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Three years ago I posted a detailed but bloated guide to dating apps and how to go about using them well, as I saw it at the time. I'm grateful for the response it got and sincerely hope some of you got something out of it. Shout out to TohouAsura who posted a similar breakdown in the replies. Good stuff. Since then, much has changed. As of December 2022, masking remains near universal, making approaches a gamble in many locations. HUBs went to hell, taking a couple of my favourite spots out of the game. On the other hand more women than ever are using apps. The pandemic further exposed the weakness of Japanese men and young women seem to be getting hungrier and more aggressive. There is much fun and conquest to be had. I have also succeeded in making more male friends, real bros. The kind who know that we come before hoes. I've had opportunity to learn from their different approaches to women. I've also grown myself and while I am contemplating retiring from the game, things are working better than ever for me right now.
All apps but pairs, omiai and with are now wastes of time and money to me. Pairs barely makes that list and seems to have a bot problem as of late. I do know a guy who has done alright out of bumble lately. Nothing else is even worth mentioning at this point. I might still recommend language exchange apps such as Tandem or HelloTalk but I hear time investment is now high, so this is perhaps a better avenue for younger men with more time than money. I moved to a bigger apartment, upgraded my exercise routine and stepped up my fasting. This has lead to a decent reduction in body fat percentage which has made a major positive difference in my interactions with women. I do not dispute the stories of obese men taking home sexy women: there is a market for all types after all. However, adding muscle, slimming down, grooming and dressing up remains the path to broader appeal and appeal with higher calibre women. Nothing beats the feeling of walking into a bar or an izakaya and turning female heads in a good way. Don't overdo the dressing up though, or you'll just be the creepy guy in the loud suit who everyone avoids. Many such cases.
I have made relatively cold few approaches in the last few years. My standards have risen greatly. I generally have about 5-7 plates spinning at any one time, a few long term core and others that rotate in and out. This gives me the freedom to never have to beg for it from some run-through OL or be forced into wooing a fat otaku hog. A girl really has to be a bullseye for me before I even consider it nowadays, and with everyone's face hidden bullseyes are hard to spot. I don't discount approach entirely though. A bro recently pulled a girl more than a decade younger than him, but from a shopping centre rather than a bar. Another bro does well in bars in the city regularly. His game is persistence: he just bounces around until he finds a girl that is keen and then taxis home with her. Takes patience, but it works. Ratios on Fridays and Saturdays are murder. You'll have better luck mid-week. Going with a friend or two and aiming for pairs or trios continues to yield consistently good results.
When it comes to girls from apps, the second date is basically permission to take her home. I don't bother with second dates now unless I feel like she is going to be a decent lay. As you progress in the game, it becomes really important to actually want it. I have found myself self-sabotaging relationships because I just wasn't that keen on the girl. At one point I found myself in bed naked with a beautiful younger woman but I just didn't care. I was more concerned about getting a good night's sleep before work. It is also important to be clear with the girl about wanting her sexually, but without being sleezy or too direct about it. Once I failed to do this sufficiently and received some very blue balls for my trouble, despite getting her home. These days the game to me is not just about getting sex from anywhere I can, but going younger, aiming higher, and going for women I am actually drawn to. This requires some self-honesty and restraint. I see men in Tokyo stabbing eachother in the back and tiring themselves out over mid-to-low-level pussy and I just don't recommend that kind of hollow existence. Drama is gay, too.
Though I would like to retire soon, I still have some goals. I look forward to seeing how the game plays as I continue exercising and looksmaxxing. If anybody knows a reliable place to meet gyaru (spesh the tanned, dyed-hair kind) please reply below, this is territory I want to explore further. I'll lurk a bit more regularly, in case anyone has any questions. Keen to talk to anyone who just wants to have a more fast-paced chat sometime, sharing is caring and there is much we can all learn from eachother. Surprising how few men out there can actually relate.
Merry Christmas and good hunting to all.
All apps but pairs, omiai and with are now wastes of time and money to me. Pairs barely makes that list and seems to have a bot problem as of late. I do know a guy who has done alright out of bumble lately. Nothing else is even worth mentioning at this point. I might still recommend language exchange apps such as Tandem or HelloTalk but I hear time investment is now high, so this is perhaps a better avenue for younger men with more time than money. I moved to a bigger apartment, upgraded my exercise routine and stepped up my fasting. This has lead to a decent reduction in body fat percentage which has made a major positive difference in my interactions with women. I do not dispute the stories of obese men taking home sexy women: there is a market for all types after all. However, adding muscle, slimming down, grooming and dressing up remains the path to broader appeal and appeal with higher calibre women. Nothing beats the feeling of walking into a bar or an izakaya and turning female heads in a good way. Don't overdo the dressing up though, or you'll just be the creepy guy in the loud suit who everyone avoids. Many such cases.
I have made relatively cold few approaches in the last few years. My standards have risen greatly. I generally have about 5-7 plates spinning at any one time, a few long term core and others that rotate in and out. This gives me the freedom to never have to beg for it from some run-through OL or be forced into wooing a fat otaku hog. A girl really has to be a bullseye for me before I even consider it nowadays, and with everyone's face hidden bullseyes are hard to spot. I don't discount approach entirely though. A bro recently pulled a girl more than a decade younger than him, but from a shopping centre rather than a bar. Another bro does well in bars in the city regularly. His game is persistence: he just bounces around until he finds a girl that is keen and then taxis home with her. Takes patience, but it works. Ratios on Fridays and Saturdays are murder. You'll have better luck mid-week. Going with a friend or two and aiming for pairs or trios continues to yield consistently good results.
When it comes to girls from apps, the second date is basically permission to take her home. I don't bother with second dates now unless I feel like she is going to be a decent lay. As you progress in the game, it becomes really important to actually want it. I have found myself self-sabotaging relationships because I just wasn't that keen on the girl. At one point I found myself in bed naked with a beautiful younger woman but I just didn't care. I was more concerned about getting a good night's sleep before work. It is also important to be clear with the girl about wanting her sexually, but without being sleezy or too direct about it. Once I failed to do this sufficiently and received some very blue balls for my trouble, despite getting her home. These days the game to me is not just about getting sex from anywhere I can, but going younger, aiming higher, and going for women I am actually drawn to. This requires some self-honesty and restraint. I see men in Tokyo stabbing eachother in the back and tiring themselves out over mid-to-low-level pussy and I just don't recommend that kind of hollow existence. Drama is gay, too.
Though I would like to retire soon, I still have some goals. I look forward to seeing how the game plays as I continue exercising and looksmaxxing. If anybody knows a reliable place to meet gyaru (spesh the tanned, dyed-hair kind) please reply below, this is territory I want to explore further. I'll lurk a bit more regularly, in case anyone has any questions. Keen to talk to anyone who just wants to have a more fast-paced chat sometime, sharing is caring and there is much we can all learn from eachother. Surprising how few men out there can actually relate.
Merry Christmas and good hunting to all.