Opinion/General discussion - What do you think of providers that have a wishlist on their site?

I don't mind a wishlist. In some ways, as others have said, it gives me an idea of your personality, if all I see on your wishlist is designer items that cost more than a weekend with you, then I'll probably decide that your not my type. OTH, if it lists little things you enjoy, chocolates, candles, ect. plus some higher priced items then I get a good vibe because I feel like your a down to earth sort of girl who sees no reason not to wish for finer things.

But really instead of a wish list I prefer when you list the sort of things you like on your site along with accurate measurements for clothing. That way, should I choose to bring a gift, I can be reasonably sure it you will like it and/or it will fit. This is especially good if we are seeing each other for the first time.

But, hey, I just love giving gifts that are truly enjoyed. I'm instantly having a great night if I see on your face that you truly appreciate and enjoy something I surprised you with. Most often, it's simply been having the right bottle of wine on hand but sometimes it might be lingerie or candy or a toy ect. If there is nothing on your site to give me an idea though, or no way for me to know your size without asking then it's more likely that presents would wait for future meetings, assuming we can have them. The problem with meeting most providers while they or I are traveling is there is little opportunity for repeats.
 
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I think I've learned something with this thread.

As long as you don't expect gifts, and your wish list is designed to reduce waste - some gifts will be received regardless- a wish list seems completely sensible.

I've never got that sense from looking at the average website. Usually I get a completely different vibe.

I'm guessing some girls put together a luxury wishlist for marketing and other business reasons. I suppose in that case I am not the target client.
 
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Sarah Miehn said:
I dont have a wishlist mainly because I am lazy and I would love to be surprised, but I got awesome gifts ranging from a witty postcard, a flower, Reeses PB cups to stays at Mandarin Oriental(thanks!), a week long vacation to Sydney, a spy cam detector!!!!(how sweet!!)

If you want to have a wishlist on your website, then do it. I dont think you need to worry about whether clients are going to like it or not because most people dont even look at it. I often look at it when I am meeting a provider for the first time to see what they like so that I can bring a small gift! Clients that really like you, know you and you really connect with will know what you like or need anyway, so I dont really feel the need though. Up to you!

To @Frenchy about "fake diamonds for fake feelings", I feel like that is somewhat harsh thing to say. Its a written form of communication, so I am not sure if I am getting the wit behind it, but assuming that a provider will give you "fake feelins" is not the best mindset you can have for yourself or for the provider in my experience.

Gifts are never expected, but I believe it does make a difference. Providers whether its a she or he are all human, and who doesnt like to be treated nicely? I buy gifts for clients to thank them like a spa coupon or a nice bottle of perfume, and when I meet other providers, I like to bring them gifts as well.

Gift giving is a personal choice, and its perfectly fine to not give gifts because clients give providers business, which itself is a GREAT GIFT. I personally like gift giving only because it makes me feel good when I make other people feel good, and I dont really expect anything in return.
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Sarah Miehn said:
I dont have a wishlist mainly because I am lazy and I would love to be surprised, but I got awesome gifts ranging from a witty postcard, a flower, Reeses PB cups to stays at Mandarin Oriental(thanks!), a week long vacation to Sydney, a spy cam detector!!!!(how sweet!!)

If you want to have a wishlist on your website, then do it. I dont think you need to worry about whether clients are going to like it or not because most people dont even look at it. I often look at it when I am meeting a provider for the first time to see what they like so that I can bring a small gift! Clients that really like you, know you and you really connect with will know what you like or need anyway, so I dont really feel the need though. Up to you!

To @Frenchy about "fake diamonds for fake feelings", I feel like that is somewhat harsh thing to say. Its a written form of communication, so I am not sure if I am getting the wit behind it, but assuming that a provider will give you "fake feelins" is not the best mindset you can have for yourself or for the provider in my experience.

Gifts are never expected, but I believe it does make a difference. Providers whether its a she or he are all human, and who doesnt like to be treated nicely? I buy gifts for clients to thank them like a spa coupon or a nice bottle of perfume, and when I meet other providers, I like to bring them gifts as well.

Gift giving is a personal choice, and its perfectly fine to not give gifts because clients give providers business, which itself is a GREAT GIFT. I personally like gift giving only because it makes me feel good when I make other people feel good, and I dont really expect anything in return.
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Sarah, if you can give me real feelings, I can give you real diamonds. Deal? :)
 
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Sarah Miehn said:
witty postcard, a flower, Reeses PB cups to stays at Mandarin Oriental(thanks!), a week long vacation to Sydney, a spy cam detector!!!!(how sweet!!)
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I'll take the chocolates, bring me chocolates. :D

Does the spy cam detector work???
 
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Frenchy said:
Why a spy cam detector? What kind of clients buy this? CIA guys?
But I agree on chocolates, always the best bet!
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It's not unheard of for clients to attempt to film their encounters with ladies who very much do not allow filming so I can sort of see giving this gift if I had just happened to walk across it somewhere. I think it would be an odd one to try to track down specifically.

I'm more curious to find out, if it does work, how would you use it? I have this mental image of @Sarah Miehn walking into a clients hotel room and saying "So nice to meet you, please give me a few minutes to sweep for bugs." I mean, I'm gadget mad so I'd be totally cool with it as long as she let me play with the thing afterwards but I imagine a lot of clients would be put off.
 
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wraithfive said:
It's not unheard of for clients to attempt to film their encounters with ladies who very much do not allow filming so I can sort of see giving this gift if I had just happened to walk across it somewhere. I think it would be an odd one to try to track down specifically.

