Rush into the Exciting Unknown or Devil in the Details?

[iamyuu]

My latest session with Rikako got me thinking how much better would the experience be if we left the specifics out before the deed and just go with the flow, searching together for that sexual chemistry.

Do you feel that outlining your preferences, likes and dislikes, beforehand increases the chances of a more satisfying experience?

I speculate that for the ladies, it probably makes their work easier if they know what turns on and satisfies their client best.

For guys (like me) who also take pleasure in giving pleasure to the lady, knowing what the lady likes certainly is a plus.

At the same time, the excitement of trying something new and kinky is quite a rush. Which is why I would probably try to minimize the specifics for my first time with someone, and maybe go to more specifics for subsequent sessions.

Edit:
At the same time, I also understand some guys are only in town for a short time or on a tight P4P budget or only interested in variety and one-time encounters. Thus, want to make the most of the one time with a lady. Thus, may opt to be more specific.

Another situation we find are the virgins or inexperienced, those with none to little P4P or even sex experience. Some only know the sex they see on porn/JAV, skewing their expectations. Maybe helpful to let the lady know, so that she can take more initiative?

 

[krdxgm69]

Which is why I would probably try to minimize the specifics for my first time with someone, and maybe go to more specifics for subsequent sessions

I agree with this. Don't do something that could kill the chance to meet the lady again.

 

[iamyuu]

I agree with this. Don't do something that could kill the chance to meet the lady again.

I don't think making specific requests would kill the chance to meet the lady again, whereby being disrespectful/rude or unclean would.

I can imagine though that having too narrow preferences may make the lady wonder if we are open to more kinky stuff to spice things up.

 

[User#8628]

Excellent question.
You often hear that Japanese guys who are using shops are given the chance to fill in a sheet with their preferences. I wonder if that doesn't feel like a hassle to them and if it doesn't take some of the spontaneity away but at the same time it would be really convenient to know what someone likes.

 

[Anna Summer]

From my experience, it sometimes comes off as a checklist and thus a bit fake as I personally like to go with the flow and chemistry. It's awkward for me to do a role play and i rather be myself and natural than pretending to act a certain way (it makes the session turn out really bad. )
For example: in Germany I had someone who wanted to be dominated and it wasn't in my nature so the session was awkward for both of us.
If the escort in question has a website and an introduction page it's easy to see how her character is and if you would get along (of course that's not a guarantee)
On the other hand, some guys want a whole list what you are going to do to them and most of the time these guys never book and just want something to jack off to (that's not always the case of course but I've had a good handful of these...)
Of you do have something specific in mind it's still safe to ask her if she's comfortable doing so. But don't put force on it. Especially if it's already mentioned she doesn't provide it.

 

[krdxgm69]

I don't think making specific requests would kill the chance to meet the lady again, whereby being disrespectful/rude or unclean would.

Maybe. Just acting prudently is certainly safe. However, it is only my viewpoint
I am a boring person

 

[BB0523]

I was once asked about preference so I complied with the request... It was like I had listed a list of "what not to do" instead of preference... And no it was not out of the ordinary... When I asked why was I asked before our meeting to give them if they were not going to be considered... The look on her face was priceless... I laughed to myself not out loud....
Better to go with the flow and see how it works out....
You are never going to be 100% satisfied 100% of the time no matter how much u prepare..

My guess is she got my list confused with a different client... If that's the case I'm kicking myself for not listing up loads of freaky shit.... LOL...

 

[Frenchy]

The problem is that sometimes you may "go with the flow" and do something which she doesn't consider OK and then it kills the "flow" so to speak. Better maybe to know at least the "donts" in advance (on both sides by the way... a girl who would squeeze my nipples "in the flow" would get a quick "STOP THAT" shout in return ! )