Not to be hostile or something but have you ever considered women feel the same about being picked up?
TL;DR: Yes, I've considered it, and I did think like that at one point in my life. No, I don't think the situations are equivalent, because the goals of the interaction are completely different. My experiences and those of my peers taught me that.
Long Version:
Yep, but that's a different situation due to differing motivations. Simply put, my goal picking up a woman is to provide value to her life by giving a great experience, and of course mine as well. An indie's purpose is to get value from me by often times providing mechanical, emotionless service. Most working girls aren't in it to provide me with an unforgettable experience that'll stick with me through the rest of my life, they're there to get paid and get out. The girls I did end up paying for ended up being forgotten within hours, as in I didn't even remember having sex when I woke up the next day. Yes, I'm aware that many working girls do provide great experiences because that gets them repeat business, but a street walker typically isn't at that level. That's where you start dealing with the more high class escorts (I believe you fit this category). However, I'm sure you're also aware, that's a minority in the industry. To me, I don't like places like happy ending massage parlors or pink salons or the like. Those are almost like mass production, get in, and get out as quickly as possible, and that's how these girls felt to me. Like any other sales position, it's all about making that quick buck, and not about building that relationship to encourage repeat business. Ironically, it's often that lasting relationship that's going to provide the greater pay out in the long term, but most people (especially now-a-days) aren't long-term thinkers. Furthermore, many places around the world, because of the abundance of sources of products are finding that commitment is a fading attribute, making most sales oriented practices more about the short-term.
Proof is in the girls who came back with me, and saw me again as mentioned in the thread and that certainly wasn't limited to the one I chose to see again after coming back to Bangkok, I had 3 girls pushing for my time and many of them are still trying to keep in touch with me despite me making it clear that I have no intentions of going back to Thailand anytime in the near future. Why do you think that is? Also, most of the girls I approached immediately were open to talking and spending time with me; I think maybe 4 girls during the entire trip weren't interested, and I really didn't need to persist beyond the simple greeting. Other girls were interested, but the interaction eventually fizzled out, largely because of lack of a common language. A blanket statement like "... women feel the same about being picked up?" is unfair, especially given that the majority of the women I interacted with were completely open to being picked up (note, this is not limited to Thailand, my experiences in Japan were similar). One comes to the conclusion that it depends on who's doing the picking up. Yes, I'm sure if an amazingly gorgeous Thai girl propositioned me, I likely wouldn't have been annoyed. Maybe if I wasn't heading somewhere more important to me (like getting food cuz I was hungry), I would have talked to them. Maybe if they weren't giving off an aura of desperation to get anything that'll give them money, I'd talk to them. Maybe if they saw me as more than just a potential mark, I would talk to them. All of which comes off on the initial approach. And any guy who approaches you in the same manner, deserves your ire, just like these girls. However, I don't approach girls in that manner, as if a girl was a target. I approach a girl because I find her attractive, I want to know more about her, I liked the aura/vibe she's giving off. I approach a girl because she's special in some way to me.
However, there are also limits to what most guys will do when picking up a girl. I NEVER touch a girl on a street approach, and rarely will touch a girl in a club or a bar. These women, I walked past without saying a word or giving even a look in their direction, and they reached out to grab my arm and pulled me back to them. If I ever did that to a girl, my ass would be on the 6 o'clock news being executed for sexual assault. If they just stood there shouting "hey baby, lets go to your hotel room" and that was it, I wouldn't have been annoyed, I would just find them annoying and go on with my day, much in the same way I deal with those tissue paper guys at the station.
It's all about who's providing the value to the interaction, who's draining value, and which party is being the most important. Game, many times, because everything is entirely voluntary, is about making the approachee's needs be the most important, as that's the easiest way to get what I want as well. In a sense, it's forced altruism to get my needs met. Moreover, it's not like I'm forcing myself to want to learn about the girl. I like talking to people, I like hearing about the places they've been because it often times lets me live vicariously through them. I like hearing about people's plans, dreams, and motivations in life, and I enjoy sharing those same things with people as well. A street walker isn't interested in why I came to Thailand, nor are they interested in what I plan to do now that I've moved back to the U.S., nor do they care about the 7 years I lived in Japan, where as many women (not just Thai women) are interested in that kind of thing and want to hear about it since more than likely, they'll never get the chance to do it themselves (less than 20% of people in the world even have a passport let alone travel to a foreign country for vacation, much less live in other countries).
Anyways, that's all I'm really going to say on the topic.
