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I have a Japanese friend, who is a friend of mine for abt 5 years. She's married, works full time office job. She works there for abt 20 years, very
traditional, very royal.
These types of ladies, are very dedicated, super patient at work. On the contrary, they tend to say lots of negative things, complainment after complainment to their friends, unconsciouly.
She points out nothing fun abt the job. Don't they?
I felt sorry for her, of how hard would be, to stick with one job life time, being dedicated, being very frustrated. Sadly, as an admin, salary decreases each year.
At the same time, I thought, I wish she would have said, "Well, thanks for listening my stories. I feel a bit better.". I thought, if she said that, her life can be lil by lil easier.
As you know, Japanese girls love complaining, one after another. They don't realise, that's causing more and more of complaing situation.
I tried to guide her creating positivity from negativity. I failed. I think she got offended. She kept pointing me out, my way of thinking is wrong, which I don't share much of my personal concerns at work, my life with friends, hence I don't have much friends. And culturewise, sharing ugly situation at work to good friends, can deepen mutual friendship, by understanding each other at more deeper level. She thinks, by sharing her ugly negative stories to me, was out of question, to mention thanks for listening. Because, she said, she didn't ask me to listen professionally. She just wanted have a good time having dinner together.
I spent years in the US, a year in the UK. I learned that being positive creates better situation. Complainment is just a waste of energy and give the other person some energy burden. The more you complain, the more you trigger complaining situation.
I also focus on positivity. I believe in the more you say things that makes you excited, the more those factor comes to you.
It's lil heavy topic maybe, but it's abt Japanese girls mentality. You guys also must have wondered how's the best way to deal with.
I guess, it's a cultural thing. How did you guys
gave her trasformation, that dealing with complaing types? I know you can't change people. You have to accept it. But, any wise way, that can turn things better?
I used to say, "thanks for sharing that with me", as a hope of, "oh, thanks for listening". which would not work, with Japanese ladies. They are like, "yeah,,"....,
I find the best way is, to stay away from those types, as I don't want nagative burden dominates me.
I bet you all come across alot, of these situation.
Any thoughts? Much appriciated.
traditional, very royal.
These types of ladies, are very dedicated, super patient at work. On the contrary, they tend to say lots of negative things, complainment after complainment to their friends, unconsciouly.
She points out nothing fun abt the job. Don't they?
I felt sorry for her, of how hard would be, to stick with one job life time, being dedicated, being very frustrated. Sadly, as an admin, salary decreases each year.
At the same time, I thought, I wish she would have said, "Well, thanks for listening my stories. I feel a bit better.". I thought, if she said that, her life can be lil by lil easier.
As you know, Japanese girls love complaining, one after another. They don't realise, that's causing more and more of complaing situation.
I tried to guide her creating positivity from negativity. I failed. I think she got offended. She kept pointing me out, my way of thinking is wrong, which I don't share much of my personal concerns at work, my life with friends, hence I don't have much friends. And culturewise, sharing ugly situation at work to good friends, can deepen mutual friendship, by understanding each other at more deeper level. She thinks, by sharing her ugly negative stories to me, was out of question, to mention thanks for listening. Because, she said, she didn't ask me to listen professionally. She just wanted have a good time having dinner together.
I spent years in the US, a year in the UK. I learned that being positive creates better situation. Complainment is just a waste of energy and give the other person some energy burden. The more you complain, the more you trigger complaining situation.
I also focus on positivity. I believe in the more you say things that makes you excited, the more those factor comes to you.
It's lil heavy topic maybe, but it's abt Japanese girls mentality. You guys also must have wondered how's the best way to deal with.
I guess, it's a cultural thing. How did you guys
gave her trasformation, that dealing with complaing types? I know you can't change people. You have to accept it. But, any wise way, that can turn things better?
I used to say, "thanks for sharing that with me", as a hope of, "oh, thanks for listening". which would not work, with Japanese ladies. They are like, "yeah,,"....,
I find the best way is, to stay away from those types, as I don't want nagative burden dominates me.
I bet you all come across alot, of these situation.
Any thoughts? Much appriciated.