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Hi everyone.
This is just a sympathy, pitty me, thread that i need to get off my chest in some form or another.
I met this Chinese girl in Tokyo 2018 and we started casual.
Started dating serious the next year.
Moved in with her for a bit, but went back to home country to settle divorce with ex.
Covid happens so stuck at home.
Obviously this is really difficult for both of us, but we try our best.
Move back but to my own place.
Then, I start to ignore the obvious red flags;
delayed and unresponsive replies
quickly annoyed at nothing
moody and distant
not answering phone calls, then trying to be a victim
Found out she had went to Okinawa, she said on her own and I knew she was lying.
Anyway, after months of begging and pleading I forgave her and we moved on.
We decide to enjoy sex with couples and other people as long as we are open and honest about it and only use hotels (less personal).
Anyway, fast forward to 2023, we're still together, we've spoke about sex with other people and had a pretty open and honest relationship.
Had some good sex adventures were totally open with each other.
We supported each other through a lot (work, mental stress, finance) and spoke about marrriage earlier this year.
All good.
September she suddenly does the whole avoidance thing again, so I just ask her bluntly as I'm prepared mentally.
She denies it.
OK.
Then, I found some sex videos on her harddrive and ask if she ever recorded any at her apartment, and she says no.
So i tell her I have seen the videos, and found the videos of her in Okinawa wit some other guy.
Another argument about trust and openess ensures.
I say that i thought we could just be open and honest about it. She cries says sorry.
Again.
I go back to my home country for a funeral and get a message on IG to the effect of;
''I'm dating someone else, we plan on getting married, this is the end. Goodbye.''
The next IG story is her cat on some moving boxes in a new apartment...
So, that's where I am now!
Ha!
Back in my home country, lost what i thought was my future wife, heart broken and annoyed at myself for sticking around for so long becasue the sex was amazing. How's your day going guys?
Edit for replies;
Thanks for all the replies people. Sucks but most of you are right!
This is just a sympathy, pitty me, thread that i need to get off my chest in some form or another.
I met this Chinese girl in Tokyo 2018 and we started casual.
Started dating serious the next year.
Moved in with her for a bit, but went back to home country to settle divorce with ex.
Covid happens so stuck at home.
Obviously this is really difficult for both of us, but we try our best.
Move back but to my own place.
Then, I start to ignore the obvious red flags;
delayed and unresponsive replies
quickly annoyed at nothing
moody and distant
not answering phone calls, then trying to be a victim
Found out she had went to Okinawa, she said on her own and I knew she was lying.
Anyway, after months of begging and pleading I forgave her and we moved on.
We decide to enjoy sex with couples and other people as long as we are open and honest about it and only use hotels (less personal).
Anyway, fast forward to 2023, we're still together, we've spoke about sex with other people and had a pretty open and honest relationship.
Had some good sex adventures were totally open with each other.
We supported each other through a lot (work, mental stress, finance) and spoke about marrriage earlier this year.
All good.
September she suddenly does the whole avoidance thing again, so I just ask her bluntly as I'm prepared mentally.
She denies it.
OK.
Then, I found some sex videos on her harddrive and ask if she ever recorded any at her apartment, and she says no.
So i tell her I have seen the videos, and found the videos of her in Okinawa wit some other guy.
Another argument about trust and openess ensures.
I say that i thought we could just be open and honest about it. She cries says sorry.
Again.
I go back to my home country for a funeral and get a message on IG to the effect of;
''I'm dating someone else, we plan on getting married, this is the end. Goodbye.''
The next IG story is her cat on some moving boxes in a new apartment...
So, that's where I am now!
Ha!
Back in my home country, lost what i thought was my future wife, heart broken and annoyed at myself for sticking around for so long becasue the sex was amazing. How's your day going guys?
Edit for replies;
Thanks for all the replies people. Sucks but most of you are right!
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