Sex Training?

[Merica]

Hey everyone, this is my first post here so I apologize if I’m in the wrong spot or whatever. I’ve been reading a lot on this board and this seems like a really cool community. I love how there are escorts on the board participating in the forums.

Since it’s my first post I’ll introduce myself a bit so you know I’m not some bot. I’m an American in my 40’s who recently got divorced and after years of lame or no sex, came to Japan a few weeks ago and fell in love with the country, and its women. I had about 4 seasons of P4P, all of which I thoroughly enjoyed, including my first threesome. Great times, the Japanese women were super fun and easy going and liked to please me which was appreciated!

I also had an actual date (not P4P) with a women I met when I was there. I don’t speak the language and we were using Google Translate and I brought her back to my room for some fun. So after feeling like a fucking loser in my miserable marriage, I felt like a god in Japan! Really helped my confidence and I felt like I could get back in the game.

Anyway, I’m back home and am seriously considering moving to Japan in the next 3-5 years providing I can sell my company and cash out/retire. I’ll probably have a lot of questions about that too. But that’s for another day.

Here’s the reason for this post: I want to get better at sex.

The next time I’m in Japan, I plan to get coaching from the guy on the board here (Senpai?) on how to pick up women. I’ve read some stuff already. Great shit and I plan to get mentoring on that.

But I also want a sex trainer. I’m not BAD at sex but I think I’m just okay. Especially after having a cold fish as a wife, I’m not where I should be at my age. I mean, I’m freaky and am up for anything if she is and usually try making it exciting. I can go a few rounds in a session and don’t bust a nut in seconds, so I’m not terrible.

But I want to be AMAZING at sex. I want to know how to turn a woman on and give her mind blowing, earth shattering, quivering, squirting, shaking, orgasms that leave her wondering what the fuck just happened. I want to rock worlds.

I’m obviously willing to pay for these lessons. The problem I’ve had so far with escorts is that they always pretend to enjoy it. Sometimes it seems like they really are, sometimes I can tell they are playing it up.

I want one (or several ideally for variety) who can give me HONEST feedback. If I’m not eating her pussy right, I want to know and have her show me how to get better. If I’m not fucking her good, I want to know what I can do better. I want to get to the point where I know what I’m doing and can make women melt. I know I can go to any escort for “practice” but I want TRAINING.

I’m man enough to admit that I could get a lot better at sex and want to train to be a great lover. My question is “Is this specific service available?” Is this something that’s typically done in Japan and how would I go about finding it?

Sorry for the long first post. I’m absolutely serious about this topic and I hope you guys will go easy on a newcomer who is trying to change his life after a really shitty marriage.

Thanks Y’all
Merica

 

[TAG Manager]

You cannot learn chemistry. You can perfect your physical attributes but if there’s no chemistry, it’s not going to be as good as it ever could be.

Having a good experience doesn’t always require it, but having a phenomenal experience does.

Why move to Japan? I hope it’s just not to sleep with people, lol. I’d seriously step back and take a clear look at your objectives. Japan looks all fun and rosy as a tourist, but that all changes when you become a local.

Sure, it’s a fairly nice country but a bunch of people come here and get burned out and wind up leaving. Or, they stay here and become miserable assholes that you see whining year after year.

Just giving some sobering feedback after seeing firsthand what happens to people that don’t think objectively.

Others opinion will vary greatly.

 

[Merica]

You cannot learn chemistry. You can perfect your physical attributes but if there’s no chemistry, it’s not going to be as good as it ever could be.

Having a good experience doesn’t always require it, but having a phenomenal experience does.

Why move to Japan? I hope it’s just not to sleep with people, lol. I’d seriously step back and take a clear look at your objectives. Japan looks all fun and rosy as a tourist, but that all changes when you become a local.

Sure, it’s a fairly nice country but a bunch of people come here and get burned out and wind up leaving. Or, they stay here and become miserable assholes that you see whining year after year.

Just giving some sobering feedback after seeing firsthand what happens to people that don’t think objectively.

Others opinion will vary greatly.

Thanks for the quick reply. Obviously I can do this in the USA but I really liked the vibe of Japan. And I’m incredibly turned on by Japanese women FROM Japan, not Americanized Japanese women. I think the cultural thing is what turns me on so much.

Anyway, forget about my maybe moving there. I’m perfectly happy to visit there plenty, enough that I feel compelled to learn much more about how things work through this website. And start learning the language.

Has no one else asked this question before? I’d think it would be somewhat common if guys are trying to get good with women.

