I Discovered Another Form Of Micro Aggression?

[Chocoballs]

I am missing the "aggression" part of NOT going to English class Did he attack you or use some Japanese voodoo technique?

If I were him I would be annoyed by such a request too. This is an incredibly hard task. He has to go to his boss to ask for a job (which for most people would already be uncomfortable) for a guy he does not know and the stranger even lives in fricking China. If there is an aggressor in this story then it is probably you.

 

[Chocoballs]

I also get a lot of micro aggression of all the women I ask for a blowjob. They said that they probably could do it. But when I e-mailed them about it they stopped responding to me. I am a victim of micro aggression every day

 

[TokyoJoeblow]

I also get a lot of micro aggression of all the women I ask for a blowjob. They said that they probably could do it. But when I e-mailed them about it they stopped responding to me. I am a victim of micro aggression every day

A lot of them say yes to blowing me though too. It isn't all bad I guess. ;-)

 

[Wwanderer]

One sneaky thing I have noticed that Japanese people do a lot is that if they get thirsty, they will offer you a beverage (water tea, beer or whatever depending on the circumstance) and say something like, "I'm going to get some tea from vending machine, can I get you anything too?" It's just awful. They cover up the fact that they are mostly concerned about quenching their own thirst by pretending to be concerned about you. I can barely stand it.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Btw, means I am being sarcastic (usually).

-Ww

 

[Chocoballs]

One sneaky thing I have noticed that Japanese people do a lot is that if they get thirsty, they will offer you a beverage (water tea, beer or whatever depending on the circumstance) and say something like, "I'm going to get some tea from vending machine, can I get you anything too?" It's just awful. They cover up the fact that they are mostly concerned about quenching their own thirst by pretending to be concerned about you. I can barely stand it.

-Ww

Japan is a pretty aggressive society!

 

[Wwanderer]

I'm sorry, I have broken one of the secret rules. "Thou shall not say anything bad about Japan."

You frequently make complaints along these lines, but are there any criticisms of Japanese society, people (especially women) or whatever that you have not been allowed to express on TAG? Are your posts being deleted or something? Or do you actually mean that such views cannot be expressed without someone challenging them...in essence expressing their own differing views?

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Japan is a pretty aggressive society!

NYC is the other major world city where I spend a fair amount of time, and I can assure you that the vast majority of New Yorkers will never get that pushy; they respect your thirst-privacy and just go get themselves a drink when they are thirsty with none of this passive-aggressive pressure to join them. What a relief...!

-Ww

 

[NormalGuy]

Drinks are bad enough, but can you imagine the outrage if they offered to go to the konbini for you as well, damn, I think the next set of flights back to "safe old gaijin land" would be chockablock with people running up and down the planes aisles in "panic" mode (i.e. screaming and jumping out of the emergency exits).

 

[just4fun]

Btw, means I am being sarcastic (usually).

-Ww

You? Sarcastic? I thought that was my job!!!

 

[SpookySmoothie]

I'm still trying to figure out when I am the victim of micro aggression I mean there was this one time I got lost trying to find a station since I walked to the wrong one (two with similar names in one area) and while stopping to check google maps a girl ran into the back of me almost knocking me over. She looked mortified apologising in Japanese and English bowing despite me replying back in both languages that is okay and it was an accident. I'm assuming she was running for a train and ran into me when I stopped to check my phone but perhaps this was a super secret way of mocking foreigners by trying to take them out and then pretending to be sorry?

 

[Wwanderer]

You? Sarcastic? I thought that was my job!!!

I thought you might be too busy to handle it all these days, so just lending a helping hand. No micro-aggression intended!

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

I'm still trying to figure out when I am the victim of micro aggression I mean there was this one time I got lost trying to find a station since I walked to the wrong one (two with similar names in one area) and while stopping to check google maps a girl ran into the back of me almost knocking me over. She looked mortified apologising in Japanese and English bowing despite me replying back in both languages that is okay and it was an accident. I'm assuming she was running for a train and ran into me when I stopped to check my phone but perhaps this was a super secret way of mocking foreigners by trying to take them out and then pretending to be sorry?

I can't say if that was micro-aggression or escalation. You will probably need an expert opinion to determine which, possibly a bootcamp too.

