Dolce (SL) Struggling at Dolce for my first time

[jurai]

Title of Your Review:
Struggling at Dolce for my first time

Soapland Name:
Dolce

Soapland Provider Name:
Tsuki

Soapland Website:
https://www.yoshiwara-otome.com/top/

Appointment Length & Costs:
42000 for 100 mins (Gaijin fee)

Booking Method:
Walk-In

Date of Encounter:
February 2024

Location:
Incall Soapland Provided Room

Language Notes:
English/Japanese Mix

Narrative of the Encounter:
I'm here in Japan for about a week for an event I was competing in, it was a free trip and my 2nd time in Japan (First time as an adult and not a minor) so I was extremely excited about returning. I've always been a bit of pervert and enjoyed reading hentai and doujins but never really had a girlfriend or actual sex, I was always busy making excuses and never wound up being motivated to find one. Plus it was easy to just masturbate on my own so I never really saw a reason to pursue a partner other than for romance-- which I never really understood anyway, the thought that I would be intimate with another person scares me. I figured a soapland would be a unique experience I would like to try since I've really wanted to get rid of my Virginity and see if I could understand human intimacy more.

Anyway after the event was over ( I lost boohoo) I had a few more days left in and was tempted to go since my schedule was free. I had wanted to go the first time I was in Japan but I was with family (and also not old enough lol) so that couldn't happen. With it being a solo trip this time though, I had no need to hide anything and if not now then when right? I was also feeling a bit down from losing, which really gave me a drive to have a pick me up. That lead me to doing a bunch of research on soaplands in the area and wound up narrowing it down to Dolce and Y-shirt. I've read good things about Kaoru here but she didn't seem my type so I opted for Dolce since I gravitated more to the JK aesthetic. I had my eyes initially set on Bell, since I found her the most attractive but I wasn't too sure if I was able to reserve or not so I decided to just test luck and go in when she was starting and hope I could pick her.

Upon arrival early morning at Dolce I'm greeted by 2 men who are suited up waiting at the front desk.
I don't speak japanese but I've got a good grasp on comprehending and listening to it so I told them I knew a little upon entering, despite being a gaijin. (I'm Asian for what it's worth but not Japanese looking at all) They offered 2 pictures of who was available and told me about the fees because I was a foreigner. A little disappointed that Bell was not among them I had settled on the person I believe I'm reviewing, Tsuki and went to the waiting room.

My nerves were at an all time high waiting to be called, but I was playing it cool looking up some phrases on my phone I might need to say when communicating with Tsuki. I had done plenty of preparing up to this point, shaved, took care of hygiene, cut my nails and made sure my breathe was minty, wanted to make sure it went as well as possible and didn't want to turn her off.

15 minutes later I'm called by the tenchou and I am greeted by Tsuki ( Due to my nerves I had already started zoning out as she lead me upstairs. I wasn't exactly sure what she introduced herself as unfortunately and it felt awkward to ask again later hence my lack of clarity on what her name is.) She was pretty, a lot prettier than her photo downstairs and this was a pleasent surprise. Her hair was tied up in a ponytail, exactly my preferred hairstyle and her face was a lot cuter without the strange photoshop they do to their eyes to look anime-esque (I like anime but not to this extent) Lead into the room by her I could feel my heart racing as the realiziation that I would lose my virginity soon was upon me... How naive I was.

We started talking to start and this is where I found out that she knew a pretty decent amount of english, she had studied in America some years ago and was able to speak relatively well. That was great since I wouldn't need to go through broken japanese to try and communicate with her. We discussed a little about hobbies and what to do around Japan, but honestly as a virgin and newbie to this it felt really awkward and more like padding time for her so I'm not too sure how to feel about this segment. I had told her it was my first time and super nervous so I asked if she could lead and she obliged. After maybe 15 minutes of awkward conversation she said we should get cleaned up.

This is where I noticed that Dolce, or at least this particular room didn't have mats for the ever infamous matplay. Another small disappointment that I didn't get to try it out but I probably would have preferred more bedplay time anyway. We got cleaned up in the bath, brushed teeth and then went straight to the bed.