 

[Merica]

Why move to Japan? I hope it’s just not to sleep with people, lol. I’d seriously step back and take a clear look at your objectives. Japan looks all fun and rosy as a tourist, but that all changes when you become a local.

Sure, it’s a fairly nice country but a bunch of people come here and get burned out and wind up leaving. Or, they stay here and become miserable assholes that you see whining year after year.

Just giving some sobering feedback after seeing firsthand what happens to people that don’t think objectively.
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Just out of curiosity, why do things change so much when you move there? I could see trouble if you’re a foreigner and competing with locals in the business world or whatever. But if you have plenty of money, is it not a blast to live there? Tokyo is so huge, I felt like I’d never run out of things to do...

 

[Frenchy]

Hmmmm... a typical Japanese P4P lady may be too « polite » to provide honest feedback and teaching requires specific skills whatever is taught... also there is the language issue...
If I were you (and I’m not: I use P4P precisely because I don’t want to care about my performance ) , I’d book a foreign indie with long enough experience and good communication skills . Probably Simonka or Anna. Come to think of it Manami is Japanese but could probably be an excellent teacher too.
Would be fun to watch you guys alternate theory and practice, from the blackboard to the bed. Heck I would even pay part of the bill just to attend the lessons!

 

[Merica]

Would be fun to watch you guys alternate theory and practice, from the blackboard to the bed. Heck I would even pay part of the bill just to attend the lessons!

Ha! That might give me performance anxiety. Better let me get a few lessons in to get my confidence up.

I guess we can see if any of the ladies chime in if this training is something they’d attempt...

 

[TAG Manager]

I’m gong to speak out against booking an escort to learn with. That’s not really something that they provide. You are booking an escort so they can please you, not the other way around. Guys that book escorts for this wind up getting disappointed.

Just out of curiosity, why do things change so much when you move there? I could see trouble if you’re a foreigner and competing with locals in the business world or whatever. But if you have plenty of money, is it not a blast to live there? Tokyo is so huge, I felt like I’d never run out of things to do...

It’s not about how much money you have - you either come here and integrate into society or sit in a foreigner bubble with other foreigners that can’t function outside of the bubble. A lot of people fail to understand the culture and then assume that everyone hates them or the foreigner expects the locals to bend to his or her wishes... it doesn’t work this way.

I’ve been here for about 15 years and I still need to take 2 months out of the year and stay out of Japan. For the other 10 months, I’m happy as a clam. But I speak Japanese relatively well (improvement always needed) so life is easy for me, usually. Still... it’s not nearly as fun here as it was when I came here on visits prior to committing to bringing my skills to work here.

Too many times... I heard the line “Japan will solve my problem if I move there....”

 

[Frenchy]

Ha! That might give me performance anxiety. Better let me get a few lessons in to get my confidence up.

I guess we can see if any of the ladies chime in if this training is something they’d attempt...

Oh believe me, I am probably the guy with least chances to give you any performance anxiety
Could be an ego-booster, on the contrary
And I don’t heckle, its rude

 

[Merica]

I’m gong to speak out against booking an escort to learn with. That’s not really something that they provide. You are booking an escort so they can please you, not the other way around. Guys that book escorts for this wind up getting disappointed.

So... any ideas on how to train up? Do I have to try to find a Japanese girlfriend who is super outgoing and communicative?

It’s not about how much money you have - you either come here and integrate into society or sit in a foreigner bubble with other foreigners that can’t function outside of the bubble. A lot of people fail to understand the culture and then assume that everyone hates them or the foreigner expects the locals to bend to his or her wishes... it doesn’t work this way.

I’ve been here for about 15 years and I still need to take 2 months out of the year and stay out of Japan. For the other 10 months, I’m happy as a clam. But I speak Japanese relatively well (improvement always needed) so life is easy for me, usually. Still... it’s not nearly as fun here as it was when I came here on visits prior to committing to bringing my skills to work here.

Too many times... I heard the line “Japan will solve my problem if I move there....”

Well I definitely got along really well with everyone. I liked chatting it up with the Japanese dudes at the bars. Maybe I was amusing as an American (and they could practice English) but they genuinely seemed to enjoy talking and drinking and sharing ideas. In fact, if the Japanese guys were assholes, I wouldn’t want to go there. But I found them to be really warm and welcoming, much more than most other countries I’ve been (25 or 30 so far now). So integration would be the idea for sure, but it would be cool to have expat/foreigner friends too. I’m pretty laid back and have a lot of hobbies so I think I could make friends.

