Ghosted or not?

Simonka said:
You’re having a client perspective, and I’m trying to emphatize with that.
As much as our opinions clash time to time, I don’t think you’re a potentially dangerous man. However us girls, we occasionally have to deal with some creepy people.
Please try to walk in our shoes: I’ve been a woman for nearly 30 years. I’ve had my first stalker at the age of 12, and I had learned (the hard way) it’s best to avoid *any* contact with predators. Anything you might say will trigger them and they are not predictable. The same thing goes for escorting.

My website clarifies my prices are not up for negotiation and I do not tolerate invasion of my privacy. Anyone with the willingness to find out why they are being ignored can read my FAQ page. You’re welcome to think I’m being unprofessional. I would rather be unprofessional than turning myself into an open target for online harassment.
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Weird question probably, but have you been ever ghosted by a regular, on the opposite?
 
To be honest, I have used the classic "Oh I am having my period on that day so I won't be able to see you." excuse many years ago. But they ALWAYS come back again at some point until you make it clear why you don't want to meet them again.

Now when I get an inquiry from a repeating client whom I am not willing to see again, I tell them the reason straightforward why I don't want to.
Most times they understand and respect my decision but sometimes it is difficult. Some of them even contact me again an year later pretending this is their first time to contact me.

I had a client who was simply too rough. I told him during the session to tone down. He said OK but he did the same thing in 30 seconds. It was a difficult date.
He came back next week to book me again so I clearly told him that he was too rough and I didn't like it. He said he would be more careful. Fine, I decided to see him again but the result was the same.
He came back again about a month later. This time II explained what exactly made me think I didn't want to see him again in professional way of course. His next message said he had so many other escorts he could call but he had specifically chosen me to spend money on so I should appreciate him. His message was concluded with "I will give you a chance to meet me and apologize."
I didn't reply. So yeah I have ghosted if this is what you mean by ghosting.

Another case with a new client is when he showed too much interest in bbfs. He asked me if I could provide bbfs. I said no. He said he was OK wirth covered FS but also asked if it is OK with me to remove a condom right before and cum on my body. As long as it is covered during intercourse, I am fine with COB so I said yes. After we confirmed all the detail, he casually asked me when my next period would be.
Probably he was still planning to do bbfs secretly maybe while doggy so I told him that I would cancel our appointment as I didn't feel safe to meet him. He sent me a few more messages trying to change my mind but my decision was solid. I am not going to see him period and he tries to change my mind. I didn't want to waste both of our time into endless conversation so I stopped replying him after a few more messages.

As a professional escort, I don't ghost without any explanation.
 
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Manami TMK said:
To be honest, I have used the classic "Oh I am having my period on that day so I won't be able to see you." excuse many years ago. But they ALWAYS come back again at some point until you make it clear why you don't want to meet them again.

Now when I get an inquiry from a repeating client whom I am not willing to see again, I tell them the reason straightforward why I don't want to.
Most times they understand and respect my decision but sometimes it is difficult. Some of them even contact me again an year later pretending this is their first time to contact me.

I had a client who was simply too rough. I told him during the session to tone down. He said OK but he did the same thing in 30 seconds. It was a difficult date.
He came back next week to book me again so I clearly told him that he was too rough and I didn't like it. He said he would be more careful. Fine, I decided to see him again but the result was the same.
He came back again about a month later. This time II explained what exactly made me think I didn't want to see him again in professional way of course. His next message said he had so many other escorts he could call but he had specifically chosen me to spend money on so I should appreciate him. His message was concluded with "I will give you a chance to meet me and apologize."
I didn't reply. So yeah I have ghosted if this is what you mean by ghosting.

Another case with a new client is when he showed too much interest in bbfs. He asked me if I could provide bbfs. I said no. He said he was OK wirth covered FS but also asked if it is OK with me to remove a condom right before and cum on my body. As long as it is covered during intercourse, I am fine with COB so I said yes. After we confirmed all the detail, he casually asked me when my next period would be.
Probably he was still planning to do bbfs secretly maybe while doggy so I told him that I would cancel our appointment as I didn't feel safe to meet him. He sent me a few more messages trying to change my mind but my decision was solid. I am not going to see him period and he tries to change my mind. I didn't want to waste both of our time into endless conversation so I stopped replying him after a few more messages.