As soon as we sat down she immediately pounced on me and started LFK and touching my penis to get a rise out of it. I've never deep kissed before so this part was also awkward so after a few minutes we moved past this to BBBJ. This is where my despair begins, as I've never been a fan of BJ's in concept even in porn I was worried this would do nothing for me. It did nothing for me, I was semi erect and not totally flaccid but because of the lack of constant pressure I was really unable to really feel like it was doing much. Not to say she was bad at it, in fact I was actually really aroused by it but wasn't really feeling a pop on the horizon. After what felt like 10 minutes it felt obvious that I wasn't going to blow so she moved over to a HJ and tried to vigiorously milk the hell out of me. It also unfortunately ended in the same fashion. Sensing that she was getting annoyed I apologized and we went over to try DATY to rile myself up.

To preface this next part I have to give a little lore about me. My penis isn't exactly huge, in fact I'm certain I'm pretty below average in size and that's haunted me for most of my life. With me being a tall guy, overweight and a small penis my self esteem has always been fragile. What if I can't fit it in, or what if she thinks less of me cause of it; Those thoughts weighed heavy on my mind throughout my life, but ever more importantly in the moments leading up to the FS. To add even more insult to injury, I had a hernia when I was very young, so now I only have 1 testicle Yep I am living the dream.

After my mediocre DATY performance and feeling somewhat erect she motioned to grab the condom and I put it on, and we went into the true FS phase. Have you ever feared being in the spotlight during a performance and forgetting a line and freezing on the spot? Not knowing what to do but knowing whatever your next move was would seal your fate for the rest of the night? That was literally me, I couldn't maintain an erection at all during this section and though briefly I did penetrate her I would slip out and become flaccid very quickly. This looped for the remainder of our time, me desperately trying to fit my pathetic penis into her to no avail. I felt like the protagnist cuck in a NTR doujin, I was mortified. Was this it for me, unable to even have sex even while paying for it? I didn't but I felt as though if this went for longer I would breakdown and cry. Tsuki likely sensed this and opted to swap positions.

We try CG and RCG and other poses but nothing really works, it's the same song and dance, the same old me struggling to hold up my end of the bargain. All this time obviously since I have yet to blow even once, I felt a terrible sense of guilt to Tsuki, as she put in a tremendous effort to try and maintain my erection through more BBBJ and HJ's. This went on until she basically quit and said we should just take a break and chat more. I felt awful, I did want to have sex, but maybe mentally I wasn't thinking the sams. Ultimately we never resumed attempts and just chatted the remainder of the time away and showered. I don't really know how to really describe this experience as anything but despair.

Review Independence: Was this review requested by the Soapland?:
No, this review was written without a request from the Soapland or their provider.

Final Thoughts:
Not Recommended.

Closing Comments:
If Tsuki ever visits and reads this, please know that I am incredibly sorry for my performance and it's nothing to do with your appearence and skills because you were gorgeous and awesome. It's mainly to do with me.

I write this mainly to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and has any advice, or tips in general because this visit unfortunately felt like a waste. I did enjoy my time sort of but It's hard to say I would recommend my experience there, I would want to try again someday but I'm unsure when.

 

[TAG Manager]

Thank you for your submission!

Approved: 2/21/2024

 

[Danbo]

Tsuki
Profile of the girl since it is missing in your review.

Thanks for the review. Sorry for the bad outcome, but at least the girl tried her best to make it work.

I think it can happen to everyone to have a session that goes southwards and I think the reason is often the same, doesn't matter if you are a virgin or a veteran: too much stress

Of course there is no way to avoid being stressed out if this is new to you and the language barrier is also a problem, but it will get better.

Try to stay away from porn and masturbation, because both has a negative effect on your performance in real life, especially when you are new to this.

Better luck next time...the second time you will be more relaxed and thing will probably go smoother.

 

[SealedTears]

Final Thoughts:
Not Recommended.

