maybe that doesn't apply to Japanese men, cause hostess clubs are still populare here.You are missing a fundamental difference between talking and fucking. Most men, not all but most, can enjoy sex even if they know that the woman is doing it for money and not really enjoying it. Conversation, on the other hand is different. Most men, not all but most, don’t enjoy having a woman forcing and faking and acting like they are enjoying talking to you. This is all arguable. But it is mostly true. This is why pay for sex is world wide popular activity, but hostess clubs and pay for talk is, comparativly, pretty minor.
Yeah it's way easier to have social time with a non working girl than sex time with her, so although you have every right to ask for a fee for your social time I understand why people are saying it doesn't make sense from the client point of view.But, from escort pov, if you want our "1 hour" social time, at the same time, we're not being able to give out that slot, to miss the opportunity of more expensive p4p session. We give out our time, please respect our time, that we're giong it out for you.
That is different from "girls in general", they're used to not paid, and feel rather offended for "being paid" for non escorts. I think people who can get a date without paying, go for hook ups, internet hook ups.street walker hook ups.
The more you get from a regular girl, you're the winner!
Is it your considered opinion after 20, 30+ years of life that most men don't like it when women flatter them, laugh at their jokes, make or tolerate flirtation and sexual innuendos ...?Most men, not all but most, don’t enjoy having a woman forcing and faking and acting like they are enjoying talking to you. This is all arguable. But it is mostly true.
I think you're fooling yourself. Every waitress and bartender (even the guys) around the world (especially but not exclusively in tipping countries) knows that an attractive, chatty server will make more money than a dull, businesslike server. Make no mistake, you are paying for them to put up with your bullshit.This is why pay for sex is world wide popular activity, but hostess clubs and pay for talk is, comparativly, pretty minor.
Yuriko, I think you're making a mistake by putting escorts in a different category.But, from escort pov, if you want our "1 hour" social time, at the same time, we're not being able to give out that slot, to miss the opportunity of more expensive p4p session. We give out our time, please respect our time, that we're giong it out for you.
That is different from "girls in general", they're used to not paid, and feel rather offended for "being paid" for non escorts. I think people who can get a date without paying, go for hook ups, internet hook ups.street walker hook ups.
Yeah it's way easier to have social time with a non working girl than sex time with her, so although you have every right to ask for a fee for your social time I understand why people are saying it doesn't make sense from the client point of view.
That said the market doesn't need sense, the offer and the demand justify each other.
Thanks Yuriko for adding an intelligent female’s point of view.
I feel sorry for themAlot of clients ask me for social time after met for my session, sadly, those clients they don't find the difference with working girl VS non working girl. They just want to offer dinner but not aware of they will take time from us, thus I can't make more money than I want! I'm grateful for the offer, but clients should be aware of, there are lots of clients willing to meet a providers for regular sessions!!
it takes social "skills" that you don't seem open to acquire"find an attractive girl willing to have social time with you for free? " I would be interested....
Please stop the hamfisted reductionist and exaggeration argument techniques. Please. This is supposed to be at least a semi-civil place.Is it your considered opinion after 20, 30+ years of life that most men don't like it when women flatter them, laugh at their jokes, make or tolerate flirtation and sexual innuendos ...?
No, what you are saying applies 100% to sex work also. Only sociopaths want a girl who is clearly disgusted by them. We all pay to have girls pretend that our time with them is more than what it is. If the charade is terrible the experience is also terrible.
I think you're fooling yourself. Every waitress and bartender (even the guys) around the world (especially but not exclusively in tipping countries) knows that an attractive, chatty server will make more money than a dull, businesslike server. Make no mistake, you are paying for them to put up with your bullshit.
The number of women who get paid to talk to men is far greater than those who are paid to suck their dicks. For god's sakes there are Hooters restaurants in Tokyo, Amsterdam and Bangkok, all places where you can easily get prostitutes for whatever.
It is not rocket science to figure out why: guys like have their egos stroked almost as much as their cocks.
