What's your personal stance on seeing the same provider multiple times?

Ah, I wish the staff that worked at the anime bar in Sapporo when I first got there in August still worked there. They were all so nice and just full-on degenerates. The patrons were great, a lot of nice convos and being the only foreigner in Sapporo (seemingly) at that time got me a whole lot of free oolong-cha's. Sadly all the good ones quit so I never went back, didn't feel the same.
 
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I have no issues with seeing the same provider especially if I enjoy their company. I'm just a sad boi who wants someone to connect with.
 
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I have a handful of providers who are my steady regulars. I like their personalities, the sex is great, and over time we’ve learned what each other like so things get better as we go.

My current longest standing regular is Minami at Thai Diamond - I’ve been a regular of hers for at least 8-9 years, averaging once a month.
 
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I try to go for half and half. Half my time repeating and half my time trying someone new. If I feel I particularly click with someone, I’ll try my best to see them again assuming free time and schedules line up. If time is limited, I will prefer a repeat over trying a new provider.

Cost is a factor though as it’s financially easier/more bang for my buck to repeat an MP girl over a soap princess over an indie. The less I spend on P4P, the more I can blow on my other hobbies after all.
 
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These days I mostly only see the same providers. I went on a bit of a rampage during lockdown but after meeting lots of strangers for sex I really found that I prefer to enjoy time with the people I enjoy meeting rather than the excitement of meeting someone new and not knowing if we are actually gonna have fun.
Other people have mentioned emotional attachments in the thread. I think I enjoy having an emotional attachment with the providers I see. Certainly when I meet them with other guys I get more out of watching them if I actually feel jealous. But I am also able to compartmentalise it a bit. Much as I now have at least 5 providers that I would like to marry, I realise that I actually won't marry them. But it doesn't stop me (and maybe them?) from enjoying our time more when we are together because we have a bit of an emotional attachment.
 
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Tabanico said:
These days I mostly only see the same providers. I went on a bit of a rampage during lockdown but after meeting lots of strangers for sex I really found that I prefer to enjoy time with the people I enjoy meeting rather than the excitement of meeting someone new and not knowing if we are actually gonna have fun.
Other people have mentioned emotional attachments in the thread. I think I enjoy having an emotional attachment with the providers I see. Certainly when I meet them with other guys I get more out of watching them if I actually feel jealous. But I am also able to compartmentalise it a bit. Much as I now have at least 5 providers that I would like to marry, I realise that I actually won't marry them. But it doesn't stop me (and maybe them?) from enjoying our time more when we are together because we have a bit of an emotional attachment.
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Yeah thinking more about it I've kinda been going on a rampage but when you find someone you click with, the others just don't feel as good. Like obviously not every fuck can be the "best", some have to be "meh". But you can really tell the difference when you have someone that clicks and you have a 10/10 experience.
I'm afraid to get too close though. Like I won't marry them but I would love spending the whole day/days with them, sorta situation. And you're still assuming they like you as much as you like them.
 
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Been meeting the same lady for 2.5 years… I like it because there is a relationship between us if only for a couple of hours. The sex is tremendous too. If I jump from girl to girl I enjoy seeing new bodies and experiencing new sex but I miss the connection. I prefer staying with the same lady… makes for better sex and relationship.
 
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The last week's I have mostly seen providers I know. Booked 2 health girls for this week that I have both seen multiple times.....pretty unexciting, but some girls are just too great. If the time with them is kinda perfect it is hard to justify booking someone else who is new but most likely not as amazing.

....feels like I am getting old, lol. Really have to try more stuff again ...
 
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It's just occurred to me that I have the same approach to restaurants.

Went to one of my regular Italian places yesterday. The guy greeted me like a long lost friend. Asked me why I was later than usual (because I was up drinking till 4am for the rugby, duh). Every time they took or delivered our order we shared a joke. They threw in a couple of shots of liquor at the end for free. I know they liked having me there because I spent a load of money on their high-margin wine. I definitely had a better time thanks to the free booze, and spending a few hours with smiles on our faces was probably better for all of us.

I haven't had a disappointing session with a provider in so long for similar reasons. I mean. Not every provider gives me free limoncello, but I can't remember the last time I didn't spend time laughing and smiling with a provider. And consequently I can't remember a session that I didn't want to last longer.
 
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There are two that I see regularly, one knows my personal details and I know hers. It is purely professional and I always pay for it and I don't meet her outside of her work. It is best that way, we both know the score and I don't think she would ever double cross me. We communicate privately on Line, FB and Instagram. The other one is just a long time regular provider, although we know each others' real names and private E-Mail there is no contact outside of her workplace. Both are older, experienced, attractive for their age and they know how to make a guy feel good which I what I pay for. We have great conversations when meeting. If either one leaves the business it would most likely terminate the contact unless they maintained it. I would respect their privacy as I believe they would respect mine. There is a third one who I know less about but we do have a regular meeting at work now and then. She has my contact info in the event she changes stores, etc. The key point is all three have been in the business for a long time and I have known them for more than 10 years each, including the 3rd one but the connection is a more distant.

One thing is, I have learned more about how women think and have decoded many of the mysteries about that topic based on the honest conversations we have. There are many things about my wife that no longer annoy me because I now understand how she thinks about some things, very subtle but only a woman would be able to analyze and explain it clearly and without any feminist defensiveness or taking offense. These women have seen and heard it all from us men LOL.
 
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I have many one-time only clients and also long term repeats. Younger people in general value quantities / variation more than quality.
I recently see a lot of tourists who don’t live in Tokyo. I don’t know if they would meet me more than once if they live in a town or they would keep looking for a new girl each time.

From clients side, we call a wall of the 3rd time. First time and second time, your experience is still fresh and exciting. But on the 3rd time, you pretty much know their routine, what is going to happen with them. It depends how you take it. Is it boring or cozy?

Long term repeating clients, not all of them but some , value comfortable, relaxing date than being sweat all the time.
One of my long term repeats calls my service frequent enough for the last good 10 years. He always brings me some sweets and we eat together during a date. We spend long time in a tub, even take a nap together.
But I know if I get lazy, try to take advantage from him, he would be disappointed and would not nominate me any more. When he started being not so active in bed, I suggested him to shorten our date length as I felt bad to make him spend so much money on such an uneventful date. But he said he would prefer a longer, relaxing date.

He never cook home so I get some prepared food from department store when meeting him; yes, I am still an escort, not a care worker. And he always appreciate it, not to the food I bring but my care towards him. But even in a temporary paid relationship, two people try to build up a comfortable moment together is the key. It falls off so easily when losing balance.

Based on my experience as a client, it is annoying to see an escort I repeated a few times expecting me to book them again without any effort, looking at me as an easy money. But it is somewhat true that takes a lot of my energy to keep looking for a new, good escort..
 
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Manami TMK said:
Long term repeating clients . . . value comfortable, relaxing date than being sweat all the time.
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Very much this. For me, in my personal situation, I am looking for companionship as opposed to straight up action. Don't get me wrong. I do like to play, but the play is more meaningful when I can enjoy just being in the company of an interesting lady. Put it this way; if I cannot enjoy the person out of bed neither one of us is going to have a good time under the sheets. When I find a lady that I am comfortable with I like to do things for them to show my gratitude other than just giving the money. That could be in the form of presents, or, as I have done recently, bringing snacks that I baked myself.

I do like having new experiences, but when booking someone for the first time you never know what you are going to get. Having a regular is a reassuring feeling.
 
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