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Enjoyed both articles. I’d like to read how changes since you started make you feel about the future of your profession.

For example, technology seems to have made it easier for us clients to find prospective providers, but as has been mentioned already in this thread, the barriers to entry have been lower so much that it’s now also harder for us to determine what is real or not on our end. How has technology over the last few years affected independent providers?

Also, porn is crazy today and I’m sure it is a very important part of our (clients) expectations. How has the increased intensity of porn affected (or not) your profession.

Something similar can happen to guys who frequent strip clubs in the states or go-go bars in Southeast Asia. After a while, the sight of a stage full of scantily clad women just seems normal. One becomes quite blasé about the scene.
 
I think this is part of why so many people see the porn industry as abusive. Not because of the concept of porn or sex work, but because the actresses tend to be coerced into more and more extreme shoots that they aren’t comfortable with, as the industry demands increasingly hardcore stuff. E.g. I’m pretty sure anal sex was seen as very extreme only a decade or so ago, now it’s normal and basically expected out of all pornstars. The audiences are unable to get off with normal vanilla sex anymore (which is pretty sad IMO but it’s their choice I guess)

Yeah I think that the rapid development of the internet really sparked an insane evolution in the porn industry. They just had to keep doing more and more crazy things to get clicks..because if 10 different websites are streaming the same type of content you need to stand out.

And I will add that this isn't just unique to video porn; it extends to written erotica as well. I have been with women who couldn't orgasm without reading some erotica on their phone WHILE we were having sex. Definitely ruined the mood for me lol.
 
Pretty much all industries have invisible labor. You want a good product or service, you need to put the hours in behind the scenes.

Comparing Sex Work with photography is kind of apples and pears.

With Sex work you have low start up costs (comparatively - 250,000yen quoted), a high physical personal risk. You can also price yourself into the market as you are learning the trade (and increase your rates as you get better at it)
With photography (from a outsiders views), you have high start up costs, low personal risk (apart from financial) , and I imagine you need to have experience / skill / training before you are going to sell anything.

No disrespect to escorts, but it seems to me to be an easier profession to get into. But I'd say the physical and mental toll is huge.
I'd compare it more to baseball. There are millions of high school baseball players in Japan. Only about 100 each year make the draft, and of those only about 10-20% will make it to the top team and make real coin. The point being, anyone can play baseball, but to be good at it, you need hard work, and talent. And even then you may not succeed.

Yeah I do think the initial comparison of sex work to photography wasn't quite equivalent. The start up costs are nothing compared to all the equipment you need for photography.

Escorting is indeed something that many women pick up and try out (see sugaring), but not many decide to stick around for hundreds of reasons. To be good at it I think you need to have quite strong mental fortitude. One of the most important skills I developed was the ability to say no/grow a backbone. It's too easy to just remain quiet and demure when someone twice your size is doing something a bit unpleasant. So long as the pain wasn't agonizing I wouldn't say anything. Even if the guy was nice, the pressure to just deal with it because I was being paid was quite intense. Physically and mentally I don't think I would've been able to continue escorting if I hadn't learned to be more assertive.
 
Yeah I think that the rapid development of the internet really sparked an insane evolution in the porn industry. They just had to keep doing more and more crazy things to get clicks..because if 10 different websites are streaming the same type of content you need to stand out.

And I will add that this isn't just unique to video porn; it extends to written erotica as well. I have been with women who couldn't orgasm without reading some erotica on their phone WHILE we were having sex. Definitely ruined the mood for me lol.

She could only orgasm while... reading? I have to say I've never heard anything like this before. Lol!
 
And I will add that this isn't just unique to video porn; it extends to written erotica as well. I have been with women who couldn't orgasm without reading some erotica on their phone WHILE we were having sex. Definitely ruined the mood for me lol.

lmao what. Idk if I would be mad or pleased to have an enticing experience with such a cultured woman.

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She could only orgasm while... reading? I have to say I've never heard anything like this before. Lol!
Well, I shall confess...
Once I asked a SB to give me a handjob while I was reading aloud the email my ex-GF sent about her first blowjob.
 
Well, I shall confess...
Once I asked a SB to give me a handjob while I was reading aloud the email my ex-GF sent about her first blowjob.
Wouldnt a blowjob have been more appropriate?
 
lmao what. Idk if I would be mad or pleased to have an enticing experience with such a cultured woman.

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It's happened to me with multiple women lol...and no I wouldn't say they were cultured.

They were reading erotic fan fiction o_O

She could only orgasm while... reading? I have to say I've never heard anything like this before. Lol!

I think it's because we were doing something specific that required a lot of...relaxation/arousal lol..
 
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It's happened to me with multiple women lol...and no I wouldn't say they were cultured..
It might be a good idea to order/download a couple of audio books for future dates.. :p:LOL:
 
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It might be a good idea to order/download a couple of audio books for future dates.. :p:LOL:

But if they are real literature snobs they would dry out with the simple hint of an audio book...