Overall I found that I really liked being around hard-working, polite, respectful, friendly people in a safe, clean, efficient country. I felt like I was “coming home” when I was in Japan. I guess it may be fairly common but that was my experience.

 

[Sudsy]

You really need to dial it back about 30% there

I remember this feeling from back in my early days mongering when I met an Italian escort, and convinced myself that I was enamoured of Italy and Italian women, to the point that I started learning Italian.

Fortunately I came to my senses before I tried to move to Italy.

Great times, the Japanese women were super fun and easy going and liked to please me which was appreciated!

I hate to burst your bubble, but you paid them to please you and act like they enjoyed it. And they did their job. Apparently a little too well.

Anyway, I’m back home and am seriously considering moving to Japan in the next 3-5 years

Really, that’s not what you want to do. Not if you're at an age where you can talk about cashing out and retiring. You want to visit here on the regular, not live here.

You’re getting your first taste of happiness after a long and crappy marriage, and it tastes great - and you just happened to taste it in Japan. Try a few more flavours! I can recommend Italian for sure... and a little Thai is always bound to spice up your life.

 

[Merica]

Thanks Sudsy,

Sound advice for sure and I do love Italy as well. I guess I really liked how exotic Japan was. Europe and America are similar in a lot of ways. Japan was not. I liked South America too for being exotic but it’s not as civilized or safe as Japan. Maybe I’ll never move there. You guys are making it sound like it would be a mistake. At this point there are no plans and so anything is on the table.

Ultimately in referencing the original reason for the post, I just want to be a good lay. So anywhere in the world I go I could sample the local women and leave them satisfied...

Can’t P4P all the time. Would rather be a really good PUA but in order to get repeat dates you need to be good in bed, thus my original problem.

I’m sure I could find this in Vegas but it doesn’t excite me as rocking some hot Japanese woman until she’s seeing stars.

 

[Sudsy]

I liked South America too

Go back and try a Colombian girl!

 

[TAG Manager]

Sound advice for sure and I do love Italy as well. I guess I really liked how exotic Japan was. Europe and America are similar in a lot of ways. Japan was not. I liked South America too for being exotic but it’s not as civilized or safe as Japan. Maybe I’ll never move there. You guys are making it sound like it would be a mistake. At this point there are no plans and so anything is on the table.

It’s about moving for the right reasons instead of the wrong ones. We’re just keeping a taste of reality here, not trying to paint a picture of misery.

Overall I found that I really liked being around hard-working, polite, respectful, friendly people in a safe, clean, efficient country. I felt like I was “coming home” when I was in Japan. I guess it may be fairly common but that was my experience.

That’s the public face of Japan. Safe, clean, efficient and good service - yes. Hard working? Nope. That’s a facade that they sell people. I have guys in my group that simply stay in the office late and pretend to work to look good to their superiors or they just don’t want to go home to their wives or families...

 

[just4fun]

Tokyo is so huge, I felt like I’d never run out of things to do...

Everything gets boring after awhile..........Tokyo is a big city but then again it's all the same.

 

[Anna Summer]

While I personally don’t mind showing someone inexperienced/virgin a bit the ropes of sex, I think it’s a far stretch to compare that to a sex lesson or anything similar. I’d also like to mention that every woman is different. What may blow away one might be super boring for the other one or the other way around.
Sex is a lot about communication with each other and even tho it might be embarrassing for a lot; it’s always good to ask what feels good or what she doesn’t like.

 

[MikeH]

Everything gets boring after awhile..........Tokyo is a big city but then again it's all the same.

And exotic? I am way more excited the few times I have to travel to the USA. Everything there is so new and strange.

 

[MikeH]

What comes to the getting better at sex thing I would recommend getting a gf or a friend with benefits and then rinse and repeat.

As said by others the professional escorts are in the pleasure business, not being pleasured.

Moreover everyone is different so what works for one girl doesn't work for the next one. And finding out what works will probably be more of a trial and error than some secret techniques.

 

[just4fun]

Here's a tip

 

[Simonka]

If you would like to get better at sex, just be good company and pay attention to the lady.. Every woman is wired differently and what works for someone may not work for another person.

Are you sure you genuinely would like to give her orgasms or what you’re looking for is the gratification you get from being able to make someone climax?

Personally it’s a huge turn off for me when someone is 100% positive that he will be able to make me shiver, quiver and squirt. I do not have a button that you can press in order to make me come..

