Offered Bareback... Need thoughts from other wokers.

[ijustwanttop4p]

Anyways I've been seeing this individual for quite a bit now 6 or more times and we talk about life and work, basically like friends, I recently asked if she wanted to do an overnight, she said yes so off we go, on with our business as usual and in the morning she wanted to have sex again so I was fine with that, we eventually ran out of condoms because most of them don't fit me well, and she pulled this one off and we were just messing about on the bed, and she said stick it in like this.

At first I thought she was joking, obviously but then she moved closer and said stick it in, here the thing I already knew she had a health check up recently So did I, we both shared that information recently while we were talking on Line. What I'm quite confused about is that, what makes someone go this far for a client?

What if the client was lying about his checkup? Does she like the client/feelings for the client therefore it justifies the end result? I'm not encouraging bareback but I was looking for clarification or what to think of it, I made sure I pulled out way before and she's on the pill and we still talk every single day about random stuff mostly she starts the conversations 70% of the time.

Just looking for someone else's opinion so I can maybe see a bigger picture.

 

[warubuta]

This all boils down to how people look at risk. She might have been perfectly rational to have done it raw. Maybe her chance of getting aids from you is less than a bunch of other things that might harm her in the near future. It is so infinitesimal. Sex workers, on the other hand, as a matter of professional principles should always insist on condoms, but with civilians, it is really up to how well you know your partner and to how you feel about risk.

 

[warubuta]

Personally, I wouldn’t offer bareback FS, but I think she might either like you (not necessarily in a romantic way, but as a friend/client) and trusts you enough. You do talk to each other directly on a regular basis anyway.

An interesting response. Because there is familiarity, affection and trust, it is OK to take the risk. Isn’t this exactly what all of the professional advice says not to do?

 

[warubuta]

Damn. I said that? Wow, silly me. Let me re-edit that.

Oh, wait..

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I don’t know who that is. Can someone help me?

 

[Durg50]

we still talk every single day about random stuff mostly she starts the conversations 70% of the time.

Sounds like you are falling for her, if you think this is worth mentioning.

 

[Manami TMK]

I personally do not offer BBFS to anybody including my personal ones; I have monthly checkup but you never know that you are 100% clean right this minute. I don’t want to pass anything not appreciated to anybody.

Maybe she offers bbfs to make you feel special but most likely she has done it with some other clients in past?
Maybe she is truly hoping to have a relationship with you but even so, that’s not very nice to do without asking you first what you expect from her in the future...
There is still a small chance that she simply felt like to have bbfs for her own pure pleasure in that morning, nothing more, nothing less. Either way, I am sorry but she is a bit irresponsible to her own health, your health and her other clients.

 

[LeonGRAY]

She's doing it because she's in love with you. I suggest to declare your feelings to her with flowers and tell her everyday how much you miss her. She will appreciate you opening up to her. If you don't hear from her again it's because she's playing hard to get so don't give up. Good luck.

 

[Jackindabox]

The old saying goes, “if she’ll do that for you, she’ll do it for someone else.” Learned the hard way not to trust an escort!

 

[ijustwanttop4p]

The old saying goes, “if she’ll do that for you, she’ll do it for someone else.” Learned the hard way not to trust an escort!

I personally do not offer BBFS to anybody including my personal ones; I have monthly checkup but you never know that you are 100% clean right this minute. I don’t want to pass anything not appreciated to anybody.

Maybe she offers bbfs to make you feel special but most likely she has done it with some other clients in past?
Maybe she is truly hoping to have a relationship with you but even so, that’s not very nice to do without asking you first what you expect from her in the future...
There is still a small chance that she simply felt like to have bbfs for her own pure pleasure in that morning, nothing more, nothing less. Either way, I am sorry but she is a bit irresponsible to her own health, your health and her other clients.

She said it feels like having sex with a boyfriend before during sex the night before which we used a condom and not using a condom came down to we ran out and at that point we could have stopped.

We also cuddled all night and tried to escape it a few times she didn't let it happen but still manage to duck away for a bit during the night. We ended up going for lunch and she wanted to pay which was oddly weird for me. Before we said our good bye she said she was 幸せな during the time we spent not sure if its a ponzi scheme, for repeat customers couldn't really get a clear read so

 

[Simonka]

Once a traitor, always a traitor.

Forget about the words, cuddling or lunch dates, see the bigger picture and put a cap on your boy.

Escort or not, unless you get tested 3 months after you both become monogamous, it’s pretty risky to go raw. Plus she is seeing other guys on a regular basis, thus you should always stick to wearing condoms at all times.

In my personal life I’ve always used condoms -even before I was an escort- regardless of the level of the relationship, and I will only go raw (once both get tested after 3 months of monogamy) for having kids in the future.

 

[LeonGRAY]

not sure if its a ponzi scheme, for repeat customers couldn't really get a clear read so

You're getting played like a violin, but you can't see it because you're head over heels with this escort. Most women are manipulative little devils. They figure out your personality within minutes and from there on they'll just tell you what you want to hear. Especially escorts (shocker I know)

we still talk every single day about random stuff mostly she starts the conversations 70% of the time.

Judging from your post it sounds like you're either madly in love or lonely and using her to fill that void in your life. Solution: get a real girlfriend. Aslong as you have a job and take frequent showers everyone can get a gf in Japan.

