The reasons you couldn't cum when p4p

[Yuriko]

It's very rare for me that I can't make my clients cum, by my 1.5 years experience of p4p, it's still abt 94% of clients achieved, but the rest couldn't achieve.

The reason I could think of they were either,

nerveous, too much alchohole a night before or right before, sadly to be honest not much chemistry, something not satisfying( men's body can be so honest...), mentally something blocks,
too tired, not practiced for years, recent break ups, need more sexual interaction, etc.

Have you ever come accross??

Of course, to cum is not only the purpose, when not providers will definately try her best, to keep the upbeat atmosphere.

Let's make it light and fun spirit here. Not like you should do, bla bla bla, I'm not asking for an advice. Just an ideas of what was it that you guys experienced, reasons that providers couldn't make you cum.

 

[greenhawk]

One time while using [Redacted] I had trouble cumming when she was jacking me off toward the end of our session. I don't know why I was having trouble cumming, but we went back to sumata and then when she started jacking me off again I really had to think about having sex instead of laying back and enjoying the hand job. She got me off, but it had been a long time since I had gotten a hand job and I forgot how sensitive it feels when a woman jacks you off instead of yourself. Not only did my leg start twitching like crazy, but I am sure I made an incredibly funny face while cumming too lol.

 

[Durg50]

I'm not asking for an advice. Just an ideas of what was it that you guys experienced, reasons that providers couldn't make you cum.

Usually due to alcohol. If im a bit drunk Then CFS wont work, only HJ. In non p4p being a bit drunk is good for me as i can f*ck for a long time.

Not finding the provider attractive or lacking chemistry isnt a problem for me, I just close my eyes and pretend Im with one of the attractive ladies from my office.

 

[steve969696]

Very often i think it was because they were with another provider earlier that day or maybe several times that week. A lot of us only do this on business travel so we pack it in. And there is not so mivh recovery time.

I was with a duo a few weeks ago and came one time but could not cum a second time even after 2 hours. We were together again later that week and i confessed i had cum twice with another escort earlier in the day and that was why. We all had a good laugh. And came twice!

 

[BB0523]

When the provider is too mechanical and or fake.. Or she is just not into it... Or having an off day... Many reasons tbh but it doesn't mean there is no effort on my part... Just sometimes u need that chemistry or connection... Most women think it's so easy to get a guy to cum and statistics also proove that it is... Usually, but as guys get more experience and age then I think they get more selective (IMO) but I could be wrong... Quality is better than quantity.... But if there is quality then as much as possible is highly likely... Not all will agree with this.... Of course

 

[Sudsy]

Once in a blue moon, I have a problem because the provider is too much for me - I get so turned on nothing will work properly, aside from getting it up.

This used to be a lot more of a problem when I was younger and incredibly turned on by even the scent of a woman, turns out women in general don't care for a guy who goes on for too long.

 

[Majestyk]

In university, I probably had more dirty, alcohol-fuelled sex than romantic, love-you-with-all-my-heart couplings. Sad, I know.
That all changed when I entered the workforce and took on one stressful job after another. Beer, which I had imbibed each night to help me unwind, started to become a liability in the lovemaking department. It negatively affected my performance and put me off regular liaisons.
Eventually, I wised up. I put more attention to my physical and mental well-being. It also helped that I met someone at work who became the first of several really serious relationships in my life.
My P4P adventures overseas later helped in terms of increased discipline as I got older. I thought I could get away with drinking a bit more before a session with someone I had no romantic interest in. Big mistake. I couldn’t pop. That happened with two different providers in Macau many years ago.
Now, I strictly don’t have any drop of alcohol — wine, gin, beer, sake, port or bourbon — from a couple of weeks to a month before a scheduled P4P date or dates in Tokyo.

 

[ShowaJidai]

I once had this Chinese provider who wouldn't shut up about her tip - she kept on and on about it no matter how much I told her to shut up and let me do what I paid for. After a few minutes of her nagging I couldn't even keep it up anymore. Then she and the mama-san tried to appease me with a HJ but by then I was so pissed off about the whole deal that I offered them 3,000 Yen just to shut up and let me leave.

 

[Frenchy]

In university, I probably had more dirty, alcohol-fuelled sex than romantic, love-you-with-all-my-heart couplings. Sad, I know.
That all changed when I entered the workforce and took on one stressful job after another. Beer, which I had imbibed each night to help me unwind, started to become a liability in the lovemaking department. It negatively affected my performance and put me off regular liaisons.
Eventually, I wised up. I put more attention to my physical and mental well-being. It also helped that I met someone at work who became the first of several really serious relationships in my life.
My P4P adventures overseas later helped in terms of increased discipline as I got older. I thought I could get away with drinking a bit more before a session with someone I had no romantic interest in. Big mistake. I couldn’t pop. That happened with two different providers in Macau many years ago.
Now, I strictly don’t have any drop of alcohol — wine, gin, beer, sake, port or bourbon — from a couple of weeks to a month before a scheduled P4P date or dates in Tokyo.

