Average age on this forum

[uchimura]

37 this year. feel like ojisan since I am in arasa bracket.

experienced ED this year so I am experimenting with viagra and cialis. (usually I had ED due to work stress, but this time maybe age catching up).

this year, on good days I can ejaculate 4 times throughout the day. I have slow recovery.

some people are gifted in ejaculation department. I know a friend who can ejaculate 3 times in 60 minutes. such a blessing since soapland usually allow unlimited firing.

been taking zinc and omega 3 supplements.
on top of that, enough sleep and hydration.
bought a running shoes and aiming to lose 10kg and get a health age of 20ish.

"but this time maybe age catching up" is precisely what's got me wondering -- is 37/38 the age when things stop functioning or...? Didn't help that the (married) friends around us were getting very little action too lol.

btw 4 times a day 👍

 

[kirayamato]

"but this time maybe age catching up" is precisely what's got me wondering -- is 37/38 the age when things stop functioning or...? Didn't help that the (married) friends around us were getting very little action too lol.

btw 4 times a day 👍

nowadays even men in 20s can have ED( due to porn).

for married couple I noticed many of them gain weight and lost the sexual drive. (on top of being too comfortable with each other).

in my case I gained 10 kg during covid lockdown, and I suspect the anti histamine that I took every year for pollen allergy played some parts also.

I wouldn't dismiss the use of blue pill thinking that I am still below 50.
For me it is a short term aid to fix my confidence while I am fixing other underlying issue in the long run.

 

[YokoMonger]

Which brings me to my first question - (Respectfully) How do you guys keep it up?????????????????????????????????? Seriously. I really want to know. Red Bull? A week of absitinence?

Some of it is genetic so nothing we can offer on that. Still, being healthy with decent cardio endurance and strength training helps given sex is a workout. Also, small bits of abstinence or at least not cumming will help with stronger erections. Holding off premature ejaculation is probably a skill to learn like edging so you have sex for longer periods cause guys have a longer recover period (still varies between guys).

Personally I masturbate daily, but tend to hold off a day prior to a session. My masturbation technique is rubbing the underside shaft of my penis (try not to stimulate the tip) while pressed against my belly which creates a longer time to cum (and is more powerful) which probably helps my sex sessions take longer.

My second question - are you on any supplements or V? Would those be an overkill for someone in his early 40s lol

I'm closer to 50 and around January started taking 50mg of sildenafil (active ingredient of viagra) when I couldn't stay up the 30 to 40 minutes like I was just the year prior. Did the trick, but I also started exercising more and lost 15kg (now I'm around 110kg) which probably fixed my issues but I'm sticking to using ED drugs. It's not overkill for a guy in his 40s, but as always seek medical opinion from professionals.

 

[just4fun]

"but this time maybe age catching up" is precisely what's got me wondering -- is 37/38 the age when things stop functioning or...? Didn't help that the (married) friends around us were getting very little action too lol.

btw 4 times a day 👍

Well, if all I did was lay on my back..........

I know people that do it 8-10 times a day.....for money of course.

 

[Alice]

nowadays even men in 20s can have ED( due to porn).

What I usually notice with porn addicts is that they don’t have trouble getting it up but they have trouble finishing.

I love porn but it has ruined our responses to some good old vanilla.

 

[thirdman]

I’m turning 30 this year but my soapland age is 22.

The girls can take up to 12 years off, so this is fair.

 

[IchigoDave]

I love porn but it has ruined our responses to some good old vanilla.

I've been told that some guys (try to) fuck like they are in a porn scene. So many men have been conditioned into thinking that porn sex = real sex.

 

[Doteikun98]

Turning 25 this Oct but since my first soapland session plus losing v card back in June I noticed that I have trouble cumming on mat not sure if it’s due to the AD meds that I’m taking that causing it or it’s just a newbie thing

 

[hrbb]

Turning 25 this Oct but since my first soapland session plus losing v card back in June I noticed that I have trouble cumming on mat not sure if it’s due to the AD meds that I’m taking that causing it or it’s just a newbie thing

It's probably a mat thing.

 

[Alice]

I've been told that some guys (try to) fuck like they are in a porn scene. So many men have been conditioned into thinking that porn sex = real sex.