"Not recommended", but I read nothing but positives from her. Maybe just not enough context, but I feel like her "quitting" is more like her trying to talk to you a bit to get you relaxed so you stop having performance anxiety

 

[WagyuManko]

Tough break. It seems so easy in theory to just go to a place where the women are pros at what they do and super beautiful to boot and think you're automatically then going to be popping loads all over the walls - I mean, it seems like that would be the obvious outcome, but the reality is there is a lot more underfoot in terms of nerves, performance anxiety, new environment, new experience, unsure of expectations or etiquette, language, being self-conscious with a girl you think is above you on the looks totem pole, etc., etc. It's a tall order to fill that rubber sometimes even for someone much older and much more experienced.

On the plus side, you aren't a virgin anymore, though I'm sure not popping with your first feels like unfinished business. Guessing you aren't still in Japan, but if you are could you see her again? I bet things would go MUCH smoother the second time now that you understand how things go.

Other than that, just go home, go to some college house parties (assuming you're a college kid), do some beer bongs and find a girl there who wants you to lay pipe and get some experience in a more natural/casual environment.

Mongering has been around since the dawn of time and mongering shall exist until the end of time, so there will be plenty of mongering to be had when you are more confident.

 

[Alice]

The “not recommended” conclusion is a bit weird.
She sounds like a great option for non Japanese speakers. Yes the gaijin tax is a minus, but still cheaper than getting a fluent girl from a high end shop or even Mikan from RoboDeli (which is delivery health, no FS included).
Also too bad about the mat play but that seems the current trend for “inexperienced girl” themed shops.

Anyway, sorry to hear things didn’t work out for you this time around. Don’t give up! 😊

 

[Maxblack]

Protip: she got paid, she’s satisfied.
Sure she’d love you to pop, but only because she knows YOU think if you don’t cum the session was a failure.
A provider told me about one of her best clients: books her for overnights monthly. They just eat dinner, cuddle, watch movies, bathe, chat, snuggle, and sleep.
He has no expectation of popping, and since she knows that, they both have a great time and are satisfied.

TLDR: you got naked with a beautiful woman and she touched your penis many different ways and boobs and yeah all that. You had a GREAT experience. Go do it again and enjoy it!

 

[Doggyfong]

They just eat dinner, cuddle, watch movies, bathe, chat, snuggle, and sleep.

What man truly want

 

[DragonSlayer]

I felt like the protagnist cuck in a NTR doujin, I was mortified. Was this it for me, unable to even have sex even while paying for it? I didn't but I felt as though if this went for longer I would breakdown and cry.

Dude, get that out of your mind ASAP. A lot of people underperform out of anxiety, even seasoned veterans in the most ideal of conditions with the love of their lives. You should have went to a soap shop knowing it would probably be a bit awkward but a learning experience first and foremost, I know that in doujins people's hips just move on their own and everyone has multiple synchronized orgasms their first time around, but getting decent at this takes time just like everything else, I'm sure you'll be less anxious the next time now that you got that silly v-card burden off your back.

What you should really work on is your self esteem though. Guess what I'm also tall, fat and with a below average pp, and becoming confident in myself took a lot of time, and at the end I realized I was a perfectly normal person capable of love and sex like any other, it was me who unconsiously rejected this, and not the people I came across in my life. I can't even try to guess what your life has been like but I'm willing to bet you're not giving yourself enough credit. Take it easy buddy.

 

[Svidale]

Agree. Your mindset has to change. Treat this as a learning experience. Here are some pointers.

1. Stop jacking off to hentai five times a day before that becomes the only thing you can ever cum to.
2. Stop seeing everything as awkward. You paid for a service, this is your chance to experiment. They have seen it all.
3. Consider taking a pill next time to keep you hard. It'll at least remove that worry from your mind and you might feel more into it.

There's nothing wrong with doing this as a virgin. I would actually recommend it to people who have had zero experience at an older age. But I see many of these 'first time ever' reviews and it always seems to be a wake-up call for them.

 

[WagyuManko]

Another pro tip: find a rubber that works for you and bring your own and politely ask if you can use them. They may or may not allow it, but it's worth asking. It's even better if you bring a sealed three pack so they can see they haven't been tampered with.

