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Hello,

I am currently a virgin in my early 30’s and after having a lot of thought and consideration have decided to take the plunge.

I will be in Japan later this summer for a week and am trying my best to be prepared and to find the best option for my first time. I want to try a soap land but I know 0 Japanese. If you have any recommendations or advice all are welcome. Even if you want to talk me out of losing my v-card this way. I’m just ready to get a taste of what sex really is like.

Thank you for reading.
 
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jwucyfwut said:
Hello,

I am currently a virgin in my early 30’s and after having a lot of thought and consideration have decided to take the plunge.

I will be in Japan later this summer for a week and am trying my best to be prepared and to find the best option for my first time. I want to try a soap land but I know 0 Japanese. If you have any recommendations or advice all are welcome. Even if you want to talk me out of losing my v-card this way. I’m just ready to get a taste of what sex really is like.

Thank you for reading.
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Welcome, you need to be more specific but initial advice is to read recent soap land reviews.
 
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jwucyfwut said:
Hello,

I am currently a virgin in my early 30’s and after having a lot of thought and consideration have decided to take the plunge.

I will be in Japan later this summer for a week and am trying my best to be prepared and to find the best option for my first time. I want to try a soap land but I know 0 Japanese. If you have any recommendations or advice all are welcome. Even if you want to talk me out of losing my v-card this way. I’m just ready to get a taste of what sex really is like.

Thank you for reading.
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FFS, is it just me or is anyone else wishing for another pandemic?

OP, you have zero experience with women. You have zero Japanese ability. Presumably, you have never been to Japan before. And somehow, in your mind, it seems like a good idea to go to a country you know jack shit about, where you can't speak a lick of the language and then try to figure out how to pay to enter a vagina for the first time in your life? Not to mention that you're almost two decades older than when most normal males begin sexual activity?

I don't know what your specific personal/emotional/developmental issue is, or how/why any human being can manage to be a virgin at your age (and FYI, at your age your dick isn't going to work at 100% capacity so pick up some generic ED meds ASAP) but I can tell you this and I'm trying to be helpful: You are setting yourself up for a fucking disaster.

There's obviously a reason you're "saving" yourself for this trip to Japan so you can attempt to copulate with a Japanese woman, and it's probably due to some sort of fear of doing so with a woman back wherever you're from. Small dick, insecurity, fear of performance failure or judgment, etc., but whatever the reason, it is NOT A GOOD IDEA TO TOUCH YOUR FIRST VAGINA IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND.

Man up, go on Arrangements or some other such website, book a couple of independent providers and explain your situation/predicament. Most of them will work with you. Amazingly enough, you probably aren't the first near-middle-aged virgin they've come across, and then you'll also have the luxury of actually being able to communicate with them. And while you're at it, start studying basic Japanese. It sounds like you've got a month or more and that's more than enough time to at least figure out what it feels like putting it in the right hole and then learning a few basic Japanese phrases.

And I wasn't kidding about the generic sildenafil or tadalafil. Get both, experiment with both. Bang at least four or five understanding indies back home before even thinking about trying that shit in Japan. Because trust me, very few working girls--in Japan or anywhere--are going to give a shit if you spend the entire 90 minutes sitting on the bed, shivering and blubbering and sobbing and not knowing how to put on a condom which is impossible anyway because you've gone tragically limp and trying to explain your pathetic life story on your iPhone through Google Translate.
 
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Keihan said:
FFS, is it just me or is anyone else wishing for another pandemic?
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Oh god, I don’t wanna be locked down in a hotel surviving on FamilyMart bentoes again for two weeks straight
 
Keihan said:
FFS, is it just me or is anyone else wishing for another pandemic?
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Let's try that again....

OP, I hope you don't mind if I offer you some friendly advice regarding your plans. It seems that you may have limited experience with women and Japanese culture, and it seems you haven't had the opportunity to visit Japan before. Considering these factors, it's important to consider the potential challenges that lie ahead. Engaging in compensated intimate experiences, in a foreign country where you are unfamiliar with the language and culture, as your first experience may not be the wisest decision.

Instead, I would like to suggest an alternative approach that could lead to a more positive outcome. There are websites like Arrangements where you can connect with independent providers local to you who may be understanding of your situation. They likely have encountered similar circumstances before, so communication would be more feasible. Additionally, taking the time to study basic Japanese could prove beneficial during your stay. With a month or more ahead, you could learn some essential phrases and gain a better understanding of the language in addition to getting some sexual experience under your belt, so to speak.