It’s mostly mental for me and I had the most earth shaking orgasms with people with whom I’ve felt comfortable, had an intellectual connection or people who made me feel at ease. As simple as that.. I also do not believe in comparing my pleasure vs. his pleasure, sex is meant for at least two people and the boundaries between individual pleasure are very blurred. However, Japanese fuzoku industry generally focuses on male pleasure and sexual gratification: it might appeal to a certain niche but mostly the “seizures” you get to see in the end aren’t real..

 

[TAG Manager]

So... any ideas on how to train up? Do I have to try to find a Japanese girlfriend who is super outgoing and communicative?

Get a girlfriend you can communicate with. I will tell you with first-hand knowledge that having a communication barrier doesn't bode well for getting that connection that @Simonka talks about above. Find someone that you can actually communicate with and develop yourself with practice over time.

 

[SatoKM]

Hey everyone, this is my first post here so I apologize if I’m in the wrong spot or whatever. I’ve been reading a lot on this board and this seems like a really cool community. I love how there are escorts on the board participating in the forums.

Since it’s my first post I’ll introduce myself a bit so you know I’m not some bot. I’m an American in my 40’s who recently got divorced and after years of lame or no sex, came to Japan a few weeks ago and fell in love with the country, and its women. I had about 4 seasons of P4P, all of which I thoroughly enjoyed, including my first threesome. Great times, the Japanese women were super fun and easy going and liked to please me which was appreciated!

I also had an actual date (not P4P) with a women I met when I was there. I don’t speak the language and we were using Google Translate and I brought her back to my room for some fun. So after feeling like a fucking loser in my miserable marriage, I felt like a god in Japan! Really helped my confidence and I felt like I could get back in the game.

Anyway, I’m back home and am seriously considering moving to Japan in the next 3-5 years providing I can sell my company and cash out/retire. I’ll probably have a lot of questions about that too. But that’s for another day.

Here’s the reason for this post: I want to get better at sex.

The next time I’m in Japan, I plan to get coaching from the guy on the board here (Senpai?) on how to pick up women. I’ve read some stuff already. Great shit and I plan to get mentoring on that.

But I also want a sex trainer. I’m not BAD at sex but I think I’m just okay. Especially after having a cold fish as a wife, I’m not where I should be at my age. I mean, I’m freaky and am up for anything if she is and usually try making it exciting. I can go a few rounds in a session and don’t bust a nut in seconds, so I’m not terrible.

But I want to be AMAZING at sex. I want to know how to turn a woman on and give her mind blowing, earth shattering, quivering, squirting, shaking, orgasms that leave her wondering what the fuck just happened. I want to rock worlds.

I’m obviously willing to pay for these lessons. The problem I’ve had so far with escorts is that they always pretend to enjoy it. Sometimes it seems like they really are, sometimes I can tell they are playing it up.

I want one (or several ideally for variety) who can give me HONEST feedback. If I’m not eating her pussy right, I want to know and have her show me how to get better. If I’m not fucking her good, I want to know what I can do better. I want to get to the point where I know what I’m doing and can make women melt. I know I can go to any escort for “practice” but I want TRAINING.

I’m man enough to admit that I could get a lot better at sex and want to train to be a great lover. My question is “Is this specific service available?” Is this something that’s typically done in Japan and how would I go about finding it?

Sorry for the long first post. I’m absolutely serious about this topic and I hope you guys will go easy on a newcomer who is trying to change his life after a really shitty marriage.

Thanks Y’all
Merica

If you want so honest advises, here I go:

First of all, if your main reason to move to Japan and sell your company is in order to enjoy P4P in Japan, please do not do it!
Japan from the tourist point of view, is like heaven on earth but when you start living in Japan, everything is different. Life in Japan is hard, very hard! It's difficult for me to explain, but Japan is not a "walk on the park".

There is no actual manual on how to me "AMAZING at sex". Every woman is different. Some women like things that others dislike.

Regarding finding someone (an escort to "practice") that will not work! Escorts work focusing IN YOUR PLEASURE not theirs! Their goal is to please you, not the other way around. Even if you find an escort that will be 100% honest with you, and evaluate and grade your sexual performance..... She will be totally useless, as she will tell grade you based on her personal's sexual satisfaction and preferences!

