"Your japanese is too good, that's why you're single"
I've heard that many many times over the years, from both japanese female friend and foreigners. Once i've even been told that my japanese was so good that it made me look shady. Some would argue that i should fake a bit that i don't understand japanese to use it ar my advantage. Some say that it makes foreigner look cuter or that being too proficient in Japanese makes me look like someone independent who doesn't need to be taken care of by women. The type that can do anything by himself. I remember a girl that was showing interest in me at la feria in 2009 instantly switched when i tried to converse with her in japanese.
While i agree that broken Japanese is helpful in Roppongi style pickup, because it matches the expectations of the women there, i am a bit lost. Shyness and self consciousness are definitely the buggest contributors to my situation i am a bit confused by this.
What do you think and what is your experience?
I've heard that many many times over the years, from both japanese female friend and foreigners. Once i've even been told that my japanese was so good that it made me look shady. Some would argue that i should fake a bit that i don't understand japanese to use it ar my advantage. Some say that it makes foreigner look cuter or that being too proficient in Japanese makes me look like someone independent who doesn't need to be taken care of by women. The type that can do anything by himself. I remember a girl that was showing interest in me at la feria in 2009 instantly switched when i tried to converse with her in japanese.
While i agree that broken Japanese is helpful in Roppongi style pickup, because it matches the expectations of the women there, i am a bit lost. Shyness and self consciousness are definitely the buggest contributors to my situation i am a bit confused by this.
What do you think and what is your experience?