I was certain it will provoke this kind of response. I think you missed the point by a long shot. All I was trying to show was the reflective nature of the response to an idiotic, hollow and superficial video, that in the first place was not supposed to have caused any response at all. It was provocative, and as such, it brought out so much of the luggage each and every one here carries on his or her own back. I was trying to be provocative in the same sense, so that people will stop acting with the same handicaps they crown others with, and stop calling others "hypocrite", while being exactly the same.
As I said before, I come from a country with the worst rate and intensity of sex-trafficking in the modern "civilized" world. I have worked closely with organizations fighting this ugly industry. I have, and still am, involved in projects of rehabilitation for women who were drawn into this world, not by force and rape, but by their tragic life-stories. So when people try and draw a line between a party-girl who decides to leverage her "assets" into an income, it has nothing to do with the industry, and it raises other questions, which are all morally subjective, and are a matter of exchange of opinions. But when people here leave Tokyo and go to Bangkok, Jakarta, any on the Vietnam cities and every other corner of the developing world, they don't have the luxury of coming across independent women, who at least try and get full grip on their lives (regardless of their success rate. That, again, is none of anyone's business). But when they call themselves by forgiving names, they also name their victims (and trust me, you would not stop crying if you heard these stories) by cute names, such as "spinners". And that was the target of my statement. It's definitely not about you, so don't get all emotional on me. It's possibly not about any of the girls people on this forum meet in Tokyo. But you confine yourself to the elite clientele of Tokyo. Some of these dudes pound mercilessly young women in Asian cities, without the minimum courtesy of trying to ask or verify where they came from, and what has brought them into this line of work.
You don't need to get raped in order to enter life as a sex-worker. You don't even have to be molested. It's helpful, but not even necessary to have self image that is lower than the dead sea. But take the combination of any of the above, put on top the structure and power play of the societies from which they come, add their respective life-story, and you start getting a picture that is far from the flattering image of "punters" and "spinners".
And I was not even talking about sex-trafficking. That's the easy "we-don't-do-it-it's-immoral" shit. But how can you know? You start to know, when you make distinctions. You, my dear, are a true escort (for the matter of discussion. It's not about exact definitions, but about distinctions). That means you select your clients, you discuss and determine with them the details of the contract, and you fulfill your end of the bargain. Legitimate? within the confines of this discussion, 100%. At the other hand, there those "spinners", and they are in ZERO leverage over their lives. They are operated, driven to their work by people who take advantage over their situation. You don;t know that when you visit them. They don't cry. They just try and make it through their days. And when people call them cute names, and are giving themselves slack for "giving pleasure" to a "spinner", they have no idea what is running in the background. And they don't WANT to know. So they hide behind these "euphemisms". It doesn't make it right, dear Alice. I am not judging ANY girl or woman who enters this world, willingly, forcefully, by means of manipulation or by life itself. I do, however, tend to see many of the men I meet, here, on other sites and in closed discussions, as much much more hypocrites than the one loser provocateur who published a no-good two-bit provocation of a video, that has touched so many open nerves here.
Hope I'm just a tad clearer.