As a professional escort, I don't ghost without any explanation.
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Sorry for you Manami. These are truely bad men. Respect for providing the explanation beforehand.
 
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Frenchy said:
Weird question probably, but have you been ever ghosted by a regular, on the opposite?
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May I ask what exactly do you mean by ghosting? Do you mean them moving on to a different SW?

I don’t know? Lol. I like reading reviews of other SW written by my repeat clients tho, because I genuinely want them to be happy and have fun. I’m not the jealous or competitive type I guess.

Everything comes to an end so I would expect this to happen eventually. I wouldn’t have any hard feelings. :)

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Manami TMK said:
To be honest, I have used the classic "Oh I am having my period on that day so I won't be able to see you." excuse many years ago. But they ALWAYS come back again at some point until you make it clear why you don't want to meet them again.

Now when I get an inquiry from a repeating client whom I am not willing to see again, I tell them the reason straightforward why I don't want to.
Most times they understand and respect my decision but sometimes it is difficult. Some of them even contact me again an year later pretending this is their first time to contact me.

I had a client who was simply too rough. I told him during the session to tone down. He said OK but he did the same thing in 30 seconds. It was a difficult date.
He came back next week to book me again so I clearly told him that he was too rough and I didn't like it. He said he would be more careful. Fine, I decided to see him again but the result was the same.
He came back again about a month later. This time II explained what exactly made me think I didn't want to see him again in professional way of course. His next message said he had so many other escorts he could call but he had specifically chosen me to spend money on so I should appreciate him. His message was concluded with "I will give you a chance to meet me and apologize."
I didn't reply. So yeah I have ghosted if this is what you mean by ghosting.

Another case with a new client is when he showed too much interest in bbfs. He asked me if I could provide bbfs. I said no. He said he was OK wirth covered FS but also asked if it is OK with me to remove a condom right before and cum on my body. As long as it is covered during intercourse, I am fine with COB so I said yes. After we confirmed all the detail, he casually asked me when my next period would be.
Probably he was still planning to do bbfs secretly maybe while doggy so I told him that I would cancel our appointment as I didn't feel safe to meet him. He sent me a few more messages trying to change my mind but my decision was solid. I am not going to see him period and he tries to change my mind. I didn't want to waste both of our time into endless conversation so I stopped replying him after a few more messages.

As a professional escort, I don't ghost without any explanation.
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Is “I’m on my period” a common excuse amongst escorts in Japan? Because when I say it, I almost always mean it.. I wouldn’t want my clients to think I’m trying to ghost them while I’m at home watching videos of soldiers reuniting with their dogs and wiping my tears :D
 
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Frenchy said:
Weird question probably, but have you been ever ghosted by a regular, on the opposite?
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It is slightly different situation but when I was working at a Japanese agency, this repeating client made an advanced booking. I visited his hotel room. he opened the door and as soon as he gave me a glance,
he waved, shook his head and closed off the door. I was like "!?"
I called up the office and explained what just happened. The telephone operator was like "え？本指名のご予約ですよ？”＝What? He is your repeat. He made an advanced booking with you." I know. That face looked very familiar to me, too. She told me to stay at a hotel while she talked to him over the phone. She called me again 5 minutes later,apologize big time and told me to come back to the office.
I thought he tried to book somebody else from the same shop but accidentally gave them a wrong name but later I found out that he did the same thing to other girl, too. I don't understand him but he was a bit weird from the first time anyway. He looked in his 70's, never married and the reason why he stays single is "If I got married, I would have to take care of her. It would cost me money. I would much prefer to use my own money on professional women. Don't you agree?" ....err, not really?
 
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Simonka said:
May I ask what exactly do you mean by ghosting? Do you mean them moving on to a different SW?

I don’t know? Lol. I like reading reviews of other SW written by my repeat clients tho, because I genuinely want them to be happy and have fun.

Everything comes to an end so I would expect this to happen eventually. I wouldn’t have any hard feelings. :)

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Say you meet a guy every week , text with him often, and suddenly you dont get any sign of life.
 
