Dodging a kiss on the second

[macdaddymeister]

Is it strange to dodge a see you later kiss on the lips thing on the second meeting? It was just one of those awkward moments on public transport where we had to part ways and I usually just do hugs but I could see her maneuver wanting to go straight in but I veered off to the side for the hug.

 

[MikeH]

Is it strange to dodge a see you later kiss on the lips thing on the second meeting?

No. If you are a Japanese girl it's actually pretty normal.

 

[User#8628]

Haha, rude

 

[MikeH]

Haha, rude

Well, I am not sure I'd say dodging a kiss is outright rude, at least if you do it smoothly.

But I do like to kiss the girls in the lips as a goodbye after the second date for sure. I just don't like to do it publicly, but already before we depart the hotel.

It's also easier that way, as in public most of them wear panties.

 

[macdaddymeister]

Actually now that I think of it I may just have naturally swiveled in the way of giving a hug when parting ways and I guess her intentions might have been different. She's non-Japanese by the way.

 

[MikeH]

She's non-Japanese by the way.

Yeah, was kind of wondering that. Pretty rare that a Japanese girl would go for a kiss in public, even now.

My first ever mistake with a Japanese girl back in the 80's was try to give a parting kiss in front of a station. Even after thousands of way worse mistakes along the way that still remains burned in my memory as clear as if it was yesterday.

 

[Frenchy]

Actually now that I think of it I may just have naturally swiveled in the way of giving a hug when parting ways and I guess her intentions might have been different. She's non-Japanese by the way.

Latin country? Then for her it must be pretty normal I guess

 

[macdaddymeister]

Yeah, was kind of wondering that. Pretty rare that a Japanese girl would go for a kiss in public, even now.

My first ever mistake with a Japanese girl back in the 80's was try to give a parting kiss in front of a station. Even after thousands of way worse mistakes along the way that still remains burned in my memory as clear as if it was yesterday.

Damn, you've lived in Japan since the 80's? Time does go by so fast living in Tokyo and those past long memories do seem like they were just yesterday.

 

[macdaddymeister]

Latin country? Then for her it must be pretty normal I guess

From another part of Asia...

 

[Simonka]

What is an acceptable display of romance and affection depends on the person and on wider scale the culture we’re living in, and I personally don’t think dodging a kiss is rude. [Except PDA I warm up to people fairly quickly and usually hug them before parting ways, but some people get awkward while hugging so I just avoid getting grabby the next time.. In this scenario I don’t think they’re being rude to me.]

These days everybody is recording and documenting every single moment and I don’t want my physical intimacy to be filed on someone’s memory card. For the same reason I wouldn’t broadcast my relationship on social media. (I don’t even use it anymore)

PDA is like eating fast food on the street, I’d rather dine at a nice restaurant and fully enjoy it Therefore I refrain from hand holding or kissing on the lips.

 

[jhingy567]

Is it strange to dodge a see you later kiss on the lips thing on the second meeting? It was just one of those awkward moments on public transport where we had to part ways and I usually just do hugs but I could see her maneuver wanting to go straight in but I veered off to the side for the hug.

Not strange if you were brought up in a culture where PDAs like this are rare. I don't know how I could deny a kiss to a girl who's willing to kiss me though...

For escorts/paid companions, I'm a little nervous about PDAs (might be seen by someone we know or another one of her clients).

 

[macdaddymeister]

I totally get you @Simonka never know whose watching/recording and where that photo/video is displayed at. I always try to do my best to avoid being in someone else's shot in public whether I'm with someone or not.

 

[Frenchy]

What is an acceptable display of romance and affection depends on the person and on wider scale the culture we’re living in, and I personally don’t think dodging a kiss is rude. [Except PDA I warm up to people fairly quickly and usually hug them before parting ways, but some people get awkward while hugging so I just avoid getting grabby the next time.. In this scenario I don’t think they’re being rude to me.]

These days everybody is recording and documenting every single moment and I don’t want my physical intimacy to be filed on someone’s memory card. For the same reason I wouldn’t broadcast my relationship on social media. (I don’t even use it anymore)

PDA is like eating fast food on the street, I’d rather dine at a nice restaurant and fully enjoy it Therefore I refrain from hand holding or kissing on the lips.

But what if your client does it?
Say on the way from the restaurant to the hotel... aint it rude to tap on his offered hand Melania Trump’s style ?

 

[Simonka]

But what if your client does it?
Say on the way from the restaurant to the hotel... aint it rude to tap on his offered hand Melania Trump’s style ?

Since the First Lady and I share similar proportions and hairstyle I don’t think it would be that unexpected


Maybe it might appear rude at first but if he scratches the surface and asks me about my reasoning I will happily explain. Besides, I promote myself as a “discreet” companion. This is a code word for dressing modestly and elegantly, watching out for the security cameras on the corridors and elevators, and avoiding public displays of affection during social time. I’ve had many dinner and dessert type of dates over the past year and although I’m friendly, flirty and chatty I still keep things pretty majime when it comes to acts of physical intimacy.


