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Guess who’s back (Shady’s back)

Mr. Doodoobrown.

Jokes aside, Im in Japan for over 3 months now and a bit concerned.
Somehow I lost my horniness. Or it went to a normal level? Would be happy to hear your answers.

Usually, I used to fap on a daily basis, now I dont have an urge to do it anymore (maybe once a week if at all). Big tiddies and booty pics used to turn me on, now I am left cold by that. Sadly I still get off to stuff related to my title, but normal stuff increases.

I still like women and really like their faces and style in Japan (working at a restaurant I see a lot), but I am not turned on like I used to be before. Is that a normal change? Should I worry about it? I was basically horny 24/7, now it doesnt bother me if I dont get off which was unthinkable before. Am I getting old? Do I just need to visit a Pink Salon? Did Kamisamas curse me with no boner while near most prettiest womens?
 
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It's the water I believe, jokes aside, have no fucking clue, I wank tops once a month as of recently and sometimes less, it started happening to me like in September or so after returning to Japan after a stay in Europe.

BTW, how did it go with the doodoo business? Any luck?

Welcome back!
 
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miaumiau said:
Guess who’s back (Shady’s back)

Mr. Doodoobrown.

Jokes aside, Im in Japan for over 3 months now and a bit concerned.
Somehow I lost my horniness. Or it went to a normal level? Would be happy to hear your answers.

Usually, I used to fap on a daily basis, now I dont have an urge to do it anymore (maybe once a week if at all). Big tiddies and booty pics used to turn me on, now I am left cold by that. Sadly I still get off to stuff related to my title, but normal stuff increases.

I still like women and really like their faces and style in Japan (working at a restaurant I see a lot), but I am not turned on like I used to be before. Is that a normal change? Should I worry about it? I was basically horny 24/7, now it doesnt bother me if I dont get off which was unthinkable before. Am I getting old? Do I just need to visit a Pink Salon? Did Kamisamas curse me with no boner while near most prettiest womens?
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Doubt it's Japan specifically. I'm on my fifth decade upon this mortal coil with almost two of those in Japan. Pretty much masturbating everyday unless I have a session scheduled at which I hold off a day or two. If not, I'll still have sex but I'll likely not come during sex and have to jack off at the end of the session.

Might not be helpful, but I use xVideos and search for "無修正" (uncensored) which gives all the JAV porn I prefer. Just standard vanilla stuff without any of that weird shit people outside Japan think porn here is like. Basically videos that feel like situations I've found myself in (which is quite varied as I've been in p4p for decades) and can visualize doing while I rub myself. For masturbating, I put a towel down on my stomach, press my cock down on it, and rub the underside with lubricant and my fingers (no grip, just pressure with the ridges of the fingers ribbed for your pleasure). It feels sort of like riding cowgirl sumata if you've ever done that at a fashion health. Put another way, it's masturbating similar to how women masturbate.

For actual sessions, I make sure to have a solid foreplay game not just to get her excited, but to make me stand at attention. Full disclosure that recent months I've been using generic viagra, but that just helped my penis keep up with my desire to fuck.

Really though, don't be surprised that your sexual drive matures and you're not popping a boner in the presence of beautiful women that are not being erotic with you. If you haven't already, it's totally normal to get to the point you can have full conversations while nude (and even getting a massage) without getting an erection, then it springs to life when things turn legit sexual. Such a maturity makes sex clubs and nude beaches less awkward.
 
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Thanks for your replies! Calms my mind.

Sadly, I did not find anything regarding Unko-san yet. But I also didnt try much because of this topic and financial things (which are sorted out now).

Im in the second half of reaching the 3 in front of the 0.
I am active tho (and lost some pounds), but I just realized I eat a lot less vegetables and fruits. I buy a salad at least once a week and drink juice but maybe thats a point too.

Just 4 months earlier I had such days, coming 3-4x, but now my mind isnt even thinking about how the east asian sashimi of my hot coworkers might taste without Soy Sauce. Getting a boner is not a problem at all, but wanting to play it out. Yeah maybe its maturing and I am currently satisfied by other means.

I got a bit worried because the only time I know I lost this horniness was when I was depressed. But I am actually pretty happy right now, so that confused me.
 
Winter seasonal affective disorder? If you come from a warm country and you're not used to winter, you stay inside more than you should, especially in big cities like Tokyo were you have less options for outdoor activity.
I have a skin problem during winter so I take Vit D, that helps a lot.
 
I only felt this when I was extremely, overexercised, depressed or too fixated on something I've been doing. Otherwise I have to help myself several times each day. Don't know how I remained virginity until this year.
 
Ok, I will bump up my nutrition and vitamins and see where this will take me.
If I get my first paycheck I might try my local shop. If gaijin is ok.
Maybe the time it takes to cum also changes from instant after first penetration to at least 30s or something haha, that be great. At least I could continue directly till I came again, still was weird everytime.
 
The wearing of face masks. You can’t experience human interaction and can’t see the pretty little Japanese faces passing you by everyday. I stopped wearing the mask and I hope others follow by my stubborn example. Japan is soooo fucked if they keep doing this. Nobody will want to make babies.
 
It may also be that you've got desensitized to seeing a bunch of Japanese women if you've been there for any length of time. Just a natural part of being in one place for a while.
 
