I read the article, and sorry, Frenchy, it seems to be another one of those women who sit up at night worrying if she's good enough. She's making generalizations and expecting everyone to fit into her anxiety filled world. She seems to be another messed-up person who decided to become an "expert" in psychology in order to compensate for her own inadequacies.
That was my first impression, so I did a little research on the author, Dr. Pam Spurr. Turns out she struggles massively with OCD. I understand that all of us have issues, but we don't, at least the emotionally balanced, decide we are an authority on Living and promptly becoming a relationship know-it-all. (Frenchy excluded, hehe.)
This Life
Pam Spurr on her battle with obsessive compulsive disorder
After ten years of a difficult and unhappy relationship, my acrimonious divorce catapulted me into what felt like a very unsafe world, where I was the sole protector and provider for my two children, seven and ten.
Despite wonderful support from family and friends, I felt extremely alone – particularly at night, when I would beat myself up over the way I had handled things. Could I have managed my marital problems better? What effect would they have on my children? Would tough love have sorted out my ex’s bad behaviour? Would a healthy dose of scepticism have helped me see through his lies? Any illusions that my ex, whom I divorced on the grounds of his unreasonable behaviour, might attempt to create some post-break-up harmony were shattered by his unreliability and animosity towards me.
Gradually, my anxious thoughts started to erode my peace of mind. Where once I used to tuck up my children in bed, then pour a glass of wine and relax with a book, the nightly routine became an ordeal. What started as sensible memory-jogging about whether I’d locked all the doors gradually turned into obsessive worrying. I’d go to bed, then get up again to check the locks one more time.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-1020388/This-Life.html#ixzz577x5Y3fF
So, as a truly uncertified, and for that matter, unverified authority on psychological disorders, I prescribe the following remedy for her...
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