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personal experience (mine and from observations): its by far easier to date when you dont really speak japanese... if youll never have to learn japanese is up to debate, but often japanese are more interested in foreigners, the less they know japanese...
sure, you can approach more women, when you speak the local language, but how many are really willing to date foreigners?
TONS of girls will date foreigners long term. You just have to frame things properly with regular girls. One simple tip is just making sure that when you're framing the relationship with the girl, shatter any preconceived notions she may have of how a relationship is supposed to go. You're not a japanese girl and a white guy, or whatever. It's you and her. Don't let the foreigner thing be a detractor for you, as it's something out of your control. It goes beyond just speaking the language though; you need to be in their world and understand where they're coming from. That's true of pretty much any relationship.
Your foreignerness might get you about 5 minutes of attention from people, but the days (especially in Tokyo) of Japanese girls going ape shit over foreigners are long gone (10-20 years gone). Bring something to the table other than being a white guy to connect to the girl as a human (like @User#8628 said) and you'll do fine.
As far as where to meet girls, you really need to identify what kind of girl you like? Most of the girls I've seen online are girls that don't have a blossoming social life due to their personality, work, or a multitude of other reasons. Pairs and Omiai are good apps for serious relationships, and they pull info directly from your facebook. Personally, find a local HUB (bar), or Rigoletto's in Roppongi, R2 also in roppongi. You'll find girls who are more likely to speak English and is more like a western style bar than the normal Japanese standing bars where you drink alone or with people you came with and don't make eye contact with others (Of course you can, it's just not commonly done =P). Otherwise, there are the common ways of pursuing your own hobbies and meeting girls in the same environments and such (most organic method IMO). Talk to Japanese guys too at the bar, make friends and expand your social circle. They probably have cute friends and can set up a gokon for you.
You can also check sites like gaijin pot for language exchanges and such, those can be good ways to meet girls too.