Intellectually I agree with all the points in the first post but from experience it's just not that easy to change.
Very true. I'm certainly not trying to say it will be easy or that all you need to read is this post and your issues will be fixed! It is going to take a lot of action and reflection
If 100 guys take your boot camp how many have really changed behaviorally six months later?
On the bootcamp nearly all who take it (and actually listen and try what we are asking) experience massive improvement. Occasionally there is a guy who refuses to do anything or modify his approach in the ways we suggest and then he doesn't progress very much, but that's not surprising. It also matters very much who the guy is. If he's well adjusted and socially savvy and has good fashion, etc, he will likely excel very quickly once we show him how to effectively approach and communicate in a cold approach situation. These guys are the ones who really hit the ground running and start hooking up with lots of chicks quickly. Other guys have a longer path because they first have to learn to be normally social, which can be hard to teach. We get some guys who have social anxiety and even mild aspergers. They literally have difficulty reading other people's facial expressions. Still, these guys improve a lot by the end of the weekend.
Generally speaking alumni fall into a few categories in terms of long term results. There are guys who ride the "bootcamp high" (powerful after effect of the camp) and keep momentum for perhaps a couple weeks and then totally vanish. Other guys meet a girl who becomes their girlfriend either on the camp or shortly after, and they also disappear from the community. These guys basically got what they wanted, and in that sense it's a happy ending. However, they might find half a year or a year later that they didn't get enough identity level change done and thus their relationship doesn't have a strong foundation and they get dumped or it fizzled out. Incidentally, this was my pattern. After being dumped by my Taiwanese model ex who I met on my bootcamp,I really got back into game and everything got better. Looking back, she was definitely not what I wanted, nor was I man enough at that point to keep her interested. Many guys ostensibly want the "super hottie 10s" or whatever but it's much like a dog chasing a car: they wouldn't really know what to do with one if they caught it.
Finally you have the guys who devote themselves to the path totally and go out a ton and improve the most. I would say it takes about 1-2 years of going out with serious dedication and good reflection and advice to get REALLY good at this.. And at that point you should be able to easily pull 50+ girls a year of whatever variety suits you - or, if you don't want that, you should be able to easily find yourself a very nice girlfriend if you like (or two or three).
I would say these three groups are probably about 1/3 of all students each. It really depends on the guys disposition.guys who have a more progress based orientation are the ones who last longer and end up with the really hot girlfriends. Guys with a victim mindset and results based focus and inability to take rejection generally fall off.
A bullet point list of reasons it is OK to approach various girls at the end of the day is likely just useless in bypassing a series of deeply wired emotional responses, dooming most men to failure as far as changing their personality on so fundamental a level goes.
I think "dooming" is a bit strong. If reading a list of why you shouldn't be afraid to approach "dooms" you, you never really wanted it anyway. Anyway, my intention with the OP isn't to cure your mental issues completely - that's quite outside the scope of this post. I would also note that in the post I directly say what you do - make small steps towards being social with everybody and girls in particular.
This is more likely better dealt with as clinically diagnosed phobias (we might loosely group "approach anxiety" in with other social phobias) are dealt with, via "exposure therapy" and an incremental series of encounters over a long period of time, in a variety of situations, and with a view to fully converting to a "will chat up women in any and all situations" mindset.
Yeah, bootcamps are basically rapid exposure therapy. It's important to not also that it's not just
theory/frames, nor only
right action which is important, but also the very important:
reflection. Some guys are pretty bad at reflection and this leads them to continue to make the same bad approach. In this case, AA is NOT the problem - it's the whack approach and subcommunications that you're giving off.
this does not even begin to address the effectiveness of the methods employed (even now I have yet to convert any form of approach into an actual intimate relationship... any Japanese who mentions the phrase "yellow cab" to me can expect an earful!).
Your inability to get a date is not an indictment of the method any more that a random guy being unable to shoot baskets like LeBron is an indictment of LeBron James and basketball as a whole. It's an indictment of your own ability to reflect and implement the method successfully. Anyway, straight up exposure helps if you have AA. There are a million other ways to improve your approach, however. Neglecting those would be unwise. I would add more to help you but it's very hard to diagnose without a bit more detail of what you're doing or seeing it happen directly
