Sugar cat,
I’ve never been a sugar baby, but I’ve been an escort for about a year. I don’t do short 1 hour meetings and prefer to establish a deeper rapport and connection with my clients, therefore I believe my escorting style is close to sugaring.
Since you’re new on sugaring websites you should be aware that some guys lurk there to take advantage of new girls. You sound like you are firm about your expectations, which is a good thing. I don’t think your expectations are unrealistic. If people are wasting your time or causing you emotional distress, don’t hesitate to cut contact.
I don’t know about your target demographics but by sugaring you can meet a better caliber of gentlemen who can mentor you on many things: meeting and connecting with people why I prefer escorting over some other alternative like camming. You should also be very careful with protection and sexual health, some SD are known to, uh.. not pay attention to such simple (!) details. I guess I’m the opposite: camming will confine me at home and I like going outside and exploring.
(Also I love meeting businessmen from whom I can get professional advice during the downtime.)
A good alternative to SA or similar websites is going out to hotel bars and meeting businessmen there. If you have the stamina and you don’t mind investing your time, it can be very fruitful after a few evenings of trying to meet new people.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best!