That’s the thing. Politeness and smiling are good indicators…but what you choose to do with them is what matters.
You have to give the girl clear signals during the entire 7 hours of beerfest. Holding her hand, trying to get an arm around her—hell even telling her you like her directly to her face. Did you do any of that?
Admittedly I don’t know pickup art nor do I do any “plate spinning,” but I never liked playing that stupid coy game shit. Nevermind me gentlemen. I’ll just go back to painting faces.
Embarassed to say I didnt. With white local girls or any other type I had Im very bold, but somehow I was careful with this girl, afraid not to do too much, even tho I wanted.
The image of "nice polite Japanese girl" was in my mind and I didnt want to overdo, plus I was constantly trying to "read" her signals.
My true self would just be direct and attack but eh, sadly I wasnt in that mood.
I remember when I return from bathroom at one point she was sitting closer to me, like, moved her chair to be next to mine, and I noticed that. But I got cold feet.
I did tease her at first like she was looking at me deeply and I started smiling calling her "lazer eyed" and it was good fun made our eye contact all giddy and shit.
But she rationalized it she would look at anyone like that and mentioned other people we both know. Kinda dunked my enthusiasm.
I've seen her several times before that, some on parties etc, but she spent more time lingering around dude we both know, even asked him his number, while I was the one who asked for hers.
So I went into out date trying to know if she is into me at all or into someone else... All in all very stupid scenario, I was mentally weak but in my defense a lot of shit happened in my life since 2020, many good and many bad, and I was still getting my self together since then when I met this girl, who no joke was closest thing to my type of girl I ever met. Legit touched my soul.
If I only had been in my best state. I was 15 kg heavier, in fighting shape, mentally top notch. I know J girls dont care about fitness etc but it did fuck up my self image a lot when I lost my gains.
Anyhow, Im back on track now, slowly. Just trying to forget all the beginner mistakes and self doubting I did with this girl. Which is not easy. It sucks when u know better and still make mistakes.
If I could go back I would hug her when she sat closer and judge how it goes. And when we said goodbye it seemed in her eyes like she wanted a hug but I chickened out. Its really weird because I had girls over at my place before shit hit the fan in my life, and I am no stranger to taking things into my hands, lol, but I was not yet fully back with my Mojo with this girl, and all the self doubt and cowardice fucked me over.
I had a good chance at the start, I remember she was always eyes on me etc in first few times we met in big parties etc. Spoke good, vibe was there, then with time and other guys hovering around her I said fuck this I guess, became jaded and self doubting.
I don't know where you're from but I have been drinking with the opposite sex several times without no action and no intentions.
Then again, if I had intentions 7 hours of drinking would be more than enough liquid courage to test if it was go or not.
me too, but never for 7 hours. Actually did 12 hours with a 40 something lady hahahah. But thats a different story. And no attraction, at least from my part.
Liquid does nothing for me, I never needed alcohol for balls with women, Im either in my best self, or not. I was not on that day. But I had feels for her and that fucked me up I think.
I really liked her and in those cases I become very obsessed with not making a mistake. Hopefully not in future.
