GoldenDalton
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Well, this is the only subset if really care about. There's not much sense in worrying that a woman thinks I'm too bulky, when she's already turned off by my being a foreigner- there's definitely nothing I can do about that!Indeed! In addition, there is a subset of Japanese women who are fascinated with and attracted by the size of Western men, including ones that would most certainly be considered chubby by Japanese standards. And while these women are definitely a minority, they very often are the same minority of Japanese women who have lived for a significant time somewhere in the West (which is where/why/how they lost their distaste for larger guys) and thus speak the best English or French or whatever the native language of the country where they spent time. In other words they are the very same Japanese women most accessible to you in your native language. Win-win!
These J women are often specifically looking for gaijin BFs, sometimes specifically for "big ones". I was once the target of gyakunan (a woman approaching and picking up a guy) while walking in Ueno Park by a J woman who had previously lived for some years in San Francisco. Much later she told me that it was my size that caught her attention and initially attracted her, and she often compared my size (favorably) to that of various Japanese guys in her social circle.
In short, while I think the generalizations Solong describes are correct as far as generalizations go, I also think you may be better off disregarding them. Moreover, self-confidence is more attractive to many, probably most, women than anything about a guy's looks.
-Ww
That subset you're referencing- anything that can bring me into more contact is useful info. So far I've had the best luck at "Irish Pubs."
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