapland girls usually either aim to be GFE or act like the customer is king. So you are ok speaking casually in either scenario.

I would not recommend that when first approaching one in written form. Many have notes in their Twitters describing how that is the way to get no response back from them.

 

[Alice]

I would not recommend that when first approaching one in written form. Many have notes in their Twitters describing how that is the way to get no response back from them.

Written and spoken Japanese are completely different. Usually it’s awkward to use “masu” in a casual conversation, but yes it would be normal when writing to someone you haven’t met before.

But if they are willing to see foreigners I think they should give a free pass to people with less than perfect language. Although a Japanese friend scolded me for using “too formal” language with her when chatting online quite a few years ago. Like I meant anything distant by that, I just thought I was being nice. 😅

 

[CharlieSimms]

Yeah it’s all in the nonverbal cues as well. If clearly you are just being genuinely friendly it’s all good. Whereas if the perception is you are talking down and being a dickhead then different. Many oyajis come across this way.

Generally what I do when meeting a provider for the first time is do my introductions and first chit chat with 敬語 and then switch it to casual when I can see the lady is more comfortable with me. Sure, prolonging 敬語 with a gal half my age I am getting it on with would be a bit awkward. It’s only that first 2-3 minutes I think is the different part. And again the nonverbal and delivery is really important there too. Could very well be skipped with a very genuinely friendly presence.

 

[MikeH]

Usually it’s awkward to use “masu” in a casual conversation

That is why I always use the "de gozaru" instead.

Although a Japanese friend scolded me for using “too formal” language with her when chatting online quite a few years ago.

The only time they caught me being foreigner while ordering delivery health was when I was being too polite. Seems most Japanese guys resort to grunts and mumbles when ordering.

 

[CharlieSimms]

The only time they caught me being foreigner while ordering delivery health was when I was being too polite. Seems most Japanese guys resort to grunts and mumbles when ordering.

Indeed. I have never been caught ordering drunk..

 

[MikeH]

Indeed. I have never been caught ordering drunk..

This is the way™ (©2022 by @CharlieSimms)

 

[Zero4real]

No need to be formal with the girls.

Hmmmm, but what if she's 20+ years older than you? I can also only do teineigo. Other keigos are beyond me

 

[Cinnabums]

Hmmmm, but what if she's 20+ years older than you? I can also only do teineigo. Other keigos are beyond me

Yes, I highly recommend using teinego with your grandmother

 

[Zero4real]

Yes, I highly recommend using teinego with your grandmother

Grandmothers need love too, I just want to give it to them politely

 

[Airnest]

Grandmothers need love too, I just want to give it to them politely

Look for a grandmother you like here. 😉https://uguisudani-kareiya.tokyo/

 

[Fukuoka Jones]

Just assume you're on friendly and casual terms with anyone that's bouncing up and down on your dick.

There's a hot porn where the actress plays the yakuza boss and she fucks her crew, and she's all "da ze" & "zo" and rolling her Rs, while the dudes are all desu and masu even when they are balls deep.

 

[kirayamato]

There's a hot porn where the actress plays the yakuza boss and she fucks her crew, and she's all "da ze" & "zo" and rolling her Rs, while the dudes are all desu and masu even when they are balls deep.

what is the title or code? for research purpose.

 

[kirayamato]

Look for a grandmother you like here. 😉https://uguisudani-kareiya.tokyo/

I filter the cast using cute category and not disappointed
https://uguisudani-kareiya.tokyo/krc_type/cute/