If anyone can relate to this, please let me know so I don’t feel like an idiot 
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I recently met up with a girl I had met a couple of times before - she’s just graduating from university, pretty good looking, has a flirty way about herself. The previous encounters nothing much happened but last time she kind of let on that she’d be open to having sex for a price.
This time we meet up, she is flirty and so I spring the question about “what we discussed last time”. She agrees happily but at the same time I don’t fully feel the chemistry…I kind of get the vibe she’s much more interested in the money. This is where I made the mistake - in my mind I was like how bad can it be? She’s hot and at worst it’ll be average, right?
Anyway, we proceed to taking our clothes off and I want to make her feel comfortable. She doesn’t seem nervous just not very horny, so I decide to focus on her first and try to give her pleasure. For almost 30min I try absolutely everything, and I mean everything, but she just pretty much lies there like a fish, zero participation. At this point I’m getting incredibly turned off from the encounter and I stop to ask her what she likes/what gives her pleasure, because obviously what I am doing is not working. She says she likes when I insert, so I try to pull myself together and get hard. We cycle through a few positions and still zero participation, nothing she seems to particularly enjoy. At this point I actually get limp, pull out and ask her what her favourite position is. Some small part of me thought I could still salvage it. She says missionary so we try that. Still absolutely nothing from her and that was the last straw for me, I go limp and can’t get it up anymore, that’s how turned off I was.
We kind of awkwardly lay next to each other and I explained that it gives me zero pleasure if she’s not having fun. She said no no it’s fun and she’s always like this - but that seemed very unbelievable. She asked if I was angry and I said no just sad I couldn’t give her any pleasure.
I felt bad for her so I didn’t want to make the whole thing more awkward than it was so I cleaned up, gave her the money and apologised for having a bad day.
I felt very dejected when I left, almost like I failed as a man because nothing I did got her even slightly in the mood. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
)I recently met up with a girl I had met a couple of times before - she’s just graduating from university, pretty good looking, has a flirty way about herself. The previous encounters nothing much happened but last time she kind of let on that she’d be open to having sex for a price.
This time we meet up, she is flirty and so I spring the question about “what we discussed last time”. She agrees happily but at the same time I don’t fully feel the chemistry…I kind of get the vibe she’s much more interested in the money. This is where I made the mistake - in my mind I was like how bad can it be? She’s hot and at worst it’ll be average, right?
Anyway, we proceed to taking our clothes off and I want to make her feel comfortable. She doesn’t seem nervous just not very horny, so I decide to focus on her first and try to give her pleasure. For almost 30min I try absolutely everything, and I mean everything, but she just pretty much lies there like a fish, zero participation. At this point I’m getting incredibly turned off from the encounter and I stop to ask her what she likes/what gives her pleasure, because obviously what I am doing is not working. She says she likes when I insert, so I try to pull myself together and get hard. We cycle through a few positions and still zero participation, nothing she seems to particularly enjoy. At this point I actually get limp, pull out and ask her what her favourite position is. Some small part of me thought I could still salvage it. She says missionary so we try that. Still absolutely nothing from her and that was the last straw for me, I go limp and can’t get it up anymore, that’s how turned off I was.
We kind of awkwardly lay next to each other and I explained that it gives me zero pleasure if she’s not having fun. She said no no it’s fun and she’s always like this - but that seemed very unbelievable. She asked if I was angry and I said no just sad I couldn’t give her any pleasure.
I felt bad for her so I didn’t want to make the whole thing more awkward than it was so I cleaned up, gave her the money and apologised for having a bad day.
I felt very dejected when I left, almost like I failed as a man because nothing I did got her even slightly in the mood. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