I'm more curious to find out, if it does work, how would you use it? I have this mental image of @Sarah Miehn walking into a clients hotel room and saying "So nice to meet you, please give me a few minutes to sweep for bugs." I mean, I'm gadget mad so I'd be totally cool with it as long as she let me play with the thing afterwards but I imagine a lot of clients would be put off.
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I see. Maybe Donald Trump should have used this in Russia :D
 
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Frenchy said:
I see. Maybe Donald Trump should have used this in Russia :D
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I'd bet his security did. The difference in pros versus amateurs is the pros have someone running the camera and thus can turn it off while the bug sweep is going on ;)
 
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wraithfive said:
I'd bet his security did. The difference in pros versus amateurs is the pros have someone running the camera and thus can turn it off while the bug sweep is going on ;)
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So who out-proed the others, in your opinion?
 
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So who out-proed the others, in your opinion?
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Getting off topic again, but I'd pick whatever the KGB is called these days (can't say I keep up with the names of Russian Federal Intelligence agencies) over a real estate mogul/reality tv star's private security any day. Now that he's president, they might be on an even playing field, but no way his private team had a chance against the home team in Russia.
 
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wraithfive said:
Getting off topic again, but I'd pick whatever the KGB is called these days (can't say I keep up with the names of Russian Federal Intelligence agencies) over a real estate mogul/reality tv star's private security any day. Now that he's president, they might be on an even playing field, but no way his private team had a chance against the home team in Russia.
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That's exactly what I think too
 
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So, basically. What I'm getting as the overall consensus is that wishlists are still OK across the board, but becomes to look tacky when there are too many(according to the viewer's perception on what is too many) luxury/designer goods, or things that are just so extravagant.

impish said:
No what she is saying is that some women don't want gifts and would rather that any money spent on gifts for them be given to charity. She simply mentions a couple charities that are dear to her and would make a good place to donate.
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Thank you! You are very concise.
 
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TAG Manager said:
That's just ludicrous.

But, it happens! I know a Tokyo escort who was offered a luxury car with 8m+ yen. Out of modesty, she turned it down... Another girl, lives in a nice apartment in central tokyo that is largely funded by her rich Japanese sugar daddy. (As such, she's basically quit escorting with the deal she has in place now.)

I think gift lists are okay, but asking for large ticket items to have as a status symbol are just plain nuts.

Call me old fashioned, but a girl's' modesty makes her all that more attractive.
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Hahahahaha wow, lucky girl! Yeah I'm pretty pragmatic, I think it's ridiculous to ask for such items - I'm unlikely to get them, AND I would sound so entitled. I love being spoiled(who doesn't) but I enjoy working for my money more.
 
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Sarah Miehn said:
I dont have a wishlist mainly because I am lazy and I would love to be surprised, but I got awesome gifts ranging from a witty postcard, a flower, Reeses PB cups to stays at Mandarin Oriental(thanks!), a week long vacation to Sydney, a spy cam detector!!!!(how sweet!!)

If you want to have a wishlist on your website, then do it. I dont think you need to worry about whether clients are going to like it or not because most people dont even look at it. I often look at it when I am meeting a provider for the first time to see what they like so that I can bring a small gift! Clients that really like you, know you and you really connect with will know what you like or need anyway, so I dont really feel the need though. Up to you!

To @Frenchy about "fake diamonds for fake feelings", I feel like that is somewhat harsh thing to say. Its a written form of communication, so I am not sure if I am getting the wit behind it, but assuming that a provider will give you "fake feelins" is not the best mindset you can have for yourself or for the provider in my experience.

Gifts are never expected, but I believe it does make a difference. Providers whether its a she or he are all human, and who doesnt like to be treated nicely? I buy gifts for clients to thank them like a spa coupon or a nice bottle of perfume, and when I meet other providers, I like to bring them gifts as well.

Gift giving is a personal choice, and its perfectly fine to not give gifts because clients give providers business, which itself is a GREAT GIFT. I personally like gift giving only because it makes me feel good when I make other people feel good, and I dont really expect anything in return.
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You lucky girl!!! That's amazing, so happy for you!! :D
Oh yeah, I would hate to give off the impression that something should be given to me off my wishlist. That's just delusional and a reflection of character.
Your last sentence, it's the same for me. I feel good when I make others feel good. It's one of the ways I show that I cherish someone. The best gift you could give is the gift that you know the recipient will feel the happiest receiving (within means)
 
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If I want to offer a present to a provider, a wishlist is a good starting point. It provides some clue on her favorite brand (lingerie, fragrance...). And you also can discuss with her.
 
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A wishlist is absolutely okay. Anybody who has a problem with the concept is someone you don't want to see anyway.

I would limit it to items worth less than one or two hours of your time. Any more and the guy might feel entitled to extra time or services (which he is absolutely not entitled to). If he wants to buy you more expensive items he'll have to figure that out by spending multiple sessions with you.
 
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akasam said:
A wishlist is absolutely okay. Anybody who has a problem with the concept is someone you don't want to see anyway.

I would limit it to items worth less than one or two hours of your time. Any more and the guy might feel entitled to extra time or services (which he is absolutely not entitled to). If he wants to buy you more expensive items he'll have to figure that out by spending multiple sessions with you.
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Wow! Now you beat Ww at his own game here, congrats! (y)
(You should be an escort PR agent , seriously!)
 
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