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Hello. Sorry for my first post being so long, but I'm looking for some advice.
So, some context, I'm a 23-year-old Anglo-American currently living in Tokyo. I don't really have much experience or confidence with sex and relationships due to some bad experiences in high school and spending all my time studying in college. Now that I've gotten more settled and comfortable with my life and myself though, I want to push myself out of my sexual comfort zone and experience new things.
The problem is that I don't know where to begin. I don't have any friends that I can go to clubs or bars with here, and again, not much confidence or experience, which I'm scared will be obvious to any girls I try to pick up and thus destroy my chances. Also, I don't know where exactly in Tokyo would be a good starting point. I've been recommended Omotesando and Roppongi, but no specific clubs or venues to go to, and the former is too obscure for me to find any good information on, while the latter is too infamous for me to know which places are safe.
I guess, the ideal situation, what I'm looking for is a Sex Friend (I think that's the right term). I'm okay with waiting until I'm where I want to be career-wise before settling down and finding a proper girlfriend. But I want to try new things sexually, and I'd like to have a community or friend group that can help me navigate all this. My (admittedly limited) understanding of hookups though is that you meet, you fuck, and then you never see each other again, and I want something a bit deeper than that.
It's just, again, I don't know where to start. So I'm hoping someone here can give me advice on what venues would be best for me, how to meet someone who can help me navigate this unfamiliar territory, and how to stay safe throughout it all. If you have any questions, feel free to ask and I'll do my best to answer.
P.S. On the subject of Japanese, I'm at a conversational level. There's still a lot I have to learn, but I can carry a conversation with friends and passerby pretty well.
So, some context, I'm a 23-year-old Anglo-American currently living in Tokyo. I don't really have much experience or confidence with sex and relationships due to some bad experiences in high school and spending all my time studying in college. Now that I've gotten more settled and comfortable with my life and myself though, I want to push myself out of my sexual comfort zone and experience new things.
The problem is that I don't know where to begin. I don't have any friends that I can go to clubs or bars with here, and again, not much confidence or experience, which I'm scared will be obvious to any girls I try to pick up and thus destroy my chances. Also, I don't know where exactly in Tokyo would be a good starting point. I've been recommended Omotesando and Roppongi, but no specific clubs or venues to go to, and the former is too obscure for me to find any good information on, while the latter is too infamous for me to know which places are safe.
I guess, the ideal situation, what I'm looking for is a Sex Friend (I think that's the right term). I'm okay with waiting until I'm where I want to be career-wise before settling down and finding a proper girlfriend. But I want to try new things sexually, and I'd like to have a community or friend group that can help me navigate all this. My (admittedly limited) understanding of hookups though is that you meet, you fuck, and then you never see each other again, and I want something a bit deeper than that.
It's just, again, I don't know where to start. So I'm hoping someone here can give me advice on what venues would be best for me, how to meet someone who can help me navigate this unfamiliar territory, and how to stay safe throughout it all. If you have any questions, feel free to ask and I'll do my best to answer.
P.S. On the subject of Japanese, I'm at a conversational level. There's still a lot I have to learn, but I can carry a conversation with friends and passerby pretty well.