Repeat or go for variety?

[Coda87]

So it looks like I'll be going to Tokyo again in Oct. I've gone every year the last four years in June. This is my first time going to Japan twice in a year. And each year I've done 2-3 p4p sessions. But I have never repeated with a provider, even with the ones that I had an exceptional experience. I've definitely considered it though. However, I always like the thrill of playing with a new woman. And I convinced myself in the beginning that going for variety is the better way to go for me, especially since I don't do this very often.

But also I know from experience in real relationships that usually the sex gets better after the first few times (although sometimes its great with someone the first time if the chemistry is right). So I wonder if this is the same in p4p? I suppose I have also been lucky in that I've never really had a bad p4p experience yet. They have ranged from good to erotically magical experiences. I am contemplating repeating this time.

There are so many p4p places in Tokyo. I could probably not repeat for the rest of my mongering days if I wanted to. And I think I have enough mongering wisdom and TAG to minimize the risk of having a bad p4p experience.

Repeat:
Pros
+ High probability of another great session (if the last time was good)
+ More comfortable since me and the provider have met before (crazier play maybe?)
+ More play time and less "get to know her and relax time" (I always need this because I'm nervous at first)
Cons
- Already tried the provider before, so less exciting (maybe?)


Go for Variety:
Pros
+ More exciting with a new provider
+ Might find something better/more experience
Cons
- Could be a bad experience/no chemistry
- Later regret not trying a provider that I really liked again because she moved/retired (ie I almost made another appt with Kayo last June, now its too late )

What do you fellow mongers and provider ladies think?

 

[Viggagadye]

I don't know if repeating necessarily means less exciting. I'm planning a repeat with a provider I met a little while back, and because she was so exceptional, I have to say I'm even more excited than I was the first time. This is the first time I'll be repeating but it's also the most excited I've been for a session with anyone.
And another thing is, I think it can be exciting to think about trying new things with a provider that you didn't try last time. Also, I know I personally perform much better (and enjoy myself more) when I'm already comfortable with someone, so that's another point in the favour of repeating.

I'm by no means an experienced monger though, so maybe people who have done it a lot more have a different opinion.

 

[Manami TMK]

Variety +1

Especailly when I try new shop. I always have my favorites and I would definitely book them again eventually but won’t repeat immediately before making a round of my list.
I may regret later to see not the one I know but try new but it is all game after all.

Though as provider, I feel more relaxed to see repeat than seeing new gentlemen.

 

[Simonka]

I think most guys have a couple of ATF’s (All time favorite) and they occasionally try out new girls.

From a client’s perspective lack of chemistry is risky, but it can also be a memorable evening. It depends on how much of a thrill seeker a man is. Same goes for me. Maybe check out the provider’s reviews to minimize the risks.

There are people I’ve turned down who wanted to meet me again because I just didn’t feel the chemistry. (Or there was an attitude problem, or the play styles didn’t match: sometimes people expect something more rough which I do not offer) It’s unfair to both of us. The clients I keep as regulars are people I’m looking forward to meet, so the anticipation of a reunion is pretty exciting for me.

 

[BB0523]

I'll throw in my opinion.... I understand both sides you are mentioning and the others that responded as well... I would repeat with a known provider... You already know them... so the repeat should be as good if not better - unless the provider is having an off day...
If you go for new, then you have a higher risk of no chemistry, off day, lame experience, etc....

Just my 2 cents....

 

[Karbon]

You can also repeat with a favourite and add a new spice in a sensual 3P

 

[WeebmanAU]

I say variety. I hooked up recently with another girl that really wanted to see me again, but starting sparked in the corner of my eye so I'm trying something new despite unfamiliarity

 

[Sudsy]

Variety is the spice of life - I have my regulars, but I'm always playing around here and there. If I find a new place, I'll usually work through the entire roster over a few months if I can.

 

[TheScientist]

Repeats make more sense when there isnt a long interval in-between.

 

[surak]

personally, when I am meeting a new girl, I am eventually trying to find a potential repeat...

 

[Acid Burn]

No reason to have to choose between repeat and variety, go for both! Repeat with your fave and go for variety on other days. Best of both worlds.

 

[faboo2001]

Repeats make more sense when there isnt a long interval in-between.

Exactly what I was gonna say. Some of the pros you listed going with a repeat doesn't apply if there's about a year long break in between. Still, there are plenty of reasons why one would want to repeat with someone (looks, skills, personality) so I wouldn't be against the idea.

 

[Simonka]

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/repeat-a-provider-or-change-it-up-everytime.11177/

There is a similar thread with a poll. So people are equally divided on the subject.

 

[User#8628]

If you have never repeated before, just try it once to see if it’s something you enjoy.
Wont hurt to have at least one repeat on you visit, if you have a few p4p experiences in one trip anyway, you can also try some new things.