Furthermore, I'd like to emphasize the importance of your well-being. If you're experiencing concerns about your sexual performance, it might be helpful to consult a medical professional regarding generic ED medications such as sildenafil or tadalafil. Experimenting with them beforehand, within the comfort of your home, and engaging with a few understanding partners could build your confidence before venturing abroad.

Please understand that I'm only trying to help you avoid any potential challenges or discomfort you may encounter. It's crucial to approach these matters with thoughtfulness and care.

(In case it's not obvious, I just rewrote Keihan's post - but nicely.)
 
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Since you very obviously still don't have me on your actual ignore list, contrary to all of your previous claims, let me be the first to say that was a very helpful, lucid, practical and intelligent suggestion to Andy Stitzer up there. Also, I wouldn't say I "crave" attention but I should point out that while I haven't taken any sort of initiative to address you, personally, for quite some time since your hissy fit in the bisexuality thread, you have made pointed allusions to me quite a few times (including in your sig line, thank you). Sigh...I digress...it's a curse being popular. I feel like the pretty head cheerleader in HS that Andy probably still has angry masturbatorial fits over. I may even be getting wet!

But back to the topic at hand...OP, our friend here was indeed correct about the Indy providers on TAG. They are a much, MUCH better option for someone in your situation, will be far more accommodating and understanding than a typical SL worker in Japan (although I get the distinct feeling you're afraid of showing your pee-pee to a white/western woman) and you alleviate the risk of getting thrown out of the shop for trying to beg through Google Translate. And I'll go one step further. If you think Japanese/Asian women aren't going to be as much or far more judgmental than white/western women regarding whatever apprehension or insecurity it is that you have that's caused you to somehow be a virgin at your age, you're dead fucking wrong. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, talks shit and gossips like an Asian woman. Even further, in Japan, the enduring stereotype of white men amongst Japanese females is that they are 1) weaker/softer and therefore "kinder" than Japanese men and then 2) they have larger penises than Japanese men. That means if you're packing 3-inches of hard thunder, you're probably going to be gossiped about and laughed at behind your back far, far, FAR more by Japanese working girls while out drinking with friends than by any normal working girl back home, none of whom expect anything extraordinary from you and will forget all about you 5 minutes after you put your pants back on.

Japan is simply not an ideal sex vacation destination for desperate, middle-aged virgins, and especially not those who aren't familiar with Japan and can't speak the language. Thailand or the PI is where you should be looking, and preferably the PI. Not only will the bar girls NOT judge you, NOT care about whatever SHORT-comings you have and NOT care that you're a creepy, overweight, balding weirdo who has panic attacks when you pull his Hanes tighty-whities down--so long as you've got that blue U.S. passport and will whisk them off somewhere with clean drinking water, air conditioning and actual human rights, even you could score some 19yo spinner to bring back home to Akron, OH where she'll suck/fuck you dry every night for at least two years (because that's the point where she can self-sponsor under USCIS regulations, no longer needs you and she'll run off with some hot 25yo sailor).
 
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Keihan said:
If you really want to be nice you should translate that into Vulcan or Dwarvish or Elvish so he'll understand it better.
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OK.


Vulcan:
OP, ti'u'mey, naDev 'oH 'e' vItlhutlhlaH vItlhutlhvam. jIHwI', vItlhutlhlaH, pongwIj je lI'be'ghach'e'. 'e' chelmo' qarDaSpu' ghaH vItlhutlhvam, je lughajQo'chu'ghach'e'. leghlu'ta' je, vItlhutlhvam'e' pagh qechvam'e' Suq'a'pu' 'e' vItlhutlhvam'e' pagh tIqchu'be'. bIQtIq So'Ha' jImejwIj jImej neH je vItlhutlh'a'. Suq'a'pu' ghawranpu' 'e' Hol je, pagh Hol ghaH'e' chu' lo'laHghach.

