On the negative side, I've been in several situations that have been sexual teasing and arousal in the bed where the woman chooses not to go all the way. Therefore a one-night-stand is something I'd like to experience once in my life. My only experience going to a drunk girl's house was so disturbing of her 'wantingness,' so to speak, that it turned me off and made we want to get out asap. That situation from years ago is kind of burned in my mind, and I guess crossed my mind when she stepped off the train and waited.
You said a couple of things here which are extremely important and even why some men become sexual hermits and "herbivores", shy away from women, or only buy women.
1) LMR (Last Minute Resistance)
LMR is where the woman is in a fearful confused state. Often a mix of sexual desire, fear of pregnancy, and anti-sexual social programing. Consequently, some women panic. Things can seem to be going well, but when the interaction becomes clearly sexual, some women go into a state of panic and confusion. It can be she doesn't know what to do or she seeks to avoid sex, even when she likes the guy.
Another aspect of LMR, that even PUAs overlook (but is known more among some groups of swingers), is the woman's fear or confusion can cause the SAME reaction in the man she is with. The man can become uncomfortable, confused, feel rejected, or feels bad as if he was asking too much of a woman. So if a man is caught in a LMR situation, and didn't have sex, it can have a very negative future impact over even what the woman felt.
The woman might get over it easily, because she felt by rejecting the guy, she was empowered or feels safe in her cowardice of running away. She doesn't have a penis or erection issues to worry about. The next week, in the same situation with a different guy, she can have sex. Where for the guy, he can get anxious or even performance anxiety, from the previous negative experience. He fears the next woman will sexually reject him too or that there is something wrong or bad about being a man or asking for sex.
Many men are able to understand the female LMR issue, and are able to get to the core of it and hopefully fix it. This is: calming the woman down, getting her to trust him, and/or helping her feel comfortable about sex. But for some men, they never clearly understand what is going on, and continue to feel apprehensive and uncomfortable in last minute resistance or sexual tension type situations with women. And every sexual failure or last minute rejection, can increase the problem.
For some men, a situation where they buy a woman is more comfortable, because there is no guess work and no fear of rejection. Money paid, means sex virtually guaranteed for them. However, real relationships don't work on that premise, so it takes more to get used to unpredictability.
2) Fear Of Female Sexual Power
Many men have an expectation of how a woman is "supposed to act" sexually. Too often, as if she is an "almost virgin", otherwise she is a "slut". Sometimes these expectations being highly unrealistic, particularly for women over 26, who should have experience. They expect her to lay there, and let the man "do her". Any female behavior outside this narrow range can be disturbing for some men. The better at sex or hornier she appears to be, the more they can fear they aren't able to handle her or trust her. The woman can inadvertently cause disgust (condemnation for being too sexual) or sexual performance anxiety (fear of not being good enough) in men.
In swinger circles, I've seen this happen to guys a number of times. They didn't realize how much more sexually stronger women can be, so freeze up or get erection failure. Experienced or smarter women can realize the problem, and help calm such men down or help stimulate them orally. But some women can make it worse by belittling or going into a negative mood.
Here again, for some men, buying a woman is more comfortable because of less unpredictably and it more likely the woman is experienced. Interestingly, the "must be like a virgin" label isn't applied to women they are buying, just women they are dating or want to date. A bit of hypocrisy, that some guys seem not to notice.
Embracing the strength of female sexuality can be quite liberating for both men and women. It's not something that needs to be feared or suppressed, but can be greatly enjoyed by both.
3) Positive Outlook & Strong Mind
Learning to deal with women in regular relationship, is learning to deal with unpredictability, rejection, and fear too.
As a man, don't be afraid to go after what you want. Even if things don't go well this time, learn from it, and apply those lessons to the future. Have a positive and determined outlook that you will eventually win.
