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It occurred to me, that lots of guys don't understand the core "process" or chain of activities that leads to having more sex with women.
I will start with something that should immediately give guys a clue and bring many up to speed. Right now, if you wanted to have sex or have sex with a new woman on say Friday, how many women could you ask to meet you? How many sexually viable women do you have in your contact list right now?
And not just old numbers with women you met 1 year old ago and NEVER had sex with or haven't contacted in over a month, but women you have ALREADY had sex with or have contacted regularly within the last 2 weeks.
Many guys don't realize that if you want to mathematically be likely to have a date on a particular night, it's better to ask 3 to 6 women. You want to go on a date with 3 different women a week, do you have 9 to 18 contacts of different women to ask?
1) Collecting Contact Info.
This means you go out (sarge) and talk to women and you e-mail women on date websites. The point is not to just waste time chatting, particularly a bad trap on dating websites, but getting their phone numbers, personal e-mail, or messaging app ID (like LINE).
Exchanging messages on a website can be a waste of time, as the woman is an attention whore (chatting with many guys) or even paid fake hired by the website. Want to message back and forth, do it off the dating website. Get her personal contact info.
Same for talking to women on the street, club, coffee shop, train, etc... The ultimate goal is to get her personal contact info. otherwise, it was a wasted conversation.
2) Plan Time In Advance To Collect Contacts
This is critical. 6 to 18 contacts won't magically show up. Therefore schedule out days that you will do this. Like Sunday to Tuesday. And if you DON'T have a date for say Friday or Saturday, then those are days to go hunting for contacts.
Focus on making getting a certain number of contacts a week, as your goal. Particularly the less women you have. If you have 3 female sex friends, then the less hunting you have to do, if at all. If you have 0 female sex friends, obviously you need to get to hunting and do lots of it.
3) Create A Contact List of 6 to 18 Viable Women to Date.
From all your PUA/Nampa activity for the week, you should have a contact list of women which you can ASK to go out on a date. Usually women want 2 to 3 days advanced notice. So to get dates for Friday to Sunday, ask from Monday to Wednesday.
And give women options. Don't try to force only a particular. So, if not Friday or Saturday, what other day can you suggest? If she says she can meet next week Tuesday instead, fine.
4) The Magic Of Math
The odd egotistical problem many guys have is thinking they should be perfect. Like if they don't hit a home run EVERY time they step up to the plate and swing, that something is wrong. Yes, something is wrong, having such thinking and mindset.
As a rule of thumb, a guy can expect to be only 35% successful or less. There are many reasons for this, but look to baseball or natural predators. 35% success is actually very good, because you are dealing with a long list of very complicated variables. Women aren't simple and neither is life.
What you want to do is PLAN for a lower efficiency rate. Build it into your calculations. Instead of asking 1 woman for a date on Friday, ask 3 to 6. Odds are strong that at least 1 or 2 will say yes.
And you want to overdue it too. That is have a plan B date, do "Date Stacking" (see other thread on this), or multiple dates for the week. This is because every new woman you will date doesn't mean it will lead to sex or she might not show up. So, you build in a fudge factor. If you go on 3 dates, at least 1 of them is likely to lead to sex.
5) Ask Her To Go Out On A Date.
Use it or lose it!!! Some guys do the weird thing of getting a woman's contact as if that was the end goal, then never ask her out. Often, this is fear of rejection manifesting itself.
Once you get her contact, the CLOCK on it's viability starts ticking down. Guys need to THINK! If she is a decent or hot chick, wouldn't OTHER guys want to date her too? For each day and week that goes by, odds are GREATER that some other guy will ask her on a date and she will accept. Also, the more time goes by, the more she starts to FORGET about you or the EMOTIONAL attraction she felt for you FADES.
This is why I have the 2 week rule in place. Because over 90% of the time, minus special circumstances (like geographical distance), if you don't make sex happen within 2 weeks then it's usually NOT EVER going to happen.
6) More Dates = More Sex
The math here is obvious. The more time you step to the plate and swing, the more likely you are to hit a homerun. Not only that, but the practice makes you better at it. A guy can/should look at each date as a lesson. The more dates he goes on, and he thinks about what's going on, the higher his success rate will likely become. Never perfect, but more experience means a bit better results.
Note- And many guys don't realize that this is partially why many women have more sexual options and they don't. She has more guys in her contacts or contacting her, and she can or is going out on more dates or to social events. With options comes more power.