I wish I could have your self- discipline!

 

[Frenchy]

- too much alcohol (happened many times)
- too ugly/un-sexy/zero chemistry lady (happened a few times)
- social time only (happened once )
- when I’m the provider and FS is not included (happened once )

 

[Yuriko]

One time while using [Redacted] I had trouble cumming when she was jacking me off toward the end of our session. I don't know why I was having trouble cumming, but we went back to sumata and then when she started jacking me off again I really had to think about having sex instead of laying back and enjoying the hand job. She got me off, but it had been a long time since I had gotten a hand job and I forgot how sensitive it feels when a woman jacks you off instead of yourself. Not only did my leg start twitching like crazy, but I am sure I made an incredibly funny face while cumming too lol.

I see. I understand it must be pretty different, when you do by yourself, and having it done ay a provider. I guess the atmosphere must be also relaxed, enjoyable rather than, you feel like you are forced to jerk off. I guess it depends on a provider's of how well they understand men mentality, when it's at certain act!!!

Very often i think it was because they were with another provider earlier that day or maybe several times that week. A lot of us only do this on business travel so we pack it in. And there is not so mivh recovery time.

I was with a duo a few weeks ago and came one time but could not cum a second time even after 2 hours. We were together again later that week and i confessed i had cum twice with another escort earlier in the day and that was why. We all had a good laugh. And came twice!

Ohhh! glad you got win/win at the end!

When the provider is too mechanical and or fake.. Or she is just not into it... Or having an off day... Many reasons tbh but it doesn't mean there is no effort on my part... Just sometimes u need that chemistry or connection... Most women think it's so easy to get a guy to cum and statistics also proove that it is... Usually, but as guys get more experience and age then I think they get more selective (IMO) but I could be wrong... Quality is better than quantity.... But if there is quality then as much as possible is highly likely... Not all will agree with this.... Of course

Sure, I understand. We providers should be like a nurse, understand what exactly going on with guys. But I guess that goes by experience gain and you do better after 10 sets, 100 sets done. I can't even count how many sets I've done, ever since I started, but yes, connection, chemistry also could be the key.

 

[cabbie]

I once had this Chinese provider who wouldn't shut up about her tip - she kept on and on about it no matter how much I told her to shut up and let me do what I paid for. After a few minutes of her nagging I couldn't even keep it up anymore. Then she and the mama-san tried to appease me with a HJ but by then I was so pissed off about the whole deal that I offered them 3,000 Yen just to shut up and let me leave.

Sounds like a couple of Filipinas I've met.

 

[Mrmer]

The few times it was chemistry for me. One time it was a provider. Her pictures were way off and we suspect she was on drugs. I mean you do your due diligence but stuff can happen. We also swing and sometimes you just don’t hit it off.

 

[MikeH]

Once in a blue moon, I have a problem because the provider is too much for me - I get so turned on nothing will work properly, aside from getting it up.

This used to be a lot more of a problem when I was younger and incredibly turned on by even the scent of a woman, turns out women in general don't care for a guy who goes on for too long.

This happened to me once in a non-p4p setting. She was really hot and in our second date we ended up in a hotel where I found out she is even hotter without clothes. Obviously I wanted to make it good for her too, if not for any other reason than the selfish desire to make her a regular so I really struggled not to finish immediately in the first five or ten minutes. Unfortunately after that I found out I was not able to finish anymore.

I was about to give it up for half a dozen times but she insisted she wants me to finish too. I finally did, more than 1.5 hours later. Happy it was in a hotel as the whole bed was drenched in sweat. The stars where in my favour though as she turned out to be one of the few ones who really like long sessions. So even if we didn't live happily ever after at least the next two years were very good.

 

[F1guy2017]

Good post Yuriko! Usually alcohol is the problem. There’s acfine line between just right and too much. If the line is not crossed then I have no issue with Cuming twice in a FS session.. BJ is usually just once but the orgasm is very very intense, so once is enough..! I think it’s the fact that the woman controls the stimulation so the feeling is a different from sex. (That’s another Yuriko post.. lol) Anyway, I’ve definitely cut down on pre-drinking..

 

[Yuriko]

- too much alcohol (happened many times)
- too ugly/un-sexy/zero chemistry lady (happened a few times)
- social time only (happened once )
- when I’m the provider and FS is not included (happened once )

Very likely.

The few times it was chemistry for me. One time it was a provider. Her pictures were way off and we suspect she was on drugs. I mean you do your due diligence but stuff can happen. We also swing and sometimes you just don’t hit it off.