I was just in a shinchi and made the mistake of not bringing my own and the girl put one on that was probably literally 1/8" thick, it was white and you couldn't even barely see my jimmy through it even after it was stretched on, it was so thick...yeah, I didn't pop either. But she had a great personality and tried her best so it was still fun. So yeah, point being, pop failures happen to everyone, and for various reasons.

And don't worry about your body - I know that's easier said than done, but these are professionals, the VAST majority of guys they see have less than ideal bodies, and it doesn't even phase them as long as you are clean with good hygiene.

 

[Acid Burn]

My penis isn't exactly huge, in fact I'm certain I'm pretty below average in size and that's haunted me for most of my life. With me being a tall guy, overweight and a small penis my self esteem has always been fragile. What if I can't fit it in, or what if she thinks less of me cause of it; Those thoughts weighed heavy on my mind throughout my life, but ever more importantly in the moments leading up to the FS.

Smaller is better in p4p. Just think, nobody is ever gonna say your ding dong is too big to even try to put it in. Also, you can go all in. Imagine all those dudes so big they can’t put it all the way inside the girl.

Overweight? Hey, some girls like husky dudes. Try taking a look at all the couples around you when you go out, it's not just skinny buff guys with partners out there. Get back out there and do more p4p! The more p4p I’ve done over the years, the less self-conscious I’ve become about myself and my body.

Also do you have a death grip when you fap? Stop that. Get used to a lighter grip. It’ll help if you don’t fap in the days leading up to your p4p.

Maybe try one of the happy ending massage places over here. You jumped right to an FS type of establishment, try something easier maybe.

 

[kalas9]

I'm an overweight guy myself and I had a kinda similar experience: I was with a GORGEOUS provider (way out of my league), I was up from the moment I saw her but I couldn't maintain my erection while inside of her (I had no problem outside of her). We tried several times but to no avail. While this part alone was mentally rough, it was even worse knowing I took a pill, just in case. I felt so bad not being able to "reward" her efforts on top of having a selective erectile dysfonction.

I talked about this to my female friends/colleagues after the session, they managed to cheer me up and we ended up laughting about it less than 30 min later, they turned that wrecking experience into a little incident. To this day, I still don't know how or why it happened but it's water under the bridge now.

Easier said than done but don't let that incident block you, meet more providers, build some confidence and of course, have fun.

 

[WagyuManko]

I'm an overweight guy myself and I had a kinda similar experience: I was with a GORGEOUS provider (way out of my league), I was up from the moment I saw her but I couldn't maintain my erection while inside of her (I had no problem outside of her). We tried several times but to no avail. While this part alone was mentally rough, it was even worse knowing I took a pill, just in case. I felt so bad not being able to "reward" her efforts on top of having a selective erectile dysfonction.

I talked about this to my female friends/colleagues after the session, they managed to cheer me up and we ended up laughting about it less than 30 min later, they turned that wrecking experience into a little incident. To this day, I still don't know how or why it happened but it's water under the bridge now.

Easier said than done but don't let that incident block you, meet more providers, build some confidence and of course, have fun.

Must have some pretty cool female friends/coworkers, no fucking way would I be telling any of mine about my mongering escapades, that's just for the boys. Ballsy to tell your coworkers in particular.

 

[DragonSlayer]

That was definitely TOO MUCH INFORMATION for a work environment for so many reasons I won't even bother listing them here. I hope they really were your friends...

edit: LOL what the fuck

 

[kalas9]

Must have some pretty cool female friends/coworkers, no fucking way would I be telling any of mine about my mongering escapades, that's just for the boys. Ballsy to tell your coworkers in particular.

We got really close when our department was reduced to 3 people. We sometimes (rarely) even share some porn, I send them a Aika jav to show how a soapland works. I told them about my 6 P4P experiences and even give them a play by play of my bdsm session (to their demand). Weirdly, while we often talk about sex with my male friends, I don't think I'd tell them about my escapades.

 

[kalas9]

That was definitely TOO MUCH INFORMATION for a work environment for so many reasons I won't even bother listing them here. I hope they really were your friends...

