Serious Relationships with Escorts/Clients?

[SashaSin]

I am interested in hearing about any serious relationship experiences some may have had or currently have with whom they initially met as an escort or client. How far did it go? Is the sex still exhilarating? How was the trust? Did you continue being an escort?

 

[jhingy567]

Every time a thread like this crops up, many hopes and dreams are shattered...

 

[Frenchy]

Define “serious relationship “.
For me a paid relationship is in a way more serious than a free one

 

[jhingy567]

Define “serious relationship “.
For me a paid relationship is in a way more serious than a free one

Serious is when you are buying furniture together.

 

[Frenchy]

Serious is when you are buying furniture together.

Touché !

 

[MikeH]

Touché !

Yeah, I thought that was kind of below the belt blow.

But then again, isn't it likely to be the last action you get below the belt after you have shopped for furniture?

 

[MaleMan]

Serious is when you are buying furniture together.

I dated a well known elite provider while in medical school in Los Angeles and yes we visited ikea on a few occasions. In the end she was young and hungry and loved the industry. I couldn’t argue with an ambitious woman so we cordially parted ways and still friends to this days.

A side note: sex was out of this world and when we see eachother we still book a room at the Ritz in marina del ray to reminisce

 

[Frenchy]

I dated a well known elite provider while in medical school in Los Angeles and yes we visited ikea on a few occasions. In the end she was young and hungry and loved the industry. I couldn’t argue with an ambitious woman so we cordially parted ways and still friends to this days.

A side note: sex was out of this world and when we see eachother we still book a room at the Ritz in marina del ray to reminisce

Ikea?! Ewwww....
I didnt fall that low

 

[Wwanderer]

Every time a thread like this crops up, many hopes and dreams are shattered...

And many are born...

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Fwiiw, I have and have had serious (romantic or at least emotionally deep) relationships with women whom I met as sex workers or through sugaring, but exactly because they are/were serious, I wouldn't feel comfortable posting much about them (at least not their serious aspects), especially on an open/public forum. Speaking generally, I don't see them as particularly different from relationships born out of other contexts and ways of meeting each other in terms of the factors you mention, @SashaSin. Why would they be? To me, sex work is exactly that, a job, and I have no problem at all with my partners having careers (including sw).

-Ww

 

[User#18046]

I’ve dated strippers but (other than SD) not escorts per se. The strippers I dated (in Dallas, TX) were some hard women. The sex was no better or worse than any other girlfriends I’ve had, but outside of bed they became increasingly difficult to be with because of drugs (speed, meth, coke were prevalent among strippers in Dallas in the late ‘80s, especially the night shift) and just a general ‘fuck you’ attitude towards life in general. These were physically attractive young women making a lot of money dancing but they had emotional baggage. I dated three total, never for more than 2 months, and we never really talked about their past or why they were who they were. I wanted the relationship to be “normal” when they weren’t at work, but they just weren’t good people to be with. Their friends were all strippers and/or drug users/dealers so they were never really away from it. Funny to remember that period of my life, I had forgotten about it.

 

[User#8628]

especially the night shift

Is there a day shift for stripping?

 

[User#18046]

Is there a day shift for stripping?

There is, and the women tend to be quite different. Since day shift is not crowded the girls tend to be older, maybe moms working while the kids are in school or else past their prime and unable to compete with the night girls. The night girls are usually younger, prettier and wilder.

Lots of US strip clubs even have a lunch buffet.

 

[User#8628]

There is, and the women tend to be quite different. Since day shift is not crowded the girls tend to be older, maybe moms working while the kids are in school or else past their prime and unable to compete with the night girls. The night girls are usually younger, prettier and wilder.

Lots of US strip clubs even have a lunch buffet.

I don't know about the US but in Japan, the moms are definitely able to compete with the other girls, often being the most reliable and popular providers.

 

[User#18046]

I don't know about the US but in Japan, the moms are definitely able to compete with the other girls, often being the most reliable and popular providers.

We shallow Americans tend to value beauty over good service but especially in a strip club where “officially” there isn’t supposed to be any sex anyway. So the day shift in the average American strip club looks like 45 year old biker chicks and the night shift looks like they walked out of an ‘80s Van Halen video. That’s a generalization and I haven’t lived in the USA in decades but that has been my experience.

