Giving gifts?

[ShibaKen]

I was wondering if giving gifts to delivery or soap girls is frowned upon? Are the girls allowed to accept them?

If not, are there any suggestions for good gifts?

 

[Simonka]

I don't think so. Girls are always happy to receive such gestures.

A few gift ideas and price points:

Perfume (2000-6000 yen)
Brand lipsticks (Mac, Shu Uemura etc) (around 3000 yen)
Quality stockings (May change between 1000-3000 yen) Medium size for up to 165 cm and LL for girls over 170. Or just go for thigh highs with lace ornaments
Bath and body works products from the body shop, lush or loccitaine (maybe 2000-5000 yen for a set or a single item depending on what you get. We need a lot of lotion to retain moisture in our skin after taking a dozen showers throughout the week

I think they all receive a lot of chocolates so maybe don't go for chocolates. I also enjoy small gifts like tea, fruits or even some book of your recommendation. Being thoughtful is more important.

If you want to splurge, you may purchase a set of lingerie. Japanese girls usually prefer Salute. Better to ask their size first.

 

[BIPSY]

In my experience most are happy to receive a thoughtful gift. I've never heard of a shop not allowing it.

That said I usually wait until at least my second time meeting a girl before I give her something - lots of guys will bring a gift the first time around but I feel like its a bit more personal that way.

Simonka mentioned girls get a lot of chocolate/snacks and as such that might not be the best option - from looking at a large enough selection of girls' blogs I do get that impression. But I still tend to give snacks myself. I haven't met too many girls who don't like sweets at least to some degree and, worst case scenario, even if they don't they can share them with the other girls at the shop.

But since they probably do receive quite a lot and also may not want to overload on carbs I always go for quality over quantity - a small box of really nice chocolates from like Pierre Marcolini or Jean-Paul Hevin or, if you know they like them, macarons from La Duree, etc (careful because those need to be refrigerated). Body care products like lotion are a good one too - Sabon has some pretty nice stuff.

Another good option is something like a Starbucks card. Its not quite as fancy but it is practical, easy to give and most girls would be able to get some use out of it.

 

[User#8628]

I agree with all the suggestions here, i’d say its a pretty complete picture.

I personally love chocolate and cakes but i find it a bit ironic that guys complain about sexworkers being fat, yet they give them sweets as a gift, go figure, haha!

 

[Simonka]

I am not supposed to eat chocolates and I'm not the biggest chocolate fan anyway so I would prefer fruit assortments instead, but still if I receive them I'll share them with friends We can make great use of fruits during playtime as well Just make sure they're sliced because I don't think rubbing a whole apple on my boobs would be sexy lol
Body butters from body shop are very good moisturizers. I think I go through one of them every two weeks.
I've recently received a perfume, and l like to wear it quite often

 

[Majestyk]

Excellent thread.
Thank you, @Simonka, @BIPSY and @User#8628. Can’t like your posts enough.
Gifts are always appreciated — not only by the recipient. It feels great for the giver, too, especially if the present is for someone with whom a person has shared memorably good times.
In my case, I missed my one and only favorite independent provider’s birthday by a couple of weeks. Couldn’t fly to Tokyo because of work.
On our next date, I surprised her with a nice gift. Her brief silence, wide open eyes and smile said everything for me. She doesn’t really know that she’s my one and only favorite independent provider, so I’m happy that I made her happy.
We met recently and she wore what I gave her. That made me extremely pleased ... and aroused.
In some old threads that I’ve read here on TAG, some guys suggested that gifts weren’t necessary. Guys should just give presents to their wives, girlfriends and other loved ones.
Okay, I get that.
But I believe that someone who brings me joy — more than sex, really— deserves a very nice gift from the heart.
I can’t make her a coat of pink cashmere, but the late great Prince has me covered: https://g.co/kgs/wNAWT8

 

[User#8628]

some guys suggested that gifts weren’t necessary. Guys should just give presents to their wives, girlfriends and other loved ones.

Haha what the hell?
I bet i’m getting more presents than some of the wives of the guys i get presents from

You are right, presents are for people you share intimate moments with. Some wives honestly don’t deserve them anymore if they shut themselves off too much.

 

[Simonka]

Guys should just give presents to their wives, girlfriends and other loved ones.

