I’ve been using both Happy Mail and Wakuwaku Mail on and off for about six years, and I’ve had success with both. When I first started out, I was able to meet up with a significant number of women for free sex (minus love hotel costs) just by posting an ad in Japanese and contacting those who read it (you almost always have to make the first move). Lately, though, both sites seem to have been invaded by a massive army of “sakura” (employees, often male, paid to impersonate women and trick users into wasting points on the site), which has significantly lowered my success ratio. I think the last time I managed to meet up with someone was around November last year, though I’ve come close in recent weeks.
I tried Ikukuru for a while as well, but I didn’t like the interface of the site and almost all the replies I got were obviously sakura or professionals looking for warikiri. My recommendation would be to sign up for Wakuwaku (it seems more reliable than Happy Mail nowadays), pay for at least 1,000 points so you can post ads and send PMs (I recommend 3,000 points since you get a significant amount of bonus points with that amount), and post a well-crafted Japanese ad a few times a week. Time the post to coincide with office worker lunch breaks (between 12 and 2 PM) or right after they get off work (5 - 6 PM) to maximize your hits. Weekends are better, but there’s also more competition from other dudes, so it’s a tradeoff. In the ad, state right off the bat that you’re a foreigner (include your ethnicity, ideally in the title) and describe what you’re looking for. Once the ad falls out of the top 30-40, bump it one or two times. If no one bites, wait a few days and try again.
As long as you’re patient and persistent, you’ll almost certainly find at least one non-fake woman willing to meet up. And I really mean patient—I’ve had dry spells lasting months and months before I finally managed to land someone. Just don’t give up (unless your budget can’t handle the points).
Also, here’s a few tips for spotting fake women:
-Needlessly long and detailed profiles. Most real women, especially those looking primarily for sex, don’t go into detail about their personal lives and hobbies, etc., on sites like these. This screams “I’m a dude and I’m writing all this personal BS to make you think I’m a real woman!” There are exceptions, but in my experience, they are rare.
-They send winks or likes without reading your ad, and oftentimes within mere seconds of viewing your profile (no one decides to wink/like you that quickly).
-They leave footprints on your profile mere seconds after you log in (a good rule of thumb is to ignore profile footprints for the most part—focus on the ones who actually read your ad).
-They use waaaaaaay too many emoticons. This is a huge tip-off. Anyone posting (〃ω〃) or (*^^*) and the like at the end of every sentence is almost certainly a dude trying way too hard to appear feminine.
-They make excuses for not wanting to use LINE/Kakao/e-mail. Most women who use the site know that men have to pay to use the site and understand that switching the conversation to another platform is more efficient, especially when discussing meeting details. They also know that they can always block people whenever they want, so there’s little risk on their part. So anyone who says “I don’t use/have LINE” or “I wanna keep my private life separate” and so on is likely trying to get you to waste points messaging them on the site.
-They refuse to share photos. You can’t meet up with someone if you don’t know what they look like. This is often because fake profiles only have one or two blurry stock photos with which to reel you in, so they can’t provide any additional photos.
Best of luck!