I think you are right. Non-sexual paid-for companions and hostess scenes certainly exist in many different forms around the world, but the Japan hostess scene is huge. So why is it so popular here and less popular in other places? I think there are several factors including the way business relationships are created and deals are done outside of the office, the absence of a 1960s women’s liberation movement, the concept of motenashi, would be a few.maybe that doesn't apply to Japanese men, cause hostess clubs are still populare here.
Also on average Japanese married life sucks more than in many other developed countries. Men here need p4p for both sex and « affection » (however fake it is) because (in general) that’s what they don’t get and give in their marriage.I think you are right. Non-sexual paid-for companions and hostess scenes certainly exist in many different forms around the world, but the Japan hostess scene is huge. So why is it so popular here and less popular in other places? I think there are several factors including the way business relationships are created and deals are done outside of the office, the absence of a 1960s women’s liberation movement, the concept of motenashi, would be a few.
Please stop the hamfisted reductionist and exaggeration argument techniques. Please. This is supposed to be at least a semi-civil place.
All people like to be flattered and most will put up with some degree of disingenuous flattery from fakers who have a potential financial gain. But in my observation, the Japan hostess club scenario, where the ladies do nothing but flatter and never say anything rude or challenging is, for the most part, a Japan only scenario. Most enlightened gaijin men don’t really go for it- especially at the exorbitant prices. And for the record, when I go to a bar, I pay for drinks, that’s it. If a genuine, mutually interesting conversation ensues with the bartender, then that is fine. But if I feel that I am getting played for tips or additional drinks, I leave. I might also call the bartender a phoney asshole and tell him to fuck off. You obviously don’t understand the difference between a genuine conversation and a fake one. Maybe you play a lot of video games and watch a lot of porn too?
Finally, back to my first point, you need to stop putting words in people’s mouths. Did I say I like to fuck women who are clearly disgusted by me? No. I said I am realistic with myself and admit to myself that many of the SPs I fuck are not really enjoying it and are only doing it for the money. Is the reality different for you? I think it is.
Well argued point again. I don’t always agree with @warubuta but at least he can justify his arguments in an intelligent way. This is a skill lacking from one or two posters on TAG.
I would argue that the second sentence was unnecessary, condescending, and antagonistic. Somebody slip natto into your breakfast, Mossy?Well argued point again. I don’t always agree with @warubuta but at least he can justify his arguments in an intelligent way. This is a skill lacking from one or two posters on TAG.
Enough with the snippy-sniping posts/comments. Please step away from TAG if you need to take a breather.This is a skill lacking from one or two posters on TAG.
The reason you pay is to get a more attractive girl, a more interesting girl, a girl who would let you come and go as you please, a girl who is not going to make demands of you, a girl who pretends you are more interesting and better at intercourse.
These are all exactly the same reasons for paid sex work and billions of guys do this in one form or another (some times it's just tipping a hot bartender).
That would explain a lot, but it doesn't explain how these guys can so easily detect and be offended by insincere flattery in a bar, but either can't tell or don't care when it's in the bedroom.much like some men seem not to distinguish between sex with one attractive woman and another as long as they get their pop(s).
maybe it's simply because they have more communication difficulties and guys here are less used to casual talks with strangers.I think you are right. Non-sexual paid-for companions and hostess scenes certainly exist in many different forms around the world, but the Japan hostess scene is huge. So why is it so popular here and less popular in other places? I think there are several factors including the way business relationships are created and deals are done outside of the office, the absence of a 1960s women’s liberation movement, the concept of motenashi, would be a few.
That would explain a lot, but it doesn't explain how these guys can so easily detect and be offended by insincere flattery in a bar, but either can't tell or don't care when it's in the bedroom.
Absolutely. Japanese communication is so formal (historical) and scripted that many need to break out in a completely different setting (lubricated by plenty of alcohol). Of course, every country has this, Japan just takes it to an extreme.maybe it's simply because they {japanese} have more communication difficulties