How to know if you're talking to a woman or trangender?

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When meeting someone on apps like Badoo and Tinder how can you ask them? Got a 20 year old 'girl' which could be a man or woman whom says she wants to kiss me within 20 minutes adding her to my line from Badoo. She just gave me her Line QR, I didn't ask for it.
Even my friends aren't quite sure. In Tokyo, there are so many Phillipinos and Thais that either have a mix of manly features, or are transgender from those countries. I usually dont follow this stuff, but my horoscope last week said something truely delightful will happen and I may not see it until it's gone and to not let that happen - "keep an eye out for magic dust and fairy wings, they're usually in the corner of your eye." - however you're supposed to interpret that! Weirder shit has happened to me before.

 

[WeebmanAU]

go out to eat and tell them to wash their hands first

 

[Tabanico]

This topic has come up several times before. I think there is probably a risk that a lot of the Asian providers are possibly post op. If that bothers you just stick to reliable Japanese agencies. But why let it bother you if you find someone attractive?

 

[raoxi]

If they are from SEA, abandon ship. Not worth the risk.

 

[MikeH]

If it bothers you there is a way. It's called asking them.

 

[TheScientist]

whom says she wants to kiss me within 20 minutes adding her to my line from Badoo.

If you are considering sticking your dick in crazy, does it matter if born or made woman?

 

[Rusty Trombone]

im not sure what you are worried about. Your horoscope said it’s going to be wonderful.

You can’t go wrong .

 

[Ddddd]

Transgender women will make it clear before going on a real date.

There are enough men who like them so it makes no sense for them to take the risk to end up with an homophobe or any crazy guy.

 

[impish]

you could ask?

 

[JohnnyWalker]

Transgender women will make it clear before going on a real date.

There are enough men who like them so it makes no sense for them to take the risk to end up with an homophobe or any crazy guy.

Many would, but not always true.
When I first came to Japan I got caught. Had a date with an Indy, stripped her down and noticed she was really shy about showing herself.

I go suspicious and took a close look, than I realized she wasn’t born with that hole. It was the first time in my life I have ever seen a post-op. Not exact something I ever wanted to see. It’s just not my thing.

I called her out on it and she got embarrassed. i asked her to leave in the nicest way possible. Overall it was an awkward night and wish she was just upfront about it.

Like you said there are many guys that are into that. But she wasn’t advertising it or upfront about it in any way.

Personally, those pics look suspicious to me. But who knows without a DNA test, visual on her passport, references, or inspection. Myself, if the thought comes to mind where I need to ask the question, that’s one question too much

Can’t hurt to ask. But it’s extremely difficult to trust and verify in this situation.

 

[Frenchy]

im not sure what you are worried about. Your horoscope said it’s going to be wonderful.

You can’t go wrong .

Exactly what I thought !

 

[Hofmeyer]

Why the fuck do guys act like this is the most terrifying thing imaginable.

Fuck no it isn't. There are so many worse things that could happen during p4p than meeting a trans person. Stop being pussies about it and laugh it off if it happens.

 

[Sudsy]

Why the fuck do guys act like this is the most terrifying thing imaginable.

Because they're not confident in their own sexuality and they're terrified that they'll find out they're actually gay or bi.

 

[WeebmanAU]

It's ok to be bicurious too
I know I am sometimes

 

[JohnnyWalker]

Why the fuck do guys act like this is the most terrifying thing imaginable.

Fuck no it isn't. There are so many worse things that could happen during p4p than meeting a trans person. Stop being pussies about it and laugh it off if it happens.

I would have laughed it off of it didn’t cost me money.

Yes, much, and I mean much worse things could happen. But pretending to be a different gender and not being upfront about it isn’t cool. Especially when you are meeting the person only for sex.

If it was a tinder date it would be funny.

 

[Frenchy]

I would have laughed it off of it didn’t cost me money.

Yes, much, and I mean much worse things could happen. But pretending to be a different gender and not being upfront about it isn’t cool. Especially when you are meeting the person only for sex.

If it was a tinder date it would be funny.

Agreed. Didnt really like it when it happened to me. Not that I have anything against them, they should just not pretend to be “real” women. As much as escorts should not pretend to be younger/leaner etc with old or doctored pics. Just my opinion

 

[warubuta]

Because they're not confident in their own sexuality and they're terrified that they'll find out they're actually gay or bi.

That would not be the only reason. But since you bring it up, can we assume that it is your reason?

 

[MikeH]

That would not be the only reason. But since you bring it up, can we assume that it is your reason?

That might be funny if you weren't answering to a guy who actually went long in testing if he liked it or not and documented his trials here for all to read.

 

[Sudsy]

That would not be the only reason. But since you bring it up, can we assume that it is your reason?

That might be funny if you weren't answering to a guy who actually went long in testing if he liked it or not and documented his trials here for all to read.

Yep. Been there, tried that, had a bit of fun but ultimately decided it wasn't really my thing.

Perfectly confident in my own sexuality, thanks. I'm an avowed trisexual.

I'll try damn near anything.

 

[Durg50]

Because they're not confident in their own sexuality and they're terrified that they'll find out they're actually gay or bi.

interesting... does fucking a post op make you gay or bi? in that case please consider this my 'coming out' Ive been with one indy a while back and 1 Thai Mai girl (as part of a duo, there's a review somewhere) and Im 100% sure that they were both post ops but for whatever reason they weren't open about it. The indy was shit (on her phone like 5 seconds after we were done) but the Thai Mai girl was great, gave me an awesome massage after round 1.

Id always rather go with an attractive post op than an unattractive or out of shape biological female.

Seems sexuality is a complicated thing.

I wouldn't automatically jump to the conclusion that guys that don't want to have a post op turn up when they think they've booked someone born a woman are 'terrified' of anything though. Id assume they just want to get what they paid for. Also sex w a post op is different. No matter how good the job has been done, there are two main differences; only biological women have that tiny layer of extra fat making their thighs / belly etc soft even when they are in great shape, and the vagina changes shape during penetration differently; Post ops are a lubricated hole that doesn't change shape, 'real' vaginas start out tight and listen / moisten up as things progress.

 

[Sudsy]

I wouldn't automatically jump to the conclusion that guys that don't want to have a post op turn up when they think they've booked someone born a woman are 'terrified' of anything though.

Sure - but there's a difference between the guys who just want to know what they're getting into, and the guys who obsess over it, assuming that every SEA provider used to have a little something extra.

 

[Ddddd]

Many would, but not always true.
When I first came to Japan I got caught. Had a date with an Indy, stripped her down and noticed she was really shy about showing herself.

I think that it is quite obvious that P4P and "dating" with a girl who is looking for a hookup or a boyfriend are two completely different things. I didn't understand that you were on tinder looking for P4P.

A provider trying to rip you off in any imaginable way is not something unseen. On the other side, I don't see the benefit for a provider to advertise herself as woman when she is actually a trans.

 

[Durg50]

I don't see the benefit for a provider to advertise herself as woman when she is actually a trans.

Because the pool of potential customers is much larger.

 

[warubuta]

Because they're not confident in their own sexuality and they're terrified that they'll find out they're actually gay or bi.

Why would accidentally boning a post op reveal hidden gayness? If the tool is still attached, well then that that’s a completely different thing.

 

[MikeH]

Why would accidentally boning a post op reveal hidden gayness? If the tool is still attached, well then that that’s a completely different thing.

You guys are way overthinking this. I am pretty sure I have done a post-op or two in my time, just based on statistical probabilities. Last time I checked I still wasn't gay though I might have preferred to be.

Think less, fuck more.