Gaijin's Myth In Japan

[Uriel]

What's up guys, as the title says you may know about the myth that a gaijin in Japan got it really easy with J-girls for dating and getting laid, or so they say xD.

First things first, i don't pretend to make any offense or sound like a pervert, i'm just curious. I want to know how things work there, that's all.

I've never been in Japan, but from what i've read when people say a gaijin has high chances to get laid with a J-girl i noticed they usually refer to this gaijin as a white western man (blue eyes, blond hair), it seem J-girls have preference with this kind of foreigners for some reason (Hollywood i guess). The thing is, i'm not white, i'm hispanic and i don't have blue eyes or blonde hair xD. Also i've heard black men don't have it just that easy :/, but i'm not black either. I'm planning on going to Japan very soon and i have some questions, i'd appreciate if you guys help me out here.

1- Do hispanic men have good chances to get a date (or get laid) with a J-girl?

2- I heard J-girls like tall men, i'm at 187cm height, but since Japanese people are way shorter than us westerners, i might be too tall for their likes?

3- As far as i know, Roppongi is the best place to pick up J-girls who are usually looking for foreigners, which is the best way to approach these women? I'm usually very direct, cause that's the best way to go from where i'm from.

4- As a latin, are there any specific clubs in Roppongi where my chances could be higher/lower? e.g. I've heard black guys do it better in clubs with hip hop music.

5- Is it possible to take a J-girl from Roppongi to a Love Hotel the same night you meet her?

6- Let's say i get a date with a J-girl, how long does it take for the first kiss?, in most western countries you can do that the first date, of course not always works like that, but it is VERY possible.

7- So i got the kissed in the first/second/etc date, now what? how long does it take from here to take her to the Love Hotel? should i ask her? are there any sighs that tell me she wants to have sex? I know these may be some silly questions but hey, we're talking about Japan here.

8- How do i know i might end up having sex with a J-girl?, i mean that i'm not just a toy (i know J-girls are pretty famous for taking foreigners as toy or just to practice english)

9- I'm 23 years old, is it possible for me to have sex/date with a J-girl about 30?, i know they are vulnerable (desperate or running out of options) since J-guys like younger women. I also know J-women look younger than they really are xD

Well tha would be all, i'd really appreciate any answer.

 

[Uriel]

Here's a pic of myself, its just for let you know what type of latin i am.

I don't want to be arrogant here but i'm really good at socializing with girls, i'm good at picking up girls too but of course i've been rejected more than once jaja, i just don't really care about that. I'm the kind of guy who really enjoy talking to girls and trying to pick them up.

 

[Asylm57]

Based on my experience, coming here does not increase nor does it decrease your chances to get laid or have a girlfriend. It all depends on you and the type of girl you're looking for...every type of girl exists here like they do every where else in the world. They have their own preferences the same way you do.
If you wanna bang, look for the girl that wants to bang...if you want a girlfriend look for the girl that wants a boyfriend.
Don't expect them to be throwing themselves at you. If it didn't happen at home it's not going to happen here.

 

[oppai_seijin]

well said @Asylm57

 

[psd]

I don't know if anyone is really going to answer your questions because I feel the same way as the above two guys. I know guys with all the advantages, speak perfect Japanese, tall, strong, good jobs, and they are totally useless with girls. Me, with almost nothing going for me (except strong and fit), jabbering away in ridiculous child like Japanese, does very well.

In fact tonight I accidentally cock-blocked one the golden boys, I was doing my best to ignore this girl he is really into but she kept at me.

 

[psd]

A couple of things I'll add.

In some parts of Japan there were large populations of Brazilians - they were not particularly popular.

There are some good threads around on nampa (picking up girls). But one thing I can tell you. Japanese do not touch in public. If you get too physical with girls you will lose them immediately - especially in front of her friends.

 

[sxian]

I don't live in Japan but I've visited half a dozen times (and I'm going tomorrow!) and do my best to pick up girls when I'm there and in my limited experience, I've noticed that (1) the game works pretty much the same in Japan as it does where you're from - if you know how to talk to girls at home, you can do it in Japan, but (2) don't underestimate the language barrier. A lot of guys rely on humor to charm girls and humor doesn't translate well. Also, if you get a date and you don't speak Japanese, what will you talk about?

As for places to go, I'd recommend the Roppongi bars (even though I know some guys here might not) because a lot of the girls who go there are looking for foreigners. As for kisses and love hotels, it depends on the girl and how things are going. Pretty much like any other date. You might get lucky on a first date. Last bit of advice: avoid going anywhere with or recommended by any of the African touts. If the bug you, just say "I'm on my way to meet my wife" and keep walking. Also, be aware that there are girls in Roppongi who only want you to buy them drinks and some of them I suspect have deals with bars to receive kickbacks when you buy expensive bottles. Big scam.

 

[Uriel]

Based on my experience, coming here does not increase nor does it decrease your chances to get laid or have a girlfriend. It all depends on you and the type of girl you're looking for...every type of girl exists here like they do every where else in the world. They have their own preferences the same way you do.
If you wanna bang, look for the girl that wants to bang...if you want a girlfriend look for the girl that wants a boyfriend.
Don't expect them to be throwing themselves at you. If it didn't happen at home it's not going to happen here.

It's funny but the last thing i have on my mind before going to Japan is me getting laid/dates with J girls, i didn't even know they like strangers. I just made my little research on the internet about Japan and i found out about this myth that everyone mentions, any blog or forum, it's everywhere.

So i decided to do a thorough investigation on the subject and guess what? Most of people agree that J girls are easy :/

 

[Uriel]

I don't live in Japan but I've visited half a dozen times (and I'm going tomorrow!) and do my best to pick up girls when I'm there and in my limited experience, I've noticed that (1) the game works pretty much the same in Japan as it does where you're from - if you know how to talk to girls at home, you can do it in Japan, but (2) don't underestimate the language barrier. A lot of guys rely on humor to charm girls and humor doesn't translate well. Also, if you get a date and you don't speak Japanese, what will you talk about?

As for places to go, I'd recommend the Roppongi bars (even though I know some guys here might not) because a lot of the girls who go there are looking for foreigners. As for kisses and love hotels, it depends on the girl and how things are going. Pretty much like any other date. You might get lucky on a first date. Last bit of advice: avoid going anywhere with or recommended by any of the African touts. If the bug you, just say "I'm on my way to meet my wife" and keep walking. Also, be aware that there are girls in Roppongi who only want you to buy them drinks and some of them I suspect have deals with bars to receive kickbacks when you buy expensive bottles. Big scam.

I thought the game works kind of different in Japan since i've seen lots of people comment about how an ugly (even nerd) western guy can easily pick up a nice J girl. I mean i've even read testimonies of guys who actually admit how they were a total failure back home but in Japan they feel like superstars, like they don't ever get rejected. However, i also know about the "gaijins hunters" or those girls who only use foreigners to practice english, etc. Based in what i've investigated so far, i know there are any kind Japanese girls just like in anywhere else, but i just thought it was easier for western foreigners to get laid/dates with J girls (based in what i've investigated so far)

As for me, i do it pretty well here, so am i suppose to think that in Japan will be the same?

Btw, those girls who go to Roppongi don't talk English?, i thought most of them do since they are looking for foreigners. I just know some Japanese words and i don't think i can improve significantly before the trip, damn. Speaking Japanese gives you a great advantage, i know that. And who are those Africans?, never heard of them xD