HeghmeH vItlhutlhvam'e' ja'chuq'a'? lI'laH 'ejbe' Hoch 'e' Dajuvpu'. tlhInganpu' So'Ha', 'e' vItlhutlhvam tuq, pe'vIl yIghoSlaHbe'. 'ach tlhIngan Hol mung'e' vItlhutlhvam jatlh 'ej je vItlhutlh'e' tlhInganpu' tuq'e'. vaj 'e' vItlhutlhvam'e' Suq'a'pu' tlhIngan Hol vInej'a'pu', 'ej jImejmeyDu'chu' SoHvaD veS. Hol jatlh laDmey je 'ej jatlhbe'chugh vItlhutlh.

cho'nI' jatlh, vItlhutlh'e' buSHa'be'. vItlhutlhlaHnISbogh, puv Sovlu'wI'pu' HIvje'mey jImej'e'. qatlh sildenafil je tadalafil, 'ej ghaHghach vItlhutlhvam yItlhutlh'e'. 'e' Daq jImejchu', bIQ'a'pu'vaD, vInuQ'e', ghaH ghotpu'jaj vItlhutlh'e'.

ghojwI', vay' yIbuSlaHbe'chugh 'e' tu'laH'e'. pagh jImej'e' 'ej bIQtIq 'e' vItlhutlhvam'e' vItlhutlhchu'. qatlh lo'laHghach'e'. 'oH 'e' vItlhutlhlaHbe' 'ej yIlo'qu'.

Dwarvish:
OP, dorin, kazâr na sazin kod i'mugthûl ayr i'molthûn. Gabil i'nar azok, i'thangi ayr i'aruman Japan, ayr i'thangi na visai azok. I'nar ayr i'mar gabil, ayr i'azanat i'morzan durbarud. Gabil azok i'mag, ayr i'klôr ayr i'kazad ayr i'uzbadul, i'lathar i'mar ayr i'azanat, ayr i'ashnu i'fathîn ayr i'dokh-khazad, gabil ugriz.

Nar azok, ayr i'uzbadul narzarum, ayr i'dhul i'gloin durbarud. Ered i'Azhor ayr i'Stari, i'uzbadul ayr i'khazad ayr i'udûlkhazad ayr i'aruman, ayr i'uzbadul ayr i'azanat. Gabil ayr i'môvu ayr i'Kuzdul azok, ayr ayr i'nar durbarud. Durin, ayr i'barazin ayr i'Kuzdul ayr i'azanat, gabil i'mar, ayr i'azanat ayr i'ashnu i'fathîn ayr i'dokh-khazad, gabil i'lathar i'mar.

Ziltharod, nar azok, i'mîr ayr i'arîk. Nar i'olukaz ayr i'mazûr i'ashnu, azok nar mazar i'umud azok i'uzbadud ayr i'morzan, azok i'las ayr i'ashnu ayr i'udûl. Kîd ayr, ayr i'kazad ayr i'azanat ayr i'mar ayr i'mukhtar narzarum. Gabil ayr i'zirak ayr i'mazûr, ayr i'bazâba, ayr i'uzbadul ayr i'dhul i'môvu ayr i'Khazad-dûm, azok i'lathar i'mar ayr i'ashnu ayr i'udûl ayr i'morzan.

Dûm, ayr i'nar narzarum, ayr i'dhul i'azanat ayr i'uzbadul nar mazar. Durbarud ayr ayr i'dumaz, ayr i'muzh ayr i'manadur ayr i'umud. Azok i'mamuk ayr i'mazûr narazod. Uzbadul i'dokh-khazad i'ovrazin.

Elvish:
OP, bautha, lelyat nin i dalad. I vereth aia i dannas, ar i gad i luhta i Japan, amin ilqa nin er i gova i'thelas. Amin dîn i lûgor amin aia, i dîn i dannas velethrim. Vornin i ganed i'nadel na sah i turin othelas, er amin vereth i gîn.

Na gialle i gilith amin i'sultho thiriath i ven, i heled vethedirna erin beria. Tôl nin i'rith i Arrangements amin viliath i nenadar arthrimas, amin hira i nannathron amin evarthas. Naer i tenid vethedirna erin anto i elenath i tol amin. Fîr i gwaith o lembas, amin vae nin i sinomeithel amin na tulu i ven, i'lirima i edraithel amin, cened i ven.

Olorin, nae amin hoio i anto i eria iertho. Maer i lûthon amin aníraer o i thalion, amin leithio i annûn istraeth i ED, arin sildenafil ar tadalafil. Erith o maer, i ereb amin i 'len i'nindol, ar hira i elenath amin vae yesterin, na chentha nin i tham amin leithia i oritha ven.