They're still my friends (my P4P escapades started late 2023) and I trust them

 

[DragonSlayer]

They're still are my friends (my P4P escapades started late 2023) and I trust them

Can't argue with a confident man. 👀

 

[WagyuManko]

We got really close when our department was reduced to 3 people. We sometimes (rarely) even share some porn, I send them a Aika jav to show how a soapland works. I told them about my 6 P4P experiences and even give them a play by play of my bdsm session (to their demand). Weirdly, while we often talk about sex with my male friends, I don't think I'd tell them about my escapades.

Errr, you may find your department reduced to 2 people if you keep sending them porn links. Geez man. No woman is turned on by or attracted to a guy's sex industry escapades, you gotta use your big head on this one.

 

[kalas9]

Errr, you may find your department reduced to 2 people if you keep sending them porn links. Geez man.

First, you'd probably be surprised to know that they were the ones who sent porn first and we're clear that this is just for fun, no ulterior motive.
Second, it doesn't happen often and when it does, it's mostly weird/funny, nothing extreme.

 

[Cinnabums]

Errr, you may find your department reduced to 2 people if you keep sending them porn links. Geez man. No woman is turned on by or attracted to a guy's sex industry escapades, you gotta use your big head on this one.

I haven't met all women yet but I sure know a few being turned on by different things.

Also, never noticed he said he flirted with his colleagues, they were having fun discussing shit.

 

[WagyuManko]

I haven't met all women yet but I sure know a few being turned on by different things.

Also, never noticed he said he flirted with his colleagues, they were having fun discussing shit.

Meh, defend it if you want, but it sure seems like an awful lot of risk for little to quite frankly zero reward. Guy can disregard common sense warnings and continue shitting where he eats though.

Anyway, this isn't a thread about that guy, so may as well get back on track advising OP what he can do to have a better experience next time.

 

[Fukuoka Jones]

Protip: she got paid, she’s satisfied.
Sure she’d love you to pop, but only because she knows YOU think if you don’t cum the session was a failure.
A provider told me about one of her best clients: books her for overnights monthly. They just eat dinner, cuddle, watch movies, bathe, chat, snuggle, and sleep.
He has no expectation of popping, and since she knows that, they both have a great time and are satisfied.

TLDR: you got naked with a beautiful woman and she touched your penis many different ways and boobs and yeah all that. You had a GREAT experience. Go do it again and enjoy it!

Wise words! Others have reflected similar, too. Gives me hope that OP is seeing the bigger picture.

 

[Sudsy]

We got really close when our department was reduced to 3 people. We sometimes (rarely) even share some porn, I send them a Aika jav to show how a soapland works. I told them about my 6 P4P experiences and even give them a play by play of my bdsm session (to their demand). Weirdly, while we often talk about sex with my male friends, I don't think I'd tell them about my escapades.

They're still my friends (my P4P escapades started late 2023) and I trust them

You'd better trust them, because the minute one of them decides she's had enough of you, she produces that email and you're sunk. Never put anything like that in a traceable form.

 

[kalas9]

Meh, defend it if you want, but it sure seems like an awful lot of risk for little to quite frankly zero reward. Guy can disregard common sense warnings and continue shitting where he eats though.

Anyway, this isn't a thread about that guy, so may as well get back on track advising OP what he can do to have a better experience next time.

You'd better trust them, because the minute one of them decides she's had enough of you, she produces that email and you're sunk. Never put anything like that in a traceable form.

You couldn't know that but on top on being overweight, I'm shy and have trust issue, I wouldn't have started that kind of discussion on my own. I wouldn't take the risk of losing my job or making our work relationship awkward. They're happily married and I never considered them as potential sex partner, we're just friends.

You both seem to think I'm the only one talking while they're listening but this is not the case, we share stories (they tell personal stories and I tell personal + P4P stories), this is not a one-way street. They even asked me a play by play of my bdsm session.

Sudsy, I really don't have to worry about that since everything is traceable, not just my messages (they were the ones who initiated that kind of conversation).

If, for some reasons, someone wants to talk about my friendship, my DM are open.

Now, please let's go back to cheer up OP.