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For what it's worth, by my third year living in Japan, I found myself in a similar situation. I wasn't even particularly interested in trying to pick up girls by that point. I started engaging in more bizarre behavior just to spice things up because abhorrent sexual activities and crude fetishes began having more of an appeal. Normal dating life--dinner, movie, drinks, missionary, sleep--wasn't really getting me off anymore.

I honestly think it was a combination of the obscenely stupid and mindless nature of Osaka and Osakans, combined with the bleak monotony of life in Japan. Wake up, bicycle to station, train, transfer, train, walk 15 minutes to office, sit at desk from 8am to 4pm, walk back to station, train, transfer, train, bicycle, and then the whole day culminates in me coming home to my shithole 2DK that's generally either fucking hot or fucking freezing, eating my mall bento, pounding a whole bunch of beers, beating off to some golden shower or itazura porn and then passing out, only to wake up again in six hours and do it all over again. It was like that fucking movie, Groundhog Day, only without pretty women with 90s hair-dos.

I honestly have nightmares where I wake up and I'm back in my apartment, lying on my futon in the gray winter morning and I've got first period to teach in two hours. And it's been fourteen fucking years since I came home. Not sure if that's giving you any hope, but it does make me feel better to write it. :):):)
 
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Keihan said:
For what it's worth, by my third year living in Japan, I found myself in a similar situation. I wasn't even particularly interested in trying to pick up girls by that point. I started engaging in more bizarre behavior just to spice things up because abhorrent sexual activities and crude fetishes began having more of an appeal. Normal dating life--dinner, movie, drinks, missionary, sleep--wasn't really getting me off anymore.

I honestly think it was a combination of the obscenely stupid and mindless nature of Osaka and Osakans, combined with the bleak monotony of life in Japan. Wake up, bicycle to station, train, transfer, train, walk 15 minutes to office, sit at desk from 8am to 4pm, walk back to station, train, transfer, train, bicycle, and then the whole day culminates in me coming home to my shithole 2DK that's generally either fucking hot or fucking freezing, eating my mall bento, pounding a whole bunch of beers, beating off to some golden shower or itazura porn and then passing out, only to wake up again in six hours and do it all over again. It was like that fucking movie, Groundhog Day, only without pretty women with 90s hair-dos.

I honestly have nightmares where I wake up and I'm back in my apartment, lying on my futon in the gray winter morning and I've got first period to teach in two hours. And it's been fourteen fucking years since I came home. Not sure if that's giving you any hope, but it does make me feel better to write it. :):):)
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They should make a movie about your life in Osaka. Asians win Oscars nowadays. You can pass for one of them. I would be happy to fork a few man yens for the production .
 
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Frenchy said:
They should make a movie about your life in Osaka. Asians win Oscars nowadays. You can pass for one of them. I would be happy to fork a few man yens for the production .
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The actors would refuse to even pretend to be drinking that much beer.
 
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The actors would refuse to even pretend to be drinking that much beer.
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Especially such a low quality beer

(Sorry, I should not re-open that super-divisive debate )

(… But Asahi sucks . Period)
 
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The wearing of face masks. You can’t experience human interaction and can’t see the pretty little Japanese faces passing you by everyday. I stopped wearing the mask and I hope others follow by my stubborn example. Japan is soooo fucked if they keep doing this. Nobody will want to make babies.
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Hard disagree. I've had the hottest Gyaru facefucks and bbjs with their masks on. Also went to a cosplay health place where the girl was a masked kunoichi and let's say I was the gaijin orc.:devil: Facemasks have always been a part of Japanese culture and I think it's hot as hell.
 
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IDK about your previous social life but it sounds like your normal social interactions increased and you're more adjusted. Honestly if you're healthy you really shouldn't be worrying about it too much. It also sounds like you're getting more satisfaction from your fetish. However if you're finding it more difficult to keep an erection when you want to be turned on is a problem. Should probably talk to a Doc. since it's super common in men anyway.
 
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Frenchy said:
They should make a movie about your life in Osaka. Asians win Oscars nowadays. You can pass for one of them. I would be happy to fork a few man yens for the production .
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But who could be cast to play me? Seems like Ke Huy Quan is the only viable male Asian actor around these days, and that pussy would probably cry if you tried shoving a tampon up his ass, forcing him to fuck a geriatric mamasan and he'd probably end up in the ER if you pumped him with a full 30-pack case of Keystone Light. Besides, I see myself as more of a Clint Eastwood type persona. Can you imagine sinking your cock into Sondra Locke??? To be born three decades earlier.
 
Girls are usually kind of shy despite being super slutty. So they'll hide their face with the mask by lifting it and covering her face and your cock. Some guys aren't into it while quite a few girls have a fetish for it. One girl told me she likes gloryholes which the mask is kind of like. (personally don't really like gloryholes tho.)

My favorite is when a gyaru lifts her mask and flashes her piercings or split tongue while asking for a blowjob.
 
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Frenchy said:
Especially such a low quality beer

(Sorry, I should not re-open that super-divisive debate )

(… But Asahi sucks . Period)
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FYI, I've upgraded to White Claw seltzer from Costco, comes out to around $1/can on sale. Toss a couple of those in my YETI with some ice cubes before I go out to water my plants. That's how you know when you've made it in life.
 
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