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I tried going to bars by myself a few times but I always felt too self-conscious. Standing alone in a bar makes me miserable
I've never liked going to bars alone if my goal is to meet people. I have never been attractive enough to compete in an environment that depends almost entirely on physical beauty. That said, when I do go out, I'm usually alone but I sing karaoke or I take my MacBook and write, in which case I choose peaceful bars with good whiskey.I tried going to bars by myself a few times but I always felt too self-conscious. Standing alone in a bar makes me miserable
I really don't see the point in doing it without at least knowing anyone there.
Yes but you also might get bothered by people you'd rather not get to know better and an environment with alcohol is not the safest.There's always a first time to meet anyone . Chance meetings can lead to everything from a short but interesting chat to a lifelong friendship. Of course, it might be simply boring, increase ones sense of isolation or lead to hassle, but I do enjoy the opportunity to discover new people.
If you are a pretty blonde girl with a gorgeous neck and steely blue eyes, you might get bothered. Some of us melt quite easily into anonymity whether we want to or not.Yes but you also might get bothered by people you'd rather not get to know better and an environment with alcohol is not the safest.
I'm not talking only about girls though, some men who wander off alone to unfamiliar places get drugged and have their credit cards stolen.If you are a pretty blonde girl with a gorgeous neck and steely blue eyes, you might get bothered. Some of us melt quite easily into anonymity whether we want to or not.
I can go to a movie by myself. But at a bar, I would think that everyone is looking at me and thinks "that loser is standing there all alone". Of course no one cares but that is just the thought that goes through my mind.I can go to a bar, a movie, whatever by myself. I don't understand hesitancy about that.
Agree 100%!Almost always go alone, especially if wanting to pick up someone for a one nighter.
3) Dancing with friends is more fun than dancing with strangers.. in my opinion.
There's always a first time to meet anyone . Chance meetings can lead to everything from a short but interesting chat to a lifelong friendship. Of course, it might be simply boring, increase ones sense of isolation or lead to hassle, but I do enjoy the opportunity to discover new people.
it actually is fun if they are really your friends.I guess if you're a man and you come with male friends.. it wouldn't be that much fun.. but since I hang out with cute girls whenever the opportunity does arise..
Well then.. nevermindit actually is fun if they are really your friends.
Frankly i NEVER saw a female alone in a night club, except if she "works" obviously...it actually is fun if they are really your friends.
Why does everyone say that if you come with your friends you have to leave with them though?
We're adults. If someone wants to go home and the other has landed well in a nice atomsphere and met some new people who seem decent, i dont see a problem with spitting up later.
And what happened to the "wingman" idea? Isn't it supposed to be easier to hook up with people if you have friends who can also mingle.
I tried going to bars by myself a few times but I always felt too self-conscious. Standing alone in a bar makes me miserable
Having seen similar discussions in other forums with similar patterns, I wonder how much of this is generational? Us older folks seem to have been much more willing from a younger age to venture out on our own according to my observations.If I have a friend or friends or a date available, I almost always prefer to go out with them, but if not, I have no problem or unpleasant feelings going out to restaurants, bars, nightclubs, movies or whatever by myself...and it often turns out to be fun and satisfying. When traveling to a place (city or country or...) for the first time, I prefer to spend *some* of the time out alone because I pay more attention to my surroundings and soak in the new experience more thoroughly when I am not directing a part of my attention to my companion.
Basically I agree with @MissInsomnia; both have their pros and cons.
-Ww