-Ww

 

[just4fun]

I thought you might be too busy to handle it all these days, so just lending a helping hand. No micro-aggression intended!

-Ww

Rough day today at the........

 

[TokyoJoeblow]

Alright fair enough. Although I truly believe some forms of micro-aggression do exist in Japan, you all provided examples of the polite things Japanese people do as well.

 

[gaijinsan]

Or do you actually mean that such views cannot be expressed without someone challenging them...in essence expressing their own differing views?

Well, obviously, freedom of speech means you can say whatever you like, with absolutely no social or professional consequences. That's how it is in America, at least.

 

[split]

If you've lived in America during the past 20 years you'd know that freedom of speech has taken a backseat to PC and not hurting the feeble feelings of others for the sake of "being fair." The problem now is it's gone way overboard and too many groups are now hypersensitive to self-deeming 'offensive' comments whilst the media both fosters and capitalizes on the frenzy.

 

[DJV]

If you've lived in America during the past 20 years you'd know that freedom of speech has taken a backseat to PC and not hurting the feeble feelings of others for the sake of "being fair." The problem now is it's gone way overboard and too many groups are now hypersensitive to self-deeming 'offensive' comments whilst the media both fosters and capitalizes on the frenzy.

It's also typical these days to overreact to any 'hurting' futile comment/fact, and accept/exploit deep/quiet unbalances in the system.

 

[gaijinsan]

If you've lived in America during the past 20 years you'd know that freedom of speech has taken a backseat to PC and not hurting the feeble feelings of others for the sake of "being fair." The problem now is it's gone way overboard and too many groups are now hypersensitive to self-deeming 'offensive' comments whilst the media both fosters and capitalizes on the frenzy.

Sigh. This is what I'm talking about. Expressing offense to someone else's speech is also protected speech. Can you publicly say that you think all Muslims are terrorists and shouldn't be allowed in the US? Yes. Can I publicly refute you, or fire your dumb ass for saying that? Yes. Both are protected. I just can't throw you in jail, deny you government benefits, tax/fine you for your comments. And that hasn't changed.

The difference now is that society has progressed and traditionally oppressed groups finally have the confidence to rebut hateful language.

 

[User#8628]

Free speach means that the government wont arrest you for expressing your opinion. It doesn't mean people wont call you an asshole for it.

 

[R.O.B]

PC is the refuge of the emotionally and mentally insecure. That being said, people say shit they shouldn't and have to realise that.

 

[gaijinsan]

PC is the refuge of the emotionally and mentally insecure.

That's a very broad statement, and I don't really understand the logic.

IMO, it takes emotional security and courage to call people out for intolerance, especially when those people are parts of historically powerful groups.

"Political correctness" has been demonized and perverted to be used as an instant dismissal of objections by oppressed groups.

 

[TokyoJoeblow]

That's a very broad statement, and I don't really understand the logic.

IMO, it takes emotional security and courage to call people out for intolerance, especially when those people are parts of historically powerful groups.

"Political correctness" has been demonized and perverted to be used as an instant dismissal of objections by oppressed groups.

Yes that is often the case, but I think we all know there are various degrees of politcal correctness...some leaning toward ridiculous.

The internet and media in general share examples of these variations with the world everyday.

 

[Sudsy]

Free speach means that the government wont arrest you for expressing your opinion. It doesn't mean people wont call you an asshole for it.

Or, as several celebrities found out in the last couple of years, that your employer won't terminate you for it. I was once, while still a student, fired from a job myself for making some speculatory statements regarding the tendency of lesbians to also be socialists or communists - word of which got back to my lesbian communist-sympathising manager, leding to my dismissal despite it being off hours and off site.

Freedom of speech means freedom from government prosecution, not public persecution.

 

[gaijinsan]

Yes that is often the case, but I think we all know there are various degrees of politcal correctness...some leaning toward ridiculous.

The internet and media in general share examples of these variations with the world everyday.

I agree that there is a line where offense may seem ridiculous, but, to be clear, taking offense to something never impinges on free speech.

If one feels they are frequently called out for being "politically incorrect", it's probably due to their willingness to share their offensive opinions--not the sensitivity of others.