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I enjoy variety and I enjoy people. So punting, fwbs, happening bars, cruising men's restrooms, online dating, cafes... The world is a giant sweetshop of people to connect with in all forms.
Thought someone would tackle this...honest question here, since i always wondered... there are so may people not satisfied with their partners, usually the reason is sex... why dont you get divorced, then, if there seem to be significant problems? i do understand that relationships are usually not perfect and so on, but if there would things i couldnt agree on, then there would be no point in staying together... so why is that? comfort? fear of being alone? visa?
i guess it helps to hear opinions, as you can tell, i am extremely opposed to that, though that does not mean i am judging anybody... i am no moral person at all, but to me, that is something that i couldnt and would never do... i have been in two sexless relationships and it didnt cross my mind to look for other opportunities... they didnt want to, so there was none, quite simple to me...
one thing i got to disagree on is that i dont need a decade to understand a relationship, if i needed one, then i did something wrong, or didnt pay enough attention... i think it is about how you view a relationship, i wouldnt start any if i wasnt sure id spend the rest of my life with my partner... of course, youll never know what is going to happen, but i also wouldnt continue a relationship if there were things i couldnt deal with...
the only cases i know where the wife (is it always the wife?) agreed on her husband having sex with whomever the reasons have been:
1)if you want someone younger, go for it, but dont leave me.
2)i know you want to have sex, but i dont, so get it, but dont leave me
and somehow i think that is maybe what many think, but dont say out loud...
but i am of course willing to learn and to understand, thats why i was asking...
one thing i got to disagree on is that i dont need a decade to understand a relationship, if i needed one, then i did something wrong, or didnt pay enough attention...
i think it is about how you view a relationship, i wouldnt start any if i wasn't sure id spend the rest of my life with my partner... of course, youll never know what is going to happen, but i also wouldnt continue a relationship if there were things i couldnt deal with...
alright, got you wrong on the first part then, but got it now...
changes are just how life is and without them it would be a little boring, i think...
What he said.As for why not to divorce, in my case I can think of:
1) kids
2) hope that my wife and I continue to change and recalibrate.
+ One simple question. Is my life better or worse with my wife in it?
Whatever the answer you choice should be simple.
I actually meant a wider perspective than just the one on one relationship.Is my life better or worse with my wife in it?