How Much Is Too Much?

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I never used any escort service or delivery health before coming to Tokyo. I moved here in February. I always wanted to but never went through it because of safety and security reasons.

Now in last two months I have spent around ¥200,000 on escorts and delivery health. I am single and I feel lonely and horny a lot. its so easy here so I don't hesitate to do it.

I think I am getting addicted to it. I have not saved nothing in these past two months and now it's bothering me.

I am doing it too much? how do you guys control/manage your Play time?
 
When you can't eat, & you have to borrow money by the 23rd it is officially too much.
Set a budget for playing.
 
This kind of money can be spent way too quickly, so it's a good question.

If it's still a discovery, there's no problem spending a bit in the beginning.

Then it's like any other possible addiction, you have to be sure you stay (overall) in control, and know your limits.
Don't bet everything on this activity, keep balanced with other interests like sports, culture, job, learning japanese.. Some may even help/improve your p4p experience tremendously!
It may help also to have the right friends to share this part of your life, this way you are not alone and it reminds you of some common sense while maintaining/focusing your motivation.

Also, how did you do before coming to Japan ? If some previous things can be adapted, don't hesitate : everything doesn't have to be new/different ;)
 
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Also, how did you do before coming to Japan ? If some previous things can be adapted, don't hesitate : everything doesn't have to be new/different ;)
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I never used any services because I was scared. I do go out with friends and spend lot of time exploring the city but end of the day I feel lonely and end up calling a girl. I met 7 girls from mid March to this month.
 
Loneliness is hard so you need to fix this.

Also ideally you should get far more satisfaction by p4p than what it costs you (not only money-wise), and it seems it's not the case.

If you plan to stay on the long term, and assuming girls make you feel less lonely, then I would advise to lower the frequency (like once a month), aim for quality/novelty, save some money and find one or many regular(s).

Maybe take a break from p4p to focus on the girlfriend(s) and be in the right mindset
 
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You need a second hobby to keep your mind busy. I know how you feel. It's easy to feel lonely in this country especially but there are other alternatives to be satisfied and save money. Also the more you p4p you kinda become desensitized with the experience right? Maybe get an Xbox one or go out and find a social event to meet people, visit a coffee shop, join a gym and meet people.
 
I was thinking on the same lines and started with swimming and will be taking up golf pretty soon. Finding a girl friend is kind of difficult here because I am not exactly the foreigner girls want here (I am Indian) and not knowing Japanese makes it harder.
 
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Thanks for the responses and the advices guys. Really appreciate it. Will try to distract myself with other things and will try to reduce the frequency to once/twice a month.
 
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Good luck with the golf. Only affordable stuff in in Chiba or other distant locations
 
I know what you mean. I'm not what Japanese girls look for because basically I'm ugly as hell lol. What I do know is if you can make them laugh you got a chance.
It's really good to have a limit because when that time comes the anticipation and overall experience will feel that much better
 
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