So I have been in Japan for about 7 months now and I have only gotten about 3 dates. It seems like Japanese girls are not willing to give me any time of time because I am Black. I speak fairly good Japanese so it is not an issue. I see my white guy friends who speak no Japanese constantly having dates lined up, constant hook ups, and women begging to sleep with them, even though they are not even as good looking as me or speak anywhere the amount of Japanese I can. They often ask how it is possibly that I haven't meet more girls then them. Then only thing I can come to is that in this area(Kobe/Osaka) Japanese women are not warm to Black people at all. I have been to Bars and clubs, where women will actually ignore me if I approach them. I have been on multiple dating apps/sites such as Pairs, Tinder (500 swipes=no match), Gyaruru, PCmax, Skout, JapanCupid, AdultFriendFinder, etc. I have tried them all. At this point I ready to give up, Are Japanese really this cold towards non white foreigners? I have even played with the idea of just buying sex, but that is even a challenge! Once anyone figures out that I am Black the conversation is over. I am out of Ideas, what does everyone think? No it is not my looks, I am a fairly attractive black guy, who takes very good care of himself.
Before I would blame the issue on skin color, I would evaluate your approach to dating Japanese women. I have friends of all colors (yes, that includes White guys) that have done very poorly dating Japanese women, and then friends who do very well (including Black).
1) Dressing Wrong For The Environment/Situation
I have some Black (and White) friends from the military bases that dress up very thuggish, sporty, or non-professionally. To include scraggly beards or hairstyles. I would say they give a bad vibe to many Japanese women, who don't understand foreign fashion or can't differentiate it from a person's true personality. Consequently, many Japanese women will be scared of foreigners dressed a certain way, as if they came to Japan to rob, murder, or deal drugs.
Dressingly a certain way, can totally work at various clubs or weekends, but not work with say average or working women. You might want to look more professional or adjust your fashion/style, to what works better to the type of women you are approaching.
1B) Profile Pictures
Some dudes are taking odd pictures. Bare chested, looking like gangsters, blurry, the lighting is too dark, looking creepy, doing weird shit that they think "cool" but others don't, etc... Also the profile can be too difficult for Japanese to read or adding a bit of Japanese to it might help (though not with foreign women).
This might be the problem, versus a person's race or skin color.
2) Using A Bad Approach
Some guys are better at approaching and talking to women than others. Some guys approach women in a creepy, aggressive, too serious (no smiles), with defeatist behavior, etc... Possibly learn to be more comfortable with approach and talking to women.
3) Approaching In Bad Areas/Clubs
Some areas and locations work for some guys and not for others. For example being in the wrong clubs, maybe your style isn't good for street approaches, always trying to talk to women in the same location, etc... Another problem about the same location, is you or foreigners getting a bad reputation there (to include jealous or racist Japanese giving you such a bad reputation).
A guy may want to vary and try different locations or ways to meet women.
4) Get Help
Some guys are bad at approaching women by themselves. Enlist the help of a wing-man, to hype you up to girls and introduce you, or have a more skilled/successful guy mentor/help you.