That's my wish too! I love men who treat all women in their life & human beings kindly and maybe do small favors for them. Kindness always comes back to you.

 

[Simonka]

I bet i’m getting more presents than some of the wives of the guys i get presents from
.

I don't think they're very upset about not receiving a body moisturizer when they have a crib, a car and access to an unlimited credit card

 

[Kaizyn]

I don't bring anything the first time I go to a place, though they're just massage places... but I always bring my regulars a small pack or two of nice truffles or the like. Not sure how many gifts the massage girls get... but they always seem happy to get chocolate.

I brought my usual girl a plush doll last time and she went bonkers.

There's really no downside to bringing something to the girls you see... If she's happy, chances are you're going to be happy.

 

[Simonka]

I don't bring anything the first time I go to a place, though they're just massage places... but I always bring my regulars a small pack or two of nice truffles or the like. Not sure how many gifts the massage girls get... but they always seem happy to get chocolate.

I brought my usual girl a plush doll last time and she went bonkers.

There's really no downside to bringing something to the girls you see... If she's happy, chances are you're going to be happy.

Plushies are cute too! A lot of SW girls especially foreigners are lonely in Japan so they will have something to hug at night I love giant plus size plushies that I can hug and squeeze in bed. Japan has some unique plushie designs.

 

[rob040188]

That's my wish too! I love men who treat all women in their life & human beings kindly and maybe do small favors for them. Kindness always comes back to you.

You are right, presents are for people you share intimate moments with.

Gifts are always appreciated — not only by the recipient. It feels great for the giver, too, especially if the present is for someone with whom a person has shared memorably good times.

I believe that someone who brings me joy — more than sex, really— deserves a very nice gift from the heart.

I agree with all of the above.

We can make great use of fruits during playtime as well

@User#8628 and @Simonka , Is white wine or champagne on boobs ok during playtime (I know that <15% alcohol might be painful down there)?

Plushies are cute too! A lot of SW girls especially foreigners are lonely in Japan so they will have something to hug at night I love giant plus size plushies that I can hug and squeeze in bed.

I've given body butter cream (@User#8628 your skin is so supple and smooth, ) and fruit teas (forgive me anna , I didn't know that there was a difference between fruit and herbal teas [before coming to tokyo, i considered Nestea Iced Tea as tea]. Now, I know where to get herbal teas [spearmint, chamomile, and peppermint.] and I have marked that for future reference).
@User#8628 and @Simonka , i think some of the providers have real lives (i.e. have a significant other). wouldn't a giant plushie be considered evidence?
Are original (hand drawn as opposed to CAD) drawings an acceptable gift?

 

[ShibaKen]

I don't think so. Girls are always happy to receive such gestures.

A few gift ideas and price points:

Perfume (2000-6000 yen)
Brand lipsticks (Mac, Shu Uemura etc) (around 3000 yen)
Quality stockings (May change between 1000-3000 yen) Medium size for up to 165 cm and LL for girls over 170. Or just go for thigh highs with lace ornaments
Bath and body works products from the body shop, lush or loccitaine (maybe 2000-5000 yen for a set or a single item depending on what you get. We need a lot of lotion to retain moisture in our skin after taking a dozen showers throughout the week

I think they all receive a lot of chocolates so maybe don't go for chocolates. I also enjoy small gifts like tea, fruits or even some book of your recommendation. Being thoughtful is more important.

If you want to splurge, you may purchase a set of lingerie. Japanese girls usually prefer Salute. Better to ask their size first.

Thank you for the reply and ideas!
Are there any places you would recommend to get perfume from and what kinds are good? I'm sorry, but I'm a bit ignorant when it comes to this subject.

 

[rob040188]

Are there any places you would recommend to get perfume from and what kinds are good? I'm sorry, but I'm a bit ignorant when it comes to this subject.

Takashimaya and Shibuya Hikarie

 

[Sudsy]

Gifts are always appreciated, but much more so if they're personal.

Examples:

One of my regulars is a fitness buff who is constantly trying to build muscle/shed body fat - for her low carb chocolate and imported flavoured protein powders are always a hit.

A couple of girls I see form time to time have pets. Fancy dog/cat/ferret snacks always make them happy.

Another girl I see is huge on cooking - the thing that thrills her most is translating recipes into Japanese for her and bringing her something new.

