First off, in general, feminism isn't really about you setting boundaries with your girlfriend. Sexist double standards in society make it more difficult for women to get equal treatment at home (google studies about how much housework is done in each country based on gender), but generally, feminism isn't about measuring who can do what in a relationship. If you think your girlfriend is too demanding, choose another girl.
Secondly, there's an almost hilarious double-standard developing here in these threads. Here is the basic logic: female sex workers cannot be acceptable romantic partners or capable mothers because they have sex for money. This argument is supported by ideas of exclusivity and even evolutionary biology. Exclusivity, sex is an intimate and special act... yes, discussed on a MONGERING BOARD. Irony anyone? Evolutionary biology? I'm not a fan of these theories, but consider this: evolution has allowed humans to ALWAYS know who the mother is (they give birth), but gives us NO IDEA who the father is (women during ovulation tend to have higher sex drives so could have sex multiple times with possibly multiple partners, thus increasing chances of reproducing). According to evolutionary biology, men function mostly as a source of fertilization for the woman's eggs.
Lastly, how about swingers? Would anyone on TAG suggest that women who like to swing are not possible romantic dating material or unfit mothers? But they have sex with lots of different men and they ENJOY IT! In fact, probably a significant number of TAG men would love to date a woman who likes to swing. So is it then because sex workers get paid? Their horrible sin is to offer sexual services and GET PAID. No one answered J.Blair's excellent question regarding sex workers being unfit mothers: does that mean mongers (like ourselves) are unfit fathers? We exchange money for sex with many women. In both cases, what in particular about these activities makes someone unsuitable to be a parent? A single mom turning tricks to provide for her kids instead of making $7.50/hr at McDonald's to live on the edge of homelessness? Is she unfit to be a mother?
Here's where feminist analysis can be useful, to point out such obvious and unfounded double social/moral standards (read: UNEQUAL). Mongers on this board regularly pay for sex, do PUA, and brag about trying fuck almost anything with two legs and tits, AND they want to pass judgement and write off a group of women because these women provide sexual services to these very same mongers. Wow. The gap between logic and morality is a chasm.
First off- No where did anybody define feminism as = boundaries set. What was stated is that men have just as much right to set boundaries in a relationship as women. Feminists make the claim that they are for equality, consequently they should support men's rights and equality too. Of course theory and reality are 2 different things.
And this applies to sexist double standards as well. Speaking of which, I don't remember: women being forced to
sign up for the selective service and draft when they turn 18, men having any legal rights to stop women from aborting his child or giving away his child for adoption, given welfare, avoid jail for failure to pay child support, etc... Clearly many sexist double standards negatively impact men, and how about you use Google to enlighten yourself.
Second, stop with your red herrings and false equivalence arguments. Nobody said that sex workers can't be girlfriends or wives. Rather,
men have the right to choose if they want to be in a relationship with such a woman. Furthermore, a monger is somebody engaging in sex for money occasionally or like a hobby, which is different from somebody that has
sex for money as their main job or is the only marketable job skill that they have. Monger ≠ Sex Worker and Swinger ≠ Sex Worker, and if a person can't understand they aren't the same and different, they are purposely lying or trying to deceptively twist meanings to support a very poor argument.
What would be a better match is Male Porn Star or Gigolo = Female Sex Worker. And most women would arguably have as many reservations about being the girlfriend or wife of a male porn star or gigolo. Why? The woman can feel:
1) A person should have some education or value beyond selling their body
Yes, this is more of a moral judgement, that I personally would NOT make, but some people do. Furthermore, many people view lack of education or marketable job skill as a negative and the person's own fault. If you can do nothing but work at McDonald's then that's nobody's fault but your own. Same for sex work, if that is the only thing you can or want to do.
2) Embarrassed to tell friends and family that their significant other is a sex worker
This can also be a greater issue when introducing the sex worker to parents. People might be fine about lying about the type of work to friends, but lying to your parents is usually considered another level.
3) Feel that the STD risk is unacceptable
In the case of various types of sex workers, their exposure level could be very high, due to the number of customers serviced per day. Furthermore, the boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife would likely being
using no condom in their intimate relationship. So if the sex worker had an accident or mistake and caught an STD, odds increase greatly to pass on to their intimate partners who they don't use condoms with, before it is realized or caught on a test. And
no sex worker is tested every day.
4) Role model to children
A monger or swinger can stop or give up the activity at any time, and it's much easier to hide it. Where a sex worker can't or it would be extremely difficult to stop, as that's their money and main source of income. A sex worker isn't going to bring their child to work, and it's much more difficult to tell children that is what they should aspire to be.
Yes, some people would not have any issues with it, but
both people in a relationship would need to agree on this. You or I can totally disagree with all the reasons given above, but it is not for us to decide what every person must do or think in regards to dating sex workers.
False Equivalence (
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_equivalence). While you are at it, check out what a red herring is too.
You, my friend, are in desperate need of finding out what those means. You then threw in PUA, which has almost nothing to do with a man or woman deciding to have a relationship with a sex worker. No where did you read of any PUAs passing moral judgements on sex workers, nor would every PUA have the same opinion about them.
And then your grand finale- "The gap between logic and morality is a chasm." Really? Dude, I mean really? Please don't pawn off something you think might sound good or you pulled out of your ass, because that was totally irrelevant to the poor arguments you were trying to make.
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