I will start with something that should immediately give guys a clue and bring many up to speed. Right now, if you wanted to have sex or have sex with a new woman on say Friday, how many women could you ask to meet you? How many sexually viable women do you have in your contact list right now?
And not just old numbers with women you met 1 year old ago and NEVER had sex with or haven't contacted in over a month, but women you have ALREADY had sex with or have contacted regularly within the last 2 weeks.
Many guys don't realize that if you want to mathematically be likely to have a date on a particular night, it's better to ask 3 to 6 women. You want to go on a date with 3 different women a week, do you have 9 to 18 contacts of different women to ask?
1) Collecting Contact Info.
This means you go out (sarge) and talk to women and you e-mail women on date websites. The point is not to just waste time chatting, particularly a bad trap on dating websites, but getting their phone numbers, personal e-mail, or messaging app ID (like LINE).
Exchanging messages on a website can be a waste of time, as the woman is an attention whore (chatting with many guys) or even paid fake hired by the website. Want to message back and forth, do it off the dating website. Get her personal contact info.
Same for talking to women on the street, club, coffee shop, train, etc... The ultimate goal is to get her personal contact info. otherwise, it was a wasted conversation.
2) Plan Time In Advance To Collect Contacts
This is critical. 6 to 18 contacts won't magically show up. Therefore schedule out days that you will do this. Like Sunday to Tuesday. And if you DON'T have a date for say Friday or Saturday, then those are days to go hunting for contacts.
Focus on making getting a certain number of contacts a week, as your goal. Particularly the less women you have. If you have 3 female sex friends, then the less hunting you have to do, if at all. If you have 0 female sex friends, obviously you need to get to hunting and do lots of it.
3) Create A Contact List of 6 to 18 Viable Women to Date.
From all your PUA/Nampa activity for the week, you should have a contact list of women which you can ASK to go out on a date. Usually women want 2 to 3 days advanced notice. So to get dates for Friday to Sunday, ask from Monday to Wednesday.
And give women options. Don't try to force only a particular. So, if not Friday or Saturday, what other day can you suggest? If she says she can meet next week Tuesday instead, fine.
4) The Magic Of Math
The odd egotistical problem many guys have is thinking they should be perfect. Like if they don't hit a home run EVERY time they step up to the plate and swing, that something is wrong. Yes, something is wrong, having such thinking and mindset.
As a rule of thumb, a guy can expect to be only 35% successful or less. There are many reasons for this, but look to baseball or natural predators. 35% success is actually very good, because you are dealing with a long list of very complicated variables. Women aren't simple and neither is life.
What you want to do is PLAN for a lower efficiency rate. Build it into your calculations. Instead of asking 1 woman for a date on Friday, ask 3 to 6. Odds are strong that at least 1 or 2 will say yes.
And you want to overdue it too. That is have a plan B date, do "Date Stacking" (see other thread on this), or multiple dates for the week. This is because every new woman you will date doesn't mean it will lead to sex or she might not show up. So, you build in a fudge factor. If you go on 3 dates, at least 1 of them is likely to lead to sex.
5) Ask Her To Go Out On A Date.
Use it or lose it!!! Some guys do the weird thing of getting a woman's contact as if that was the end goal, then never ask her out. Often, this is fear of rejection manifesting itself.
Once you get her contact, the CLOCK on it's viability starts ticking down. Guys need to THINK! If she is a decent or hot chick, wouldn't OTHER guys want to date her too? For each day and week that goes by, odds are GREATER that some other guy will ask her on a date and she will accept. Also, the more time goes by, the more she starts to FORGET about you or the EMOTIONAL attraction she felt for you FADES.
This is why I have the 2 week rule in place. Because over 90% of the time, minus special circumstances (like geographical distance), if you don't make sex happen within 2 weeks then it's usually NOT EVER going to happen.
6) More Dates = More Sex
The math here is obvious. The more time you step to the plate and swing, the more likely you are to hit a homerun. Not only that, but the practice makes you better at it. A guy can/should look at each date as a lesson. The more dates he goes on, and he thinks about what's going on, the higher his success rate will likely become. Never perfect, but more experience means a bit better results.
Note- And many guys don't realize that this is partially why many women have more sexual options and they don't. She has more guys in her contacts or contacting her, and she can or is going out on more dates or to social events. With options comes more power.