Cared amin i aia, aerlinnath nin i'nethar aníraer ar vedui amin nin lhûgtho aníra. Úvetha nin i nartha i ven ar i úcarer nin aníra i vîr. Amin veretho i chwîl na sîrath i'nethar na lathraes ar lûtho nin. Ithildin i'nîn amin i sigil.
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Keihan said:
If you'd gone to HS with me you would've hated me for life.
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You'd be surprised what I was like in high school. Remember, I came to Japan pre-Internet... you didn't meet anime nerds here back then (unless they were homegrown).
 
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Fact is, none of us know anything about OP or his situation. I can understand the idea of combining a big trip with a milestone sexual experience. No, I don't think a soap or a DH is the best idea with no Japanese and no previous experience in Japan or elsewhere. Might be a fantastic experience, or a fantastically bad one. I think the solution is close at hand: our own indies. They have been reviewed hundreds of times here. Positive experience guaranteed. No Japanese needed. They know exactly how to handle the situation. I have never booked escorts in Europe or the US, but my impression is that it might be a good idea to rather do it in Japan. Friendlier, safer and less expensive. And if it's a Japanese lady he's after, there's Manami. I can't think of anybody better regardless of where he's from.
 
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Fact is, none of us know anything about OP or his situation. I can understand the idea of combining a big trip with a milestone sexual experience. No, I don't think a soap or a DH is the best idea with no Japanese and no previous experience in Japan or elsewhere. Might be a fantastic experience, or a fantastically bad one. I think the solution is close at hand: our own indies. They have been reviewed hundreds of times here. Positive experience guaranteed. No Japanese needed. They know exactly how to handle the situation. I have never booked escorts in Europe or the US, but my impression is that it might be a good idea to rather do it in Japan. Friendlier, safer and less expensive. And if it's a Japanese lady he's after, there's Manami. I can't think of anybody better regardless of where he's from.
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Yes, and a big plus for seeing escorts in Japan is the Love Hotel scene.
You certainly don’t want to call them over to your own place back in the home country or pay for a regular hotel specifically for the occasion.
 
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Keihan said:
Japan is simply not an ideal sex vacation destination
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All the needed advice can be pinpointed to this one sentence.
 
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Thanks for all the helpful advice. I don’t know where all these assumptions are flying in from (not white, virgin due to religious reasons, picked japan because it’s my last stop of my Asia trip). I just always wanted to try SL. But I will reconsider that for the future after I have better grasp of the language. Thank you all for the advice (and the judgement lol)
 
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Cinnabums said:
Not going to write the name and shop a handful of members repeat over and over but check this thread and then read OPs reviews!
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How rude of you not to even invite the guy for a friendly round of Runka Bulla.
 
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jwucyfwut said:
Thanks for all the helpful advice. I don’t know where all these assumptions are flying in from (not white, virgin due to religious reasons, picked japan because it’s my last stop of my Asia trip). I just always wanted to try SL. But I will reconsider that for the future after I have better grasp of the language. Thank you all for the advice (and the judgement lol)
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I also wanted to try SL so I took the plunge earlier this month (reviews pending approval).

I went to Versailles twice, booking through the ladies Twitter DM was very easy. Large variety of girls to choose from. Not cheap, but you get what you pay for. Quite a good choice for first SL experience.

I would recommend if you can accept the price.
 
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jwucyfwut said:
Thanks for all the helpful advice. I don’t know where all these assumptions are flying in from (not white, virgin due to religious reasons, picked japan because it’s my last stop of my Asia trip). I just always wanted to try SL. But I will reconsider that for the future after I have better grasp of the language. Thank you all for the advice (and the judgement lol)
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Not going to write the name and shop a handful of members repeat over and over but check this thread and then read OPs reviews!
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Kaoru of Y Shirt?

Honestly OP, don’t give up.
Soapland is an amazing sensation and there are shops and girls that are ok with no Japanese, it just greatly limits your options.

Japan is basically a sexy paradise with all the different types of shops (still a kind of fantasy of me to work in any type of the shops at least one day). It’s just not aimed at tourists like some other countries.
 
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what if you get addicted and dont want to leave japan? lol

my first P4P sucks but yeah I did in homecountry. I was in addicted state and keep going to massage parlors even when I no longer able to get erection.

I assume you don't have P4P in your country and decided to do it in Japan?

only recently I managed to gather courage to try SL in Japan. I plan to get citizenship to hopefully open more doors for me.
 
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