Sorry to hear that...

I once had this Chinese provider who wouldn't shut up about her tip - she kept on and on about it no matter how much I told her to shut up and let me do what I paid for. After a few minutes of her nagging I couldn't even keep it up anymore. Then she and the mama-san tried to appease me with a HJ but by then I was so pissed off about the whole deal that I offered them 3,000 Yen just to shut up and let me leave.

KY girl...that must be a caos! She didn't even shut up, when your dick was in her mouth?

This happened to me once in a non-p4p setting. She was really hot and in our second date we ended up in a hotel where I found out she is even hotter without clothes. Obviously I wanted to make it good for her too, if not for any other reason than the selfish desire to make her a regular so I really struggled not to finish immediately in the first five or ten minutes. Unfortunately after that I found out I was not able to finish anymore.

I was about to give it up for half a dozen times but she insisted she wants me to finish too. I finally did, more than 1.5 hours later. Happy it was in a hotel as the whole bed was drenched in sweat. The stars where in my favour though as she turned out to be one of the few ones who really like long sessions. So even if we didn't live happily ever after at least the next two years were very good.

Otsukaresamadeshita!! to both of you.

Good post Yuriko! Usually alcohol is the problem. There’s acfine line between just right and too much. If the line is not crossed then I have no issue with Cuming twice in a FS session.. BJ is usually just once but the orgasm is very very intense, so once is enough..! I think it’s the fact that the woman controls the stimulation so the feeling is a different from sex. (That’s another Yuriko post.. lol) Anyway, I’ve definitely cut down on pre-drinking..

Yeah, that's a good idea. I think you need to leave some what frustration level to be kept, before play. Thanks to your positive feed on my thread.

 

[TheScientist]

Only happened twice. Both times it was bad technique.

 

[DireWolf98]

Alcohol was always the problem.

However, there were times I took too long because:

• Bad technique
• Sullen personality
• Nagging about tip
• Nagging about taking too long (LOL)
• Fatigue/Stress

One FS provider in Taipei insisted that I wear two condoms, then complained that I took too long.

 

[Durg50]

Alcohol was always the problem.

However, there were times I took too long because:

• Bad technique
• Sullen personality
• Nagging about tip
• Nagging about taking too long (LOL)
• Fatigue/Stress

One FS provider in Taipei insisted that I wear two condoms, then complained that I took too long.

If i was with a provider that wanted me to use two condoms, i wouldnt stick my dick in that with any number of condoms.

 

[MikeH]

One FS provider in Taipei insisted that I wear two condoms, then complained that I took too long.

Of course the icing on the cake is that according to the medical professionals two condoms is actually worse than one if you are trying to protect yourself from STDs. The chances are they broke more easily as they are rubbing against each others. If you want more protection use a thicker condom instead.

 

[greenhawk]

I see. I understand it must be pretty different, when you do by yourself, and having it done ay a provider. I guess the atmosphere must be also relaxed, enjoyable rather than, you feel like you are forced to jerk off. I guess it depends on a provider's of how well they understand men mentality, when it's at certain act!!!

I think the issue was she wasn't at her A game so she wanted to finish early. She mentioned how she was hungry when we started and she chugged about half a thing of green tea. Our time was getting close to being up so I think she was trying to get me to cum so she could just lay there until we got in the shower. I think another issue was my body was rejecting it in a way because the way I see it I can jack my own dick off so why have a woman do it when she can use her vagina or mouth to do it.

 

[DireWolf98]

If i was with a provider that wanted me to use two condoms, i wouldnt stick my dick in that with any number of condoms.

Well ... I was all worked-up after having been rejected by several providers and that requirement was demanded after I handed over my money. I was not a fun session. I suspected that the provider wasn't thrilled with the idea of having intercourse with a Caucasian guy.

 

[DireWolf98]

Of course the icing on the cake is that according to the medical professionals two condoms is actually worse than one if you are trying to protect yourself from STDs. The chances are they broke more easily as they are rubbing against each others. If you want more protection use a thicker condom instead.

It wasn't my idea and I can't/couldn't speak Taiwanese ... Also, Logic might not have worked in that situation.

 

[Acid Burn]

For me it’s nervousness (like with a new provider), robotic technique with bad or no chemistry, and junior tends to go limp with bad conversation (like if she asks in detail about work or other stressful things).

 

[Lukes]

I can remember just one ocassion where I didn't cum at all during a P4P session. It was a combination of nerves and bad provider technique. Gotta say, it's a pretty damn frustrating feeling that I don't want to experience again.

But that also reminds me of the many times where bad technique has *almost* resulted in blue balls. Almost all of those were technique issues with new girls that don't know how to give a good HJ/BJ.