@sxian
Had 2 back to back dates this past Saturday and Sunday. A 25 year old vs a 38 year old.
1. Date with younger woman goes excellently.
Met on the train and had been e-mailing each other for 1 week. We picked Saturday to be our day. We played a game of darts, have dinner, and then 3 hours at a love hotel (in Shibuya). Great conversation, fun, and relatively smooth interaction.
2. Date with the older woman was like hitting yourself with a hammer.
I could have gone on another date with a different younger woman, but the older women was taller (171cm) and still had a very good shape and wanted to give her a chance.
Met her at Mcdonalds, of all places. Happened to strike up a seemingly good conversation. Decided to go out yesterday, and after almost 2 weeks of e-mailing.
When we met previously, she happened to have shorts on and high heels... Sexy combo. For our date however, she oddly dresses down and in an older fashion style. She looked decent and classy, but not sexy. Best I can describe it is like how many Americans dress going to church (church mom).
We go to a nice restaurant, and she begins what seems like interrogation questioning. How much I make (very rude), where is my company, how long I worked there... My attempts to make the conversation not a job interview, and more fun, are dodged and she keeps tight to interrogation mode. And when I ask her certain questions, she flat out doesn't answer with obvious change the subject dodges.
When time to pay the dinner bill, this older chick unbelievably does the run to the bathroom move (and stays there a while). No offer to reimburse. I don't take kindly to older working women not at least chipping in, but keep my cool.
Attempt to change to a more romantic mood, so go to a bar that I know (sorry, but will keep that secret) which has couches, serves wine, and plays jazz music.
Attemp to turn the conversation into something fun and positive. Instead, the conversation turns bad, as she says some of thee most unsexual and annoying things possible.
A. She wants to have a baby (actually 2 or 3 kids if possible) but doesn't feel she needs a husband or marriage.
Obvious RED FLAG (double condom and flush it in the toilet alert).
At 38, if she want kids then she would have to start right away (if it isn't too late already). And, when meeting men, you should start a relationship (including sex) before worrying about babies and marriage. Like WTF, a guy isn't going to go, "Nice to meet you. Take all my money and let's have babies and get married today."
B. Contradicts her previous statement, where she says she can only have sex with a man she will marry.
Another RED FLAG. So why have children when unmarried?
C. Mindlessly tells me that sex in marriage is unimportant and can understand women that think that way, when a woman switches to the role of mother.
This response is partially due to us talking about Japanese sexless marriages. I was hoping for a positive response and to turn the conversation sexual, but she coughs up a hair ball.
D. States she wouldn't wear lingerie for her boyfriend, because feels it's too embarrassing and would only consider it after being in the relationship for years. Oh, how exciting that sexual relationship will be... NOT.
E. Admitted to dead fish sex with previous boyfriends.
Basically she claims she didn't love them enough to do a good job at sex. She says they loved her, but she didn't love them.
Some very cold-blooded and no passion crap that raises the hairs on the back of my neck.
F. Our physical interaction was way too awkward.
This is hard to describe. But a woman that is excessively rigid in posture, trying to move her upper torso away, and no consideration of the romantic atmosphere that we are in.
Anyway, punishingly bad date that wasn't salvageable. And, she pulls the bathroom trick again when the bill comes. Pissing me off. So as soon as we go outside, I part ways and delete her contact.
Now, I'm not saying every older chick is like that, but WAY TOO MANY older women are. They want everything they can get from a guy, while giving nothing to bare requirements in return, as well as killing any fun and joy in the interaction.
A woman that doesn't have any enthusiasm or passion, has sadly had something die.