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So, I’ve been in Japan almost a full year now. Over the summer I began a sneaky relationship with a woman (maybe that is important for context), and we kept in general contact over LINE. I was on work and we live about 9 hours apart. The texting started out slow as our physical relationship evolved and then when I had to return home, our texting relationship grew. She speaks and understands English, but not extremely well. My Japanese skills are poor. Anyways, I had a return trip and then after that it seemed like the texting kind of dwindled, and I’ve had several return trips since… our physical relationship remains strong but then when we are apart it seems like she doesn’t want to text much anymore.
cut to three other women I’ve met since then, two do not speak English but we met and hit it off (one resulted in a ONS, the other was just a friendly encounter) and it just seems like they are really bad at responding in a timely matter, or at all sometimes? The eagerness to communicate seems to spike and decline back and forth. I understand translating is not optimal for communication, but we made it work well enough to get to where we are.
Then there is a third new woman who speaks perfect English. Who responded very punctually, and then just kind of stopped. Her I can at least chalk up to probably becoming disinterested. I actually haven’t even met her in person (met through an app).
i guess what my question is, is texting etiquette just different for Japanese women? I see my friends are often actually talking on the phone as opposed to solely texting. I understand the Japanese are very schedule oriented and stick to those schedules pretty hardcore. I imagine that stopping to text often could pose a problem for these schedules. I don’t know, any input on this?
cut to three other women I’ve met since then, two do not speak English but we met and hit it off (one resulted in a ONS, the other was just a friendly encounter) and it just seems like they are really bad at responding in a timely matter, or at all sometimes? The eagerness to communicate seems to spike and decline back and forth. I understand translating is not optimal for communication, but we made it work well enough to get to where we are.
Then there is a third new woman who speaks perfect English. Who responded very punctually, and then just kind of stopped. Her I can at least chalk up to probably becoming disinterested. I actually haven’t even met her in person (met through an app).
i guess what my question is, is texting etiquette just different for Japanese women? I see my friends are often actually talking on the phone as opposed to solely texting. I understand the Japanese are very schedule oriented and stick to those schedules pretty hardcore. I imagine that stopping to text often could pose a problem for these schedules. I don’t know, any input on this?