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Simonka said:
Is “I’m on my period” a common excuse amongst escorts in Japan? Because when I say it, I almost always mean it.. I wouldn’t want my clients to think I’m trying to ghost them while I’m at home watching videos of soldiers reuniting with their dogs and wiping my tears :D
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That's the most common excuse at shops in Japan:D
Almost all agencies I worked with in past use it.
 
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Simonka said:
Is “I’m on my period” a common excuse amongst escorts in Japan? Because when I say it, I almost always mean it.. I wouldn’t want my clients to think I’m trying to ghost them while I’m at home watching videos of soldiers reuniting with their dogs and wiping my tears :D
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When I have my period and cannot confirm a booking, I usually suggest alternative day to let them know indirectly it is not that I am making excuse. ;)
 
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Manami TMK said:
When I have my period and cannot confirm a booking, I usually suggest alternative day to let them know indirectly it is not that I am making excuse. ;)
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I do the same, but if a client is in town for less than a week, then the alternative doesn’t work.. :( I’m wondering if I accidentally made anybody feel excluded lol.
 
Simonka said:
I do the same, but if a client is in town for less than a week, then the alternative doesn’t work.. :( I’m wondering if I accidentally made anybody feel excluded lol.
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At least is better than no response!
 
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jhingy567 said:
Is period reaally such a dealbreaker for sex? I don't mind a bit of blood :vamp: (no daty though).
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If period blood grosses out anybody please don’t read the following:




I think it depends on the individual and her period flow. Heavy flow might be a bit messy. My first couple days is a bit painful, I also don’t feel attractive due to bloating but after that I’m fine.
However period is blood, and coming into contact with someone’s blood may increase risk of HIV transmission. I wouldn’t want anyone to stress over STDs after our appointment. (STD thread is full of people who didn’t think before taking action, and I don’t want any client to regret their decision & panic)
 
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Thanks all for your input on this. I am still relatively new to this so I'm not sure what type of mindset to go with.

I guess it would be wise to ask SP the expectation before committing to becoming a regular haha.

Now to twist things up:

Would you consider ghosting good clients that are the following ?

1) never negotiate with your rates
2) respecting boundaries
3) surprises you alot
 
Simonka said:
May I ask what exactly do you mean by ghosting? Do you mean them moving on to a different SW?

I don’t know? Lol. I like reading reviews of other SW written by my repeat clients tho, because I genuinely want them to be happy and have fun. I’m not the jealous or competitive type I guess.

Everything comes to an end so I would expect this to happen eventually. I wouldn’t have any hard feelings. :)

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Good on you, @Simonka.
I’ve recently dealt with someone who may be the jealous or competitive type.
We saw each other periodically the past year. She’s lovely, fashionable, educated and kind, with a great sense of humour.
Then one day she sent me some angry text messages, which basically said she was seriously pissed off after learning that I dated another lady at her agency during a week I was in Tokyo.
She knows I’ve used the same agency before we met, so I tried to explain as calmly and logically as I could that nothing has changed in terms of seeing each other again.
Her response: “Goodbye!” No more contact after that. I’ve suddenly become persona non grata.
Got ghosted again in Japan.
 
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Majestyk said:
Good on you, @Simonka.
Then one day she sent me some angry text messages, which basically said she was seriously pissed off after learning that I dated another lady at her agency during a week I was in Tokyo.
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Sorry to hear that.
I didn’t even overreact when I found out my bf had been visiting Gotanda shops. Men will be men.
But being a troll I welcomed him with a “Ni Hao” for a week :D Also offered back rubs for 10k which he had to finally accept to shut me up.
 
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Simonka said:
Sorry to hear that.
I didn’t even overreact when I found out my bf had been visiting Gotanda shops. Men will be men.
But being a troll I welcomed him with a “Ni Hao” for a week :D
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Now that’s nicely done.
 
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Simonka said:
Sorry to hear that.
I didn’t even overreact when I found out my bf had been visiting Gotanda shops. Men will be men.
But being a troll I welcomed him with a “Ni Hao” for a week :D Also offered back rubs for 10k which he had to finally accept to shut me up.
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Lol! Good one!
 
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