This is true ime.

 

[90513]

I've been told that some guys (try to) fuck like they are in a porn scene. So many men have been conditioned into thinking that porn sex = real sex.

This is true ime.

Can you guys describe the difference between porn sex and real sex? I'm curious about this because I've been watching porn all my adult life and I'm not sure how much it's influenced my real sex. The only difference that I can describe for me is that I'm usually a lot closer to the girl while I'm pistoning (hugging, kissing, etc.) because I don't have to worry about blocking the camera's view. I might be suffering from this porn sex = real sex issue, so I'm curious to hear more about the differences and perhaps correct my issue.

 

[hrbb]

Can you guys describe the difference between porn sex and real sex? I'm curious about this because I've been watching porn all my adult life and I'm not sure how much it's influenced my real sex. The only difference that I can describe for me is that I'm usually a lot closer to the girl while I'm pistoning (hugging, kissing, etc.) because I don't have to worry about blocking the camera's view. I might be suffering from this porn sex = real sex issue, so I'm curious to hear more about the differences and perhaps correct my issue.

Just google it

 

[90513]

Just google it

Well I've looked through the first page of google results containing lists of differences between porn and real sex. The common denominator tends to be about the intensity of the emotional connection. Otherwise it veers off into different territories like expectation of penis size, fake noises, performing for the camera and such. If that's the issue then I'm just surprised that a lot of guys suffer from it.
It just seems like different people have different opinions about it and I'd like to hear more. Anyway, if it's a stupid question then I'm sorry I asked.

 

[Alice]

Can you guys describe the difference between porn sex and real sex? I'm curious about this because I've been watching porn all my adult life and I'm not sure how much it's influenced my real sex. The only difference that I can describe for me is that I'm usually a lot closer to the girl while I'm pistoning (hugging, kissing, etc.) because I don't have to worry about blocking the camera's view. I might be suffering from this porn sex = real sex issue, so I'm curious to hear more about the differences and perhaps correct my issue.

Western porn is way too rough.it always looks painful although the women aggressively exclaim how good they feel.
Anal without preparation and in a way that would be hard to survive when sober…
Aggressive deepthroat, COF (not that I mind COF, I personally prefer it to CIM but a lot of girls hate it irl).

Japanese porn mainly just the over the top noises, wild fingering and excessive squirting.

 

[porterhouse]

Is sex coaching a service that can be found??

 

[kirayamato]

Turning 25 this Oct but since my first soapland session plus losing v card back in June I noticed that I have trouble cumming on mat not sure if it’s due to the AD meds that I’m taking that causing it or it’s just a newbie thing

ADHD meds?

It's probably a mat thing.

in last 5 fuzoku activities, I only cum during mat session.

Can you guys describe the difference between porn sex and real sex? I'm curious about this because I've been watching porn all my adult life and I'm not sure how much it's influenced my real sex. The only difference that I can describe for me is that I'm usually a lot closer to the girl while I'm pistoning (hugging, kissing, etc.) because I don't have to worry about blocking the camera's view. I might be suffering from this porn sex = real sex issue, so I'm curious to hear more about the differences and perhaps correct my issue.

few examples such as pinching nipple instead of touching it softly.
forcing eagle position ( not everyone is flexible enough).

my only problem with porn is my brain is conditioned for hot girls( I only watch top tiers performers) and 3rd person view ( side low angle standing DS is not a thing you can replicate with mirrors)

 

[biggiesmallpop]

I'm 48, but I often get told that I do not look my age.





Younger. Most people say I look younger than I am.

I do too but I also recognize it is normal to tell people that almost like saying "have a nice day"

 

[scorpioni6ths]

Your reply made me jump out of bed LOL I'm 160CM, 50~55KG 🥲 i'm not overweight 😭

sorry i didn't mean to insult you, just my stoopid mouth.

but fuck your hubby should be in the mood always with those numbers! maybe he's interested in watching you playing with other guys? if that turns him on that might trigger good things. have you asked him that question???