Shops never, afaik, object to gifts, unless the gift is cash that didn't make it into the till.

 

[ShibaKen]

Takashimaya and Shibuya Hikarie

Thank you!
Oh and I forgot one more thing, is it a good idea to have the gift wrapped?

 

[Hofmeyer]

Cookies, chocolates or fruit are something I've seen mentioned time and time again in blogs. Sometimes things get busy and they don't have time to eat.

 

[ShibaKen]

Gifts are always appreciated, but much more so if they're personal.

Examples:

One of my regulars is a fitness buff who is constantly trying to build muscle/shed body fat - for her low carb chocolate and imported flavoured protein powders are always a hit.

A couple of girls I see form time to time have pets. Fancy dog/cat/ferret snacks always make them happy.

Another girl I see is huge on cooking - the thing that thrills her most is translating recipes into Japanese for her and bringing her something new.

Shops never, afaik, object to gifts, unless the gift is cash that didn't make it into the till.

The girl I'm seeing again has a cat too, but unfortunately the cat isn't able to eat any fancy food. I was thinking a cat toy maybe?

 

[rob040188]

is it a good idea to have the gift wrapped?

Yes. I usually say in broken japanese: "Ah sumimasen, kono body cream/tea wa presento desu..." [sorry for my poor japanese]. The sales staff would be able to read between the lines and have it gift wrapped and/or put it in a nicer bag for a little extra charge

The girl I'm seeing again has a cat too, but unfortunately the cat isn't able to eat any fancy food. I was thinking a cat toy maybe?

There are two large pet stores along the musashikoyama shopping street (near musashikoyama station). You could probably buy pet toys and cat nip there.

I forgot to add on my previous post regarding the kind of perfume you should give to her...You should probably ask her what kind of perfume she likes. And then you could buy that from Takashimaya or Shibuya Hikarie

 

[Hofmeyer]

Perfume is tricky. What smells like heaven to one person is a one-way trip to migraine city for another.

 

[BB0523]

Perfume is tricky. What smells like heaven to one person is a one-way trip to migraine city for another.

I concur with @Hofmeyer, stay away from perfume until you know what she likes and / or she advises that she is interested in a certain perfume... Body chemistry has a significant effect on how the scent reacts to each individual - unless it's some brand name chemical concoction that over powers everything and contains so much alcohol to evaporate quickly so the bottle lasts a very short time... If you know the person, then go with what you know they like. If you are not sure, then stick with something safe like a gift card or cute trinket... It's not typically the gift, but the gesture that's appreciated... You are taking the time to get something which shows thoughtfulness and hopefully kindness... If you talk to them and listen to their answers then you can ask favorite color, hobbies, etc and get an idea... it's no different than getting a gift for someone else you know and would buy a gift.

 

[Sudsy]

Should add - unless you know the lady VERY well, all gifts should be consumables, not something that will lay around reminding her of work.

The girl I'm seeing again has a cat too, but unfortunately the cat isn't able to eat any fancy food. I was thinking a cat toy maybe?

Might have to ask someone who's more knowledgeable about cats. My knowledge extends to them being furry little murder machines that I don't want under my roof.

 

[Majestyk]

It's not typically the gift, but the gesture that's appreciated... You are taking the time to get something which shows thoughtfulness and hopefully kindness...

Truer words were never spoken. It’s the thought that counts.
Spread the love. Be kind.

 

[Ken1988]

I had written in another thread that gifts would not be necessary for the first encounter, particularly in a soapland. For me it's an option and challenge from the second time on, after getting knowledge of what she likes or doesn't like.

When you give drink, snack, or chocolate as gift, a Japanese word "sashi-ire" could be used, like "Otsukare sama desu. Kore, sashi-ire desu."

I think l'occitane hand cream is pretty much a fail-safe gift, but I may be wrong.

 

[Wwanderer]

Perfume (2000-6000 yen).

An escort with whom I became very close back in the '90s absolutely hated perfume as a gift; she perceived it as implying that she didn't smell good. Of course she, like me, is a pretty unconventional person.

But in any case, isn't that a bit low budget for an upscale perfume? I'd have said not to go below ¥10k for a few oz bottle.

Also, as @Hofmeyer mentions, preferences in perfume fragrance can be extremely particular.

-Ww