 

[Frenchy]

We shallow Americans tend to value beauty over good service but especially in a strip club where “officially” there isn’t supposed to be any sex anyway. So the day shift in the average American strip club looks like 45 year old biker chicks and the night shift looks like they walked out of an ‘80s Van Halen video. That’s a generalization and I haven’t lived in the USA in decades but that has been my experience.

Ah, I’d like to see what the ladies in Van Halen, Motley Crue etc... vids look now, would be fun if they did some “30 years after” versions.

 

[librelu]

Ah, I’d like to see what the ladies in Van Halen, Motley Crue etc... vids look now, would be fun if they did some “30 years after” versions.

oh yeah

the bon jovi orgy file

 

[Simonka]

I've heard some strip clubs make girls work a few day shifts if they're working the night shift on the weekend, so it's possible to find prettier girls on the day shift. Depends on the area and club actually. I'd suggest you to visit tuscl website to see reviews of establishments. Western clubs in Japan are not open in daytime.

About drugs, i wish I could say drugs didn't exist in strip clubs but I can't. What I can say is there are girls who stay away from drugs and have a healthier approach to life. Not every girl you see is broken on the inside

Sometimes I see hostesses, strippers and escorts portrayed in a negative light here, and people quickly labeling them as having bad personality, mental disorders or being plain crazy. That's easy, chalking things up to a girl having bipolar disorder because she's a working girl, so she must be messed up in the head. I did see my fair share of that, but I have met young women with a perfectly functioning brain.

I would recommend any girl who works in clubs to have a real life outside of the neon colored bikinis and black lights, make friends with people who have different professions & lifestyles otherwise the strip club sucks you in and you can't get out. It's a good income to support yourself through school or work on weekends to support your income but clubs in Japan will kill your liver with the alcohol if you work everyday for ten years. Have a plan B, it sounds cliche but cliches are the truth sometimes. It's fun working in the industry for extra cash, but if your income and future depends on it it's very harmful for your mind and soul.

 

[monalisaoverdrive]

I dated a hostess before but I met her in a sharehouse (I've never been to a hostess club). It was fun. She wasn't crazy, bipolar or out of control or anything like that. The relationship wasn't super serious though and there were definitely some trust issues (she dated a client before) but overall I loved hearing her stories and she sure knew how to have fun.

 

[Wwanderer]

She wasn't crazy, bipolar or out of control or anything like that.

In my experience, lots of sex -workers with whom I’ve had relationships are “crazy, bipolar or out of control”, and the same is true of the non-sex-workers with whom I have had relationships. It seems likely to me that a woman has to be “crazy, bipolar or out of control” to get into a relationship with me!

-Ww

 

[User#8628]

It seems likely to me that a woman has to be “crazy, bipolar or out of control” to get into a relationship with me!

Skip that "with me".
I'm pretty sure all women make drama in relationships (because guys can be lazy and insensitive and ruin really good things like its nothing and don't get anything for your birthday).
I hardly think there is a correlation with sex workers or not, relationships often tend to be constant fights and dramas and the more dramatic ones are the more intense ones.

 

[User#18046]

...because guys can be lazy and insensitive and ruin really good things like its nothing and don't get anything for your birthday...

I pictured you saying that louder and faster as you went and being all out of breath with your fists clenched when you finished.

 

[Wwanderer]

Skip that "with me".
I'm pretty sure all women make drama in relationships (because guys can be lazy and insensitive and ruin really good things like its nothing and don't get anything for your birthday).
I hardly think there is a correlation with sex workers or not, relationships often tend to be constant fights and dramas and the more dramatic ones are the more intense ones.

My post was mostly joking, hence the smilie face, but speaking seriously I totally agree with that last sentence.

Although I thought that women make drama in relationships because they are so much better at it than men.

-Ww

 

[Babaram]

Working as a "buyer" for a large EU corporation, I had a deep professional relationship with the owner of Berlin's best escort service. Frau Schmidt used to say that "the biggest cause of attrition is my girls falling in love with my customers." I have been to a few weddings.

 

[split]

I made it to 6 days short of a year with one just recently. Talk about some vile, putrid hostility void of any rationality and reaching the depths of depravity. In the final stages, absolute hatred for me despite being honest about my background. 20 years long term relationships among 6 women, #6 was the nuclear warhead. But threats of me trying to stalk her we're quickly extinguished and not going to work on me. Having to use her own verbally hate-filled Katana to make the final kill convinced her she didn't know who she was dealing with. Don't even know why I'm telling this to you, but honestly, you can't make some of the experiences up.