And back to the rest - thank you! He does have anxiety issues and off/on meds only when necessary, never knew that would've affected anything. He does need to hit the gym tho, but he's holding that back cause of his slip disc (but i'm convinced that weight training's gonna help with that)

he needs to strengthen up that core and he needs to train smart .. this is comming from a person with a C5/C6 hernia .. if he trains like he 'needs to prove anything/something' he'll just wreck himself.

 

[biggiesmallpop]

I've only ever done like 4 guys and I honestly don't remember it to be this...bleak. We've had several conversations about this and I'd suggested that he go do someone new just to get his engine going, but he's not interested and had assured me that he's just really tired/stressed. (He's also got his back hurt)

Maybe you need to find a safe partner. I'm sure tinder or even this forum can help!

I lose interest in long relationships and have gone 6m without sex w a LT gf and feel fine. However I constantly dream about other women. Maybe he's the same - loves you but can't get excited with a LTR.

My second question - are you on any supplements or V? Would those be an overkill for someone in his early 40s lol

I started using C in my 30s because I always had anxiety with new partners and pros. I only took a half or quarter pill to get me started. Nowadays I need a half to full pill. Side effect is lower back ache but goes away with an advil.

With meds found in my 30s I could bang 4 girls in an eve. 15-30min each with 30-60 breaks between. In my 40s down to 2 in a eve. Now in 50s even though I am in elite fitness for my age I do 1x per day or every other day and am happy. I still have the urge to fapp only daily. Note without meds these days I can fapp but 50/50 if I can perform at all. Thank God for science!!!

 

[MikeH]

but fuck your hubby should be in the mood always with those numbers!

"For every gorgeous woman out there's a guy tired of banging her."

No matter how good is the sushi I don't want to eat it every day, sometimes you just want steak. So maybe try to do something different and see if it works?

 

[MikeH]

Note without meds these days I can fapp but 50/50 if I can perform at all. Thank God for science!!!

Sounds more like the medical industry got you by the balls. There are lot of cases where the pills are needed for mental support, not for physical problems and yours sounds like one of them.

 

[Doggyfong]

Can you guys describe the difference between porn sex and real sex? I'm curious about this because I've been watching porn all my adult life and I'm not sure how much it's influenced my real sex. The only difference that I can describe for me is that I'm usually a lot closer to the girl while I'm pistoning (hugging, kissing, etc.) because I don't have to worry about blocking the camera's view. I might be suffering from this porn sex = real sex issue, so I'm curious to hear more about the differences and perhaps correct my issue.

It’s all fake, scripted.
A guy cant fuck 10 girls at the same time and fire off a massive load in every girl, then finally ending in the 11th shot with a 10 handed hj that has the tenacity of a rocket to touch the ceiling.

Nakadashi can be egg white with food coloring or some other fake product.

Actresses literally go to the gym and do weighted squats to “bounce” for over 30 minutes and can continue a marathon.

 

[requiemmorrow]

37 this year.

My sex drive when I was younger was insatiable, but I was going through a chivalrous knight syndrome where I believed I was the best guy every girl could date…deludedly in my fat, disgusting, shitty shell of a body and a smug face that you just want to punch (not much has changed other than that I expel jizz and farts further than ever before). I had one girlfriend that got me to jizz 8 times in an evening and it was one of my proudest (aside from the 5 or so emptied into a stuffed animal years prior.)

Now I am happy if I get one gigantic blast, two and I’m elated. I sometimes take magic V or Cialis if I am planning a fuckathon, but I don’t want to get too dependent on them and am instead running more often and masturbating significantly less.

I also stopped being a knight and actually have the longest steady lover I’ve ever had.

Side note: looking at the poll, seeing that there are a few folks under 20 and am jealous. If I knew fuzoku then I’d probably be significantly healthier than I am now….

 

[biggiesmallpop]

Sounds more like the medical industry got you by the balls. There are lot of cases where the pills are needed for mental support, not for physical problems and yours sounds like one of them.

What are you a doctor ? But thx for the diagnosis.

My ED is partly mental partly physical but it's been around for ages. Don't be a hater - med industry is a savor to my balls tbh and in my youth it let me bang it out like a porn star so all happy bro.

 

[MikeH]

What are you a doctor ?

Yeah, I am.

Not in the medical field though, but as everyone else in the internet is I have learned a lot by reading their diagnosis over the years.