 

[impish]

I travelled to and from Japan for 10 years. Every year I'd vacation here. It was my dream to live here. I am here. I have been here for 8 years. While I still love the country a lot of what @TAG Manager says is true. Living in Japan is not the same as Visiting Japan. After the first year, you will feel a change that Japan is somehow different. When you're a tourist here you can pretty much get away with anything (within reason of course), but as a resident, you are expected to follow the rule of order. My suggestion, come live on a tourist visa for 3 months. Figure out if it's what you really want before you dedicate the funds to trying to make a permanent move (which btw is not easy) unless you're married to someone who is Japanese.

 

[impish]

Here's a tip

Man, I miss him, such a talent lost at such a young age.

 

[just4fun]

I travelled to and from Japan for 10 years. Every year I'd vacation here. It was my dream to live here. I am here. I have been here for 8 years. While I still love the country a lot of what @TAG Manager says is true. Living in Japan is not the same as Visiting Japan. After the first year, you will feel a change that Japan is somehow different. When you're a tourist here you can pretty much get away with anything (within reason of course), but as a resident, you are expected to follow the rule of order. My suggestion, come live on a tourist visa for 3 months. Figure out if it's what you really want before you dedicate the funds to trying to make a permanent move (which btw is not easy) unless you're married to someone who is Japanese.

Well said.

 

[Thoriumwalker]

Hey everyone, this is my first post here so I apologize if I’m in the wrong spot or whatever. I’ve been reading a lot on this board and this seems like a really cool community. I love how there are escorts on the board participating in the forums.

Since it’s my first post I’ll introduce myself a bit so you know I’m not some bot. I’m an American in my 40’s who recently got divorced and after years of lame or no sex, came to Japan a few weeks ago and fell in love with the country, and its women. I had about 4 seasons of P4P, all of which I thoroughly enjoyed, including my first threesome. Great times, the Japanese women were super fun and easy going and liked to please me which was appreciated!

I also had an actual date (not P4P) with a women I met when I was there. I don’t speak the language and we were using Google Translate and I brought her back to my room for some fun. So after feeling like a fucking loser in my miserable marriage, I felt like a god in Japan! Really helped my confidence and I felt like I could get back in the game.

Anyway, I’m back home and am seriously considering moving to Japan in the next 3-5 years providing I can sell my company and cash out/retire. I’ll probably have a lot of questions about that too. But that’s for another day.

Here’s the reason for this post: I want to get better at sex.

The next time I’m in Japan, I plan to get coaching from the guy on the board here (Senpai?) on how to pick up women. I’ve read some stuff already. Great shit and I plan to get mentoring on that.

But I also want a sex trainer. I’m not BAD at sex but I think I’m just okay. Especially after having a cold fish as a wife, I’m not where I should be at my age. I mean, I’m freaky and am up for anything if she is and usually try making it exciting. I can go a few rounds in a session and don’t bust a nut in seconds, so I’m not terrible.

But I want to be AMAZING at sex. I want to know how to turn a woman on and give her mind blowing, earth shattering, quivering, squirting, shaking, orgasms that leave her wondering what the fuck just happened. I want to rock worlds.

I’m obviously willing to pay for these lessons. The problem I’ve had so far with escorts is that they always pretend to enjoy it. Sometimes it seems like they really are, sometimes I can tell they are playing it up.

I want one (or several ideally for variety) who can give me HONEST feedback. If I’m not eating her pussy right, I want to know and have her show me how to get better. If I’m not fucking her good, I want to know what I can do better. I want to get to the point where I know what I’m doing and can make women melt. I know I can go to any escort for “practice” but I want TRAINING.

I’m man enough to admit that I could get a lot better at sex and want to train to be a great lover. My question is “Is this specific service available?” Is this something that’s typically done in Japan and how would I go about finding it?

Sorry for the long first post. I’m absolutely serious about this topic and I hope you guys will go easy on a newcomer who is trying to change his life after a really shitty marriage.

Thanks Y’all
Merica

Hey Merica, I hope you find what you looking for.I was in a very similar situation , I got married at an early age , my first wife was Colombian she was HOT , but sex was subpar, sex was only an obligation for her. After 5 years we got divorced and I moved to Japan, best decision of my life , just like you, I felt like a God , at first I thought it was because I'm a foreigner , then I realized that I was a different man confident, experienced and FREE.
During one of my adventures I met my wife, her sex appetite was insatiable. We've done threesome's, Cockhold, BONDAGE,sexin a elevator, family restaurant, Karaoke you name it. Who would thought I had to travel across the globe to find my sex freaky soulmate. My advice to you EXPERIMENT, be sincere and be open in your next relationship. You are a free man now. And don't trust P4P for feedback. As my dad always told me PRACTICE makes PERFECT. CHEERS