If you want to believe that's what PUA is.. go ahead ^^
Seems like people in here are fond of telling me what PUA is without really knowing much about it in practice anyway..
No, its another, different level of examination. We examined it morally - I totally sure of myself and that there is nothing morally reprehensible about what I'm doing. If you want to debate that, everyone is going to first have to roll back the random assumptions you make like "negging = insults" and "PUA = manipulation" before we can come to a meaningful debate about it. I was stepping out of the "moral" debate for a second to put on my pure utilitarian hat. Namely - from a purely scientific perspective, PUA WORKS and you have to explain that.. I think this is why people latch onto the "manipulation" storyline. It's easier to believe that it is manipulation than that guys can actually learn to get better with women. The second makes men who aren't working on themselves feel lazy, and women feel vulnerable that they might be attracted to guys who "work on something vague like PUA to get better with women." What they don't understand really, is that PUA is fundamentally about becoming a better man, NOT about getting a woman.
The way the conversation has been going is basically the same as if I said I am a Muslim and people started coming in and calling me a terrorist, woman-oppressor or heathen simply because of my religion. These are things which, yes the media wishes you to believe, and yes, may be true about a small subset of the population, but are in no way in general to the mass population of by and large peaceful, friendly Muslims.
In other words, yes there are terrorists within the Muslim community. For that matter there are people who use violence to promote ideology no matter what religion they are part of. Similarly, yes there are guys who study PUA and probably manipulate people. No, this is not all PUAs or even the majority. Is PUA morally reprehensible? I don't think so at all. Is it manipulation? Not the way I do it, or even the way most instructors I see teach it.
Are there manipulative guys? Yes, and for the most part these are the guys who are living in scarcity - NOT the PUAs. Generally speaking, the abusive, dark, evil men of the world need no PUA or learning to do their misdeeds. In fact, if they had a better way to connect with women (*cough, talking to them normally like PUAs are taught, cough*), they probably wouldn't feel the need to hit a woman. But they come from a deeply insecure and scarce mentality.
PUA, put simply, is "taking right action to meet women, reflecting on your own thoughts, words, and actions, and improving them where you can." That's it. No manipulation necessary (I think actually, it's quite hard to 'manipulate' women. They are a pretty savvy crew).
People have these massive pervasive misconceptions about PUA because of the current media paradigm that rewards extreme sensationalization, and a very simple mindset knee-jerk reaction like PUA = manipulation or "tricks" is much easier to hold than a more complex, accurate view, much in the same way that thinking "Muslim = terrorist" is simpler and easier, but fundamentally borne out of misunderstanding, not understanding. It's swallowing a media narrative that is just dramatically misrepresenting a large population as its seedier elements. We are in an era of digital lynching, and anyone who gets laid more than society thinks they should are the targets. God forbid we "manipulate" the poor, impressionable club girls who can't take care of themselves and need the added weight of society, media, and white knights around them to do it for them