So I’m in Tokyo a few days (a little over a week) for vacation. It’s become something of a thing for me - having lived here for an extended period in the past, visits are nice (I suspect moreso than for the average tourist). This time I’ve found myself unusually obsessed with the idea of getting some action, and being faced with the reality that I just don’t have the saavy nor the Japanese skill needed to reliably pull from the night life scene in such a short time span, I’m faced with turning to P4P (likely escort or soapland, maaaybe oppai bar but the blue balls aspect seems lame).
I do not judge anyone for partaking and try not to attach morality to P4P, but unfortunately many people don’t think the same way, meaning that once you’ve taken that path, you’re carrying a “secret” of sorts and depending on who catches wind, there may be very real social consequences to be paid.
As such, I’m very close to pulling the trigger, and despite being single (and in theory have no reason to worry) concerns echo through my mind. Probably the chief one is, “What will people back home think of me if they find out?”. I worry most about close (and important) female friends - they’re amazing, bright people who I want in my life, but I don’t know where they stand on this issue and I could see things easily souring if my actions come to light, particularly with the recent rise in social consciousness in the US. And then there’s the whole emotional quagmire of what it means about myself that I went through with all of this, not to mention the judgement that would surely be rained down if my Bible Belt family members somehow found out…
Has anybody else been through a similar ordeal? How did you deal with it? Am I thinking too much about it, or is the worry justified? Should I instead just hit the nearest HUB and pray that through some miracle I manage to pull someone?
I do not judge anyone for partaking and try not to attach morality to P4P, but unfortunately many people don’t think the same way, meaning that once you’ve taken that path, you’re carrying a “secret” of sorts and depending on who catches wind, there may be very real social consequences to be paid.
As such, I’m very close to pulling the trigger, and despite being single (and in theory have no reason to worry) concerns echo through my mind. Probably the chief one is, “What will people back home think of me if they find out?”. I worry most about close (and important) female friends - they’re amazing, bright people who I want in my life, but I don’t know where they stand on this issue and I could see things easily souring if my actions come to light, particularly with the recent rise in social consciousness in the US. And then there’s the whole emotional quagmire of what it means about myself that I went through with all of this, not to mention the judgement that would surely be rained down if my Bible Belt family members somehow found out…
Has anybody else been through a similar ordeal? How did you deal with it? Am I thinking too much about it, or is the worry justified? Should I instead just hit the nearest HUB and pray that through some miracle I manage to pull someone?
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