My spidey senses tell me you're going to ignore all advice here and get her knocked up so I bookmarked this topic just incase

 

[Jackindabox]

She said it feels like having sex with a boyfriend before during sex the night before which we used a condom and not using a condom came down to we ran out and at that point we could have stopped.

We also cuddled all night and tried to escape it a few times she didn't let it happen but still manage to duck away for a bit during the night. We ended up going for lunch and she wanted to pay which was oddly weird for me. Before we said our good bye she said she was 幸せな during the time we spent not sure if its a ponzi scheme, for repeat customers couldn't really get a clear read so

Most escorts will then stop the session if you don’t have a rubber. She continued on. So how many other clients has she done that for? You can’t really know for sure!

 

[Rusty Trombone]

@ijustwanttop4p
Do what you wanna do bro.
Every time anyone posts on here about bbfs, everyone jumps on their high horse about how they practice safe sex every-time. While in reality things often happen in the heat of the moment, or alcohol induced.

If you're uncomfortable, or worried, then get tested.

You were the only one in the room with the girl, so you were the only one with first hand experience. You are the only one who read the vibe of the girl and the situation. Sure, lots of what is said above does happen, but sometimes it doesn't either. You've seen her 6 times and she's happy to over night with you. Next time why don't you try for an overnight trip away together. I think the longer you spend together in a single session, the more you will understand her.

Give it more time and you should know if she is generally into you. If it starts to feel pressured, or like she is only in it for the money, then make a decision then. In the meantime enjoy it while it lasts.

 

[Leonidas]

As Simonka says, unless the two of you stay exclusive to each other for three months during which you wear rubber and then get tested, you really don't know what's going on.

Someone I know recently had unprotected sex with her current bf and promptly got genital herpes. The guy apparently hadn't realized that it can be transferred even when there's no acute outbreak and so didn't bother mentioning it. Now she's got it for life.

 

[Simonka]

@ijustwanttop4p
Do what you wanna do bro.
Every time anyone posts on here about bbfs, everyone jumps on their high horse about how they practice safe sex every-time. While in reality things often happen in the heat of the moment, or alcohol induced.

If you're uncomfortable, or worried, then get tested.

You were the only one in the room with the girl, so you were the only one with first hand experience. You are the only one who read the vibe of the girl and the situation. Sure, lots of what is said above does happen, but sometimes it doesn't either. You've seen her 6 times and she's happy to over night with you. Next time why don't you try for an overnight trip away together. I think the longer you spend together in a single session, the more you will understand her.

Give it more time and you should know if she is generally into you. If it starts to feel pressured, or like she is only in it for the money, then make a decision then. In the meantime enjoy it while it lasts.

Umm not all of us have alcohol induced sex

Personally I avoid it because it affects the decision making process

 

[LeonGRAY]

Someone I know recently had unprotected sex with her current bf and promptly got genital herpes. The guy apparently hadn't realized that it can be transferred even when there's no acute outbreak and so didn't bother mentioning it. Now she's got it for life.

Damn. That’s messed up. Guy should be sued in court.

 

[MikeH]

Personally I avoid it because it affects the decision making process

But there are negative effects too.

But too much alcohol reduces the pleasure so drink in moderation when operating spinners.

 

[warubuta]

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Umm not all of us have alcohol induced sex

Personally I avoid it because it affects the decision making process

Sometimes a change in the decision making process is exactly what is needed.

 

[warubuta]

Damn. That’s messed up. Guy should be sued in court.

And what about the woman who infected the guy and the guy who infected the woman and the guy who infected her? Our courts are already blocked up with real crimes. I think this nonsense about legal action against people who knowingly transmit an STD is a bunch of BS.

 

[warubuta]

As Simonka says, unless the two of you stay exclusive to each other for three months during which you wear rubber and then get tested, you really don't know what's going on.

Someone I know recently had unprotected sex with her current bf and promptly got genital herpes. The guy apparently hadn't realized that it can be transferred even when there's no acute outbreak and so didn't bother mentioning it. Now she's got it for life.

An American guy I know had protected sex with his girlfriend and then he got hit by a double decker bus in London. He looked left and then stepped off the curb. Bam!

 

[Simonka]

But there are negative effects too.

But too much alcohol reduces the pleasure so drink in moderation when operating spinners.

A glass is fine, but IMO if you’re too drunk to drive you’re probably too drunk to stick to the idea of wearing a condom

 

[User#8628]

A glass is fine, but IMO if you’re too drunk to drive you’re probably too drunk to stick to the idea of wearing a condom

Or too drunk to have a clear idea about consent

 

[Rusty Trombone]

Umm not all of us have alcohol induced sex

Personally I avoid it because it affects the decision making process

So you’ve never had a few too many and done something you regret?

 

[warubuta]

A glass is fine, but IMO if you’re too drunk to drive you’re probably too drunk to stick to the idea of wearing a condom

True, but if you are too sober, she might not be atractive enough to want to fuck. It is a delicate balance in some cases.

 

[LeonGRAY]

And what about the woman who infected the guy and the guy who infected the woman and the guy who infected her? Our courts are already blocked up with real crimes. I think this nonsense about legal action against people who knowingly transmit an STD is a bunch of BS.

Knowingly spreading STD (the ones you have for life) should get you jailtime. Why is that not a real crime?