(I’m not saying this is the *right* way, but it makes me feel more relaxed and comfortable. Plus, building up the anticipation and fueling the desire to “eat the dessert afterwards” works like an aphrodisiac.)

 

[User#8628]

PDA is like eating fast food on the street, I’d rather dine at a nice restaurant and fully enjoy it Therefore I refrain from hand holding or kissing on the lips.

I don’t agree, its the small moments that matter.
I love holding hands.

I feel like touching hands and things like that build up the tension.
I wouldn’t great someone with a public kiss usually but i also don’t think a kiss is a substitute of private play, more like a little taste of whats to come.

But yes, everyone has their own style.

 

[SatoKM]

Haha, rude

I guess you will not dodge a kiss from me, right?

 

[MikeH]

I guess you will not dodge a kiss from me, right?

Unless it's the first date, right?

Though I am pretty sure Alice didn't mean that it was the OP that was rude, but the small minded racist guy who answered him.

 

[Frenchy]

Since the First Lady and I share similar proportions and hairstyle I don’t think it would be that unexpected


Maybe it might appear rude at first but if he scratches the surface and asks me about my reasoning I will happily explain. Besides, I promote myself as a “discreet” companion. This is a code word for dressing modestly and elegantly, watching out for the security cameras on the corridors and elevators, and avoiding public displays of affection during social time. I’ve had many dinner and dessert type of dates over the past year and although I’m friendly, flirty and chatty I still keep things pretty majime when it comes to acts of physical intimacy.


(I’m not saying this is the *right* way, but it makes me feel more relaxed and comfortable. Plus, building up the anticipation and fueling the desire to “eat the dessert afterwards” works like an aphrodisiac.)

Sorry but I call BS on that. You probably just find uncomfortable to be seen in public holding hands or kissing with a much older man which is understandable in a way , but I am not so sure it is completely about « discretion »

 

[MikeH]

Sorry but I call BS on that. You probably just find uncomfortable to be seen in public holding hands or kissing with a much older man which is understandable in a way , but I am not so sure it is completely about « discretion »

In her defence I would also not be very comfortable being seen in public kissing a much older gentleman.

And I would not feel OK even if that was a young female either. I will hold hands if that's what she wants but after having been living in Japan for way too long I am pretty much not comfortable with any more intimate public acts.

 

[Simonka]

Sorry but I call BS on that. You probably just find uncomfortable to be seen in public holding hands or kissing with a much older man which is understandable in a way , but I am not so sure it is completely about « discretion »

Speaking of whether it’s rude or not, I think you calling my preferences “BS” and trying to back up your idea with your theories about my behavior is very rude. It’s my private life and what goes on between me and a partner or client is my business. I’m also wondering how you automatically assume my clients are much older than me? If you visually associate an escort with an older or “physically incomparable” client at all times, I can guarantee that’s not always the case. And I guess you should ask yourself why..

 

[Frenchy]

Speaking of whether it’s rude or not, I think you calling my preferences “BS” and trying to back up your idea with your theories about my behavior is very rude. It’s my private life and what goes on between me and a partner or client is my business. I’m also wondering how you automatically assume my clients are much older than me? If you visually associate an escort with an older or “physically incomparable” client at all times, I can guarantee that’s not always the case. And I guess you should ask yourself why..

Sorry for the BS mention. And no, I did not make that assumption in a systematic way. And yes I am a desperate ugly 90 year old geezer who craves holding hands of « GFE » ladies in Kabukicho
But I can understand if the GFE is a in-bedroom only concept.. as long as the time outside of it is not charged then!

 

[Mrmer]

Is it strange to dodge a see you later kiss on the lips thing on the second meeting? It was just one of those awkward moments on public transport where we had to part ways and I usually just do hugs but I could see her maneuver wanting to go straight in but I veered off to the side for the hug.

You playing hard to get? Mind games ...what’s your angle?

But really ( joking with you ) I go in for a ladies lip..lips anytime she offers. So I’m older..married and swing or p2p. All my targets are past the game so lol... why did you avoid?

 

[e-smile]

Is it strange to dodge a see you later kiss on the lips thing on the second meeting? It was just one of those awkward moments on public transport where we had to part ways and I usually just do hugs but I could see her maneuver wanting to go straight in but I veered off to the side for the hug.

I don't know, I never did second meeting with a girl I didn't kiss on the 1st

Actually now that I think of it I may just have naturally swiveled in the way of giving a hug when parting ways and I guess her intentions might have been different. She's non-Japanese by the way.

why have a second date with her if you don't want to kiss her ?

 

[Frenchy]

I don't know, I never did second meeting with a girl I didn't kiss on the 1st

Lucky boy. For me it was more like « I rarely did second meetings with girls I DID kiss on the first »

 

[Mrmer]

Lucky boy. For me it was more like « I rarely did second meetings with girls I DID kiss on the first »

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