people are people, a job is a job. I dont think I could be in a exclusive relationship with a SW though.. they would need to stop and find a regular job.
@User#16452
You give your partner the same freedom of choice of multiple sex partners? Just curious.
Most people do not have sex with a number of strangers, almost every day. You can't equate the normal or average situation to what a prostitute is doing.those men she is sleeping with may not be to her liking i guess.. same reason anyone has one night stands i suppose
I agree with this line of thinking.I think it really depends on the situation. A casual/FWB relationship, she can do as she pleases. Anything serious or intended to lead to marriage, I prefer it to turn into something exclusive rather sooner than later. And that is probably a major difficulty, as I would ask her to drop her pretty substantial (and if she is independent probably mostly tax free) disposable income, which most likely she can't replace adequately. Oth I don't want to be a replacement purse only either. Of course there is no obstacle true love can't overcome, but the way there may be significantly more difficult than with a woman in a more standard job.
That being said I have dated both knowingly and unknowingly and also as a former client (all in Japan). I think it is actually of an advantage here, also from the female perspective, that most services here don't involve FS.
I think many guys would feel that an exclusive relationship would be the woman giving up being an escort/prostitution. If not, many guys would feel they are being cheated or the situation is unfair.If we had an open relationship, then both would be free to sleep with anyone they wanted. If it was an exclusive relationship, I'd like to think that my partner would realise that there is a big difference between an escort "date" and a real date.
As much as it might seem otherwise, an escort date will always be smoke and mirrors. To be jealous of an escort working just doesn't make sense. The escort often knows very little about the gentleman before meeting, can't bring up controversial views or challenge the gentleman's thinking in any great way, and must focus all of her efforts in bed to please, sometimes without receieving any pleasure in return.
Escorts provide a "perfect one night stand" service and so money is involved. If they weren't offering something above a normal date, no one would hire them.
I'm curious since you're on this forum, do you visit sex workers yourself? It would be a bit odd to enjoy the fruits of something yet condemn the labours, so to speak.
I think many guys would feel that an exclusive relationship would be the woman giving up being an escort/prostitution. If not, many guys would feel they are being cheated or the situation is unfair.
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The escort might frame it in her mind that "customers" don't count, but the guy may not and that is additional amounts of sex he isn't getting thus it's an unfair to him.
Yes I do when I am single. I don't think it's being hypocrite to use escort services but not wanting to marry one.
Yes and this way of making a living isn't compatible with my values ( but I don't judge it wrong, and wouldn't think negatively of a friend getting married to a sex worker)
If we had an open relationship, then both would be free to sleep with anyone they wanted. If it was an exclusive relationship, I'd like to think that my partner would realise that there is a big difference between an escort "date" and a real date.
As much as it might seem otherwise, an escort date will always be smoke and mirrors. To be jealous of an escort working just doesn't make sense. The escort often knows very little about the gentleman before meeting, can't bring up controversial views or challenge the gentleman's thinking in any great way, and must focus all of her efforts in bed to please, sometimes without receieving any pleasure in return.
Escorts provide a "perfect one night stand" service and so money is involved. If they weren't offering something above a normal date, no one would hire them.
im not asking "the person" to change, i am asking them to take a job which doesnt involve them sharing their bodies with others.. its contingent on them wanting an exclusive relationship with me too of course.
job -/- person are seperate things, hence i can consider a relationship with a sw in the first place
Another thing for j-blair, call me old fashion but for my liking a relationship means only my dick goes in my wife vagina, and even if she would make a difference in her mind between me and her clients I am not ready to accept that my girl gets fucked for a living.
I have never been in open relationship because I like being exclusive.
Again I have nothing against people who adopt a different lifestyle
If we were considering an exclusive relationship and I told you to change careers, would you do so?
You sound like a guy who considers his wife's body his "territory". Things like this are why I'm quite certain I'll never get married.
1. Irrelevant, except if my job is about getting fucked in the ass (who said a salaryman job? )
But yeah I would consider changing career for my partner. And if you think about it it happens quite often when one's get transfer to an office in different city/country the other follows.
2. What do you not understand in exclusive relationship? We belong to each other body&soul (wow that's cheesy). Not a territory.
Then it's not because me or a guy like me wouldn't marry you that no one will. You can get married with someone whose values differ from mine and can accept and support your lifestyle. Those men exists.
@User#16452 Sounds to me like you don't believe in exclusive relationships, or maybe don't want one at this stage..
I do believe in exclusive relationships and would be open to one, however, I just don't believe that any exclusive relationship can last forever, where both partners are completely happy. Certainly, I feel that my priorities in life change every few months as my life goals realign. I think it would be impossible predict what I will want in the future, to know that this will stay the same, but also to know that these goals will be compatible with my partner's. In my case, anyway, I have many things that I want to achieve. My plans for next year alone have made it difficult for me to commit to a relationship this year.
Incidentally, I have not been a supporter of marriage long before I ever became a sex worker. It was actually reading about sexology that changed my views.
"i do believe in them and are open to them"
except deep down i know they can never work because of A, B, C, D, E
wow.. you sound so open to them!
I think you misunderstand. I would be open to one aslong as our personal goals and needs aligned, be it weeks, months, or even a year or two, but I would never commit myself to having to remain in one because of marriage. There are billions of people on this planet, it does not make sense to stay with someone who is making you unhappy. Marriage, however, seems to have been designed in a way that this is common.
There are billions of people on this planet, it does not make sense to stay with someone who is making you unhappy. Marriage, however, seems to have been designed in a way that this is common.
Sometimes it makes sense to stay with a person who is making you unhappy. Because sometimes it means you need to be a better person yourself. And marriage can help you give more time to work on than saying goodbye at the first big crisis.
Of course it happens both ways, and you need to be supportive of your spouse too.
@User#16452 , like escorting for us clients, I think you'll never know for sure what marriage is without trying It's like having kids, it's a journey that can't be just summarized with "whatever"-logy or reading experiences.
As for the OP's questions, yes I could very well date an escort, with all that's implied. I just love the work, so for me it's (or would be) like dating a rock star.
Now you can get tired of dating a rock star but that's another question (oh is it ?).