meiji
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I am not saying a mistress won't bring harm, but from what I can see, P4P is very destructive in a way when thinking of fucking outside of marriage.
Why? I honestly don't really see much difference between P4P and a (mythical) "controllable mistress".
Worried about STDs? How many mistresses or sugar babies out there haven't been promiscuous or won't be during the time that they are 'controllable'? There is a provider near my hometown that I regrettably was never able to book, who is supposedly amazing -- she looks a lot like Elizabeth Hurley. Recently she announced that one of her regulars was taking her 'off the market' to be an exclusive sugar baby. The dividing line between P4P and sugar baby/mistress isn't exactly a solid line. I think there's an illusion of control there, because I think most women in that situation will either dump a guy or cheat out of anger, frustration, or boredom.
Worried about potential exposure or emotional attachment? A P4P girl that you see regularly isn't going to be any different than a mistress you see regularly. Except with P4P you might be able to separate yourself, keeping your identity secret, etc. I think it's impossible to have great sex with someone on a regular basis and not have some emotions eventually (from one side or the other), and that's going to be destabilizing on any relationship, especially one where secrecy is a priority. I've personally tried to avoid those sorts of complications by seeking variety in P4P, because getting emotionally attached to some of the Korean goddesses I've spent a few hours with would be big trouble, even if they were up for it.
Sure, P4P is billable by the hour -- a big negative -- but if you can afford a 'controllable' mistress putting together some leisurely time with a girl isn't that big of a deal.