 

[sealax]

I had never repeated prior to my first date with Alice (dinner + dessert). Enjoyed that so much that we did an overnight on my next trip. That was so great I was hooked. But, as things worked out, she was away on my most recent trip so I met Ashley Rose, and that was a great time as well, which I might otherwise have never experienced. So maybe having a ATF or two but mixing it up occasionally might be optimal.

 

[Simonka]

You can also repeat with a favourite and add a new spice in a sensual 3P

I agree, if the client has the budget for a 3p I personally love these kinds of meets every now and then 3p’s are a lot of fun. It’s like having a pajama party with your friend but suddenly a boy climbs the ladder into the room.. and things escalate from there.

 

[Wwanderer]

As this thread and previous ones make obvious, there are advantages to both repeating and variety. Personally I agree with those who prefer some of both but overall I'm mostly into repeating. Repeats are inherent in sugaring of course, my main thing these days, but I tended to become a regular even back when I was mostly seeing conventional escorts rather than SBs. And like @surak, I am usually looking for an additional regular when I meet someone new.

But one point I can add is that in my experience, reasonably prompt second and sometimes third dates are often really spectacular if the first one was good. After that things may settle down into a pattern that begins to feel predictable, even if really good. There are a couple of obvious reasons.

-Ww

 

[greenhawk]

While I am kind of new to this hobby I would say at the moment I prefer repeat personally because given the money I spend I feel better knowing I will have a good time if I repeat. When I discovered Kayo I kept going back to only her until just recently because she left. We had good chemistry, she provided amazing service, the price was great, and no love hotel fee so for me there were many benefits to keep repeating with Kayo instead of changing it up. If Kayo stayed I would eventually have saw some other providers every now and then, but I would have stuck with her mostly. If I knew I would have chemistry with a new girl before meeting her it would make me feel more comfortable trying someone new more often. However with Kayo gone now I am going to have to try some new talent.

 

[DanniCake]

I know that when it comes to bdsm play it involves a lot of trust for some types of play and I wouldn’t do a lot of that with someone on our first go. (Particularly things where I’m in the submissive role but even things where I am in the Dominant role I’d feel more restrained in what I’m doing because I’m not familiar with the other person and dont know if I can trust them with my limits/that they’ll be honest about their limits)

Just in THAT aspect I’d recommend repeats so that each session you can explore new things and push towards what type of scene you’d like to explore.

But there is an allure to tasting every dish in a restaurant too as it were. But sometimes it’s nice to go in and have people know “the usual” that you enjoy.

 

[steve969696]

Several people have said it, but time really matters. I have repeated with 7 girls (takes someone special) and all have been as good or in some cases much better the second third or fourth time.

However. All of these repeats were in the same week. I would be wary about repeating a year later, depending on how long she’s been doing this. If it’s been a few years she is a professional and the repeat will likely be equally professional. But if she was a newbie when you first saw her, a lot can change in a year in the profession. So I would be careful in that case.

 

[Coda87]

Thanks for all the good replies. When I used to only go to Japan once a year, it didn't seem worth it to repeat, because exactly as some of you have pointed out, so much time would pass that much of the familiarity with provider would have mostly faded out by then. But now that I might be coming more often, it made me reconsider. So maybe I'll try to repeat for one session this next time. I forgot to mention that in my youthful days, I don't feel like I got as much variety as I could/should have. So, I am trying to make up for it in my middle age. And it's so much fun.

 

[Frenchy]

I wasted way too much money on new faces to not be a fan of repeaters. But recently I tried two new ladies (sugar, not escorts) and was pleasantly surprised. But one was recommended by a member here, and the other I knew for sure we would click after the first greet-and-meet (only JPY 8,000 in drinks, so overall a worthy initial investment)

 

[Simonka]

I'm by no means an experienced monger though.

Lack of experience is not necessarily a bad thing. (you probably haven’t had many bad experiences yet) You can be more unbiased, motivated and enthusiastic about p4p. (Neither is having experience. It really depends on the person)

 

[Viggagadye]

Lack of experience is not necessarily a bad thing. (you probably haven’t had many bad experiences yet) You can be more unbiased, motivated and enthusiastic about p4p. (Neither is having experience. It really depends on the person)

Yes! For me, it still feels like I'm new to it all. Only had one bad experience so far. But again, I've only had very few altogether.
But being inexperienced, I am hesitant to give other people advice on something I know so little about. I do enjoy this forum though. Helps us not make the same mistakes as others who've been there before.

 

[Wwanderer]

I am hesitant to give other people advice on something I know so little about.

Don't be silly! Allowing people to do exactly that